Click here to index all 15 weeks of “Come With Me,” the Orgasm Challenge. Read on to learn how to orgasm from your mouth, throat, neck, and breath. Learn about the deep breathing orgasm.
🏳️🌈 The information in this article supports expression across the gender spectrum. There are only two sexes, biologically. XX and XY. This week’s orgasms work for both sexes equally. Remember! Orgasms are learned skills, and there are many ways to achieve pleasure available to you.
Mouthgasms are such a pleasure! They can come from stimulation of the lips and tongue through kissing, through oral pleasuring a partner, and through stimulation with a toy such as a vibrator or a dildo.
Your lips have erectile tissue in them, as do your ears and your nose. As you enliven the tissue, blood flows in and expands the surface area. This sends more pleasure signals to your brain, increasing your orgasmic potential. The more you play with your skin, the more sensitive it becomes.
The tip of your tongue is similar to the tip of your penis or clitoris (both are called the glans) and your fingertips. If you think of the tip of your tongue as a clitoris or penis head, you can summon orgasms from tip-to-tip touching.
Long, leisurely make-out sessions incorporating pecks, light bites, licks, slides, nibbles, sucks, and as much variety of sensation as possible on your lips, nose, cheeks, forehead, ears, and neck increase the pleasure of kissing.
The vagina or penis and the breasts and nipples are connected to the mouth sexually in a triumvirate. Stimulating one increases the pleasure of the others. They work together as a system. The more you incorporate all three, the better the overall sexual pleasure. And if you’re not sensitive in one area versus another, when you give the less sensitive area more stimulation, over time, you will activate it too.
Inside your mouth, the place where your mouth begins to turn into your throat is called your oropharynx, just before the circular muscle called your upper esophageal sphincter (UES). That soft area from the back of your mouth down into your throat has susceptible tissue that, when stimulated, can trigger orgasm.
If you’re female, think about your throat as a vagina and the sphincter being the opening to your vagina. If you’re male, think about the sphincter being your glans and corona and your throat being the shaft of your penis. It doesn’t matter whether you’re an “innie” or an “outie,” the pleasure is available to you in your throat to have orgasms.
Like every type of orgasm I’m teaching you in this 15-week orgasm challenge, learning how to orgasm from throat stimulation comes with the practice of activating it. Generally, straight women and gay men have less resistance to achieving throat-gasms because they are more oriented to having penises in their mouths. However, we all own the same equipment, which means you too can have this pleasure if you let go of societal programming and enjoy a dildo or penis in your throat.
The first question that comes up is, what about my gag reflex? The gag reflex is there to protect your breathing. You can avoid this reflex and transmute it into an orgasmic contraction by slowing down and controlling the thrusting. Watch my video on Deep Throating to learn more.
Did you ever give someone a hickey or love bites in high school? Did you suck on their neck and turn them on? The sides of the neck are extremely erogenous as well. Licking, kissing, and sucking on the neck, especially the sides, can be orgasmic. Just be careful that if you leave a mark, it’s light and can heal quickly. These sucking bruises can cause hematomas which go away faster with arnica applied topically.
Holding the neck on the sides without closing off your partner’s airways can also be orgasmic. There is a lot of talk about “choking” because of pornography. Many people assume this is the denial of oxygen or erotic asphyxiation. This is just pornography’s rampant assault on our sexual sensibilities. Many women, and many men, prefer to feel dominated without being put in danger. In this article, I explain how to use dominant neck holds to give people the experience of feeling held by the neck without making them cough or become unable to get air. Depending on the attitude you bring with the neck hold, you can be romantic, secure, dominant, or rough to safely meet your partner’s mood.
If you’ve ever fantasized about a woman dominating you, or you’re a woman who wants to take control, I have a short explainer video to teach you how here.
THE DEEP BREATHING ORGASM
Breath is a gateway to arousal management. You can give yourself orgasms just by breathing. Help yourself come more easily using your breath. You can slow down your urge to ejaculate using your breath. You can awaken your genitals using breath.
The ME Breath is a technique men use to give themselves ejaculatory choices. It combines a squeeze of the PC muscle, a specific type of breathing, with a certain way of rocking the pelvis that lets a guy gas and breaks his ejaculatory response. It is learned during masturbation and used during intercourse. You can learn about the ME Breath here:
Here is a video demonstration of the Orgasmic Breathing technique I use to generate more turn-on. This can be called a Chi Breath for men or Pussy Breathing for women.
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