You already know all the reasons scheduling sex just makes sense. And if you wait for spontaneous passion to erupt, you’re having way less sex than you could be.
Here is a foreplay strategy for turning scheduled sex from awkward to awesome.
BENEFITS OF SCHEDULED SEX
Scheduled sex has infinite benefits:
1) It’s on your calendar, so it’s more likely to happen.
2) You can look forward to the time you’ve blocked off. Anticipation gets you aroused.
3) You can clear the decks for privacy so you can really relax and drop in together.
4) Knowing in advance allows you to handle grooming and preparation ahead of time so you can get right to relaxing into foreplay.
5) Showing up with a great attitude underscores your commitment to your and your partner’s pleasure and prioritizes your intimacy as a couple.
This is time you’re carving out to be completely focused on one another.
Leave enough time for a luxurious warm up and foreplay.
Warm up and foreplay are what turns scheduled sex from awkward to awesome.
Take time to be naked together and feel the warmth of each other’s bodies.
If you’re the masculine, hold your feminine safely and lovingly in your arms so she can relax and get connected to you.
Sometimes it takes getting “stuff” out of the way verbally before you can both relax. Get anything off your chest you must. This isn’t a time to solve problems, it’s a time to acknowledge them if there are any, and put them in “the parking lot” to come back to afterward.
Give yourselves 10-20 minutes to kiss and cuddle and get settled before rushing into sex.
Then take the time to stroke each other’s bodies and awaken your sensual grid of proprioceptors -the sensors that allow you to feel your own body.
Run your hands, lips, breasts, penis… across the skin of your lover.
Work out any kinks, knots or areas of pain that will hold you back from the best orgasmic release possible.
Start deepening your breathing. Breathe together. It will expand your orgasm.
This is a good time for a 5 minute foot rub for the woman. For the man, if he’s ready and would like his penis fondled, now is the time to start.
Consider moving into a sensual massage for her. Rub her belly, thighs, butt, the outside of her vulva, her breasts.
You can kiss her neck, collarbones, and the top of her chest while your beginning to bring warmth to her genitals.
She can be fondling your penis and laying in a base of erect tissue, starting from the root of your penis, under your scrotum.
The more she fondles your penis before lovemaking, the longer you’re likely to last, and the harder and firmer you’ll be.
Don’t hurry. This isn’t a quickie. This is lovemaking you’ve committed to co-create.
From here you can move to oral sex. If you like the oral sex position of 69, that’s a fun way to further engorge each other’s genitals.
Take a break between scenes to rest and catch your breath.
Pacing yourself will make the entire scheduled sex experience feel like you’re on a weekend getaway.
Stop, hold each other, share a few appreciations. Then begin kissing again.
You can make love in a few positions, taking your time to savor each one.
Scheduled sex is also a great time to have a Sandbox Date.
Dr. Patti has created 21 erotic Sandbox Dates inside Expand Her Orgasm Tonight that are perfect for scheduled sex.
Sharing Frames is an example of one of the Sandbox Dates <=== Scheduled Sex Date Idea
By working on your sex life, instead of just having it, you are able to get on the upward pleasure spiral where sex just keeps getting better.
Of course, Expanded Orgasm Dates (also called, DO Dates for “deliberate orgasm”) are the epitome of scheduled sex.
If you can have a DO Date once a week, you will teach her how to come better than ever and she will be able to have multiple orgasms and even orgasms through penetration, because a DO Date does such an miraculous job of engorging a woman’s genitals.
DON’T PRESSURE YOURSELVES
By taking time to connect, hug and warm up your bodies, you’ll feel less pressure to perform during scheduled sex.
The pleasure will come naturally.
Don’t expect that you will be hot and horny at the beginning of your scheduled sex date.
Give yourselves time to connect and all you need to bring is your willingness.
If you have any fun ideas to share with other Insider’s Club members, please do!
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