Thank you for being part of my Orgasm Challenge. This article will explain Blended Orgasms for him and her. If you missed last week’s G-Spot and P-Spot explainer, please read that first. This week we are building on the G and P-Spot material. Read on to learn about the different kinds of orgasms.
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🏳️🌈: The information in this article supports expression across the gender spectrum. There are only two sexes, biologically. XX and XY. Read the section that supports your physical equipment: penis or vulva.
Blended orgasms occur when you simultaneously stimulate the G-Spot and Clitoris of a woman or stimulate the prostate or P-Spot and the penis of a man. Pleasuring both areas in tandem more than doubles your orgasmic pleasure.
Before jumping right into this more intense experience, it’s best to have a good sense of your partner’s touch preferences in each area. These are best done through manual stimulation or a combination of fingers and toys. Adding in oral stimulation is more advanced, so work your way up to it once you know you can easily create orgasms from manual first.
Blended G-Spot and Clitoral Orgasms
The trick to make these female blended orgasms work really well is to visualize sexual energy arcing between the finger that stimulates the external clitoral tip and shaft and the finger(s) stimulating the internal G-Spot.
In last week’s Orgasm Challenge, you saw how the G-Spot is accessed in part through the roof of the vaginal canal. The G-Spot is a tube of erectile tissue that runs above the vaginal canal and ends on the front of the vestibule. See the illustrations on this page to find G-Spot locations #1 and #2.
Put one finger inside her vagina and press up with light pressure and light movement. Put the other finger of the other hand on top of the clitoral area outside of her vagina at the top of her vulva. Incorporate the hood, the shaft, and the glans or tip of the clitoris and stimulate the shaft from underneath the glans or tip of the clitoris.
Imagine that you are sending sexual turn-on, energy, and sensation from the tip of the outside finger through her body to the top of the inside finger. Imagine that your fingers are spreading love into her genitals. She will feel this energy, and it will heighten her pleasure.
G-Spot/Clitoris Blended Orgasm Fingering Techniques
Move both the outside clitoris finger and the inside g-area finger in concert smoothly. Take turns pushing up from inside and then down from the outside. Feel all-around in both locations. Stimulate all the tissue around the tip of her clitoris, including the hood, each side of her clitoral shaft, underneath her clitoral tip up into her shaft from below. Press in with your fingertip to feel the shaft of her clitoris and put your intention on making it grow and get firm all the way around. It is just like a penis. The shaft and glans become erect, which makes orgasms feel better. The more plumpness from stimulation and blood flow, the more pleasure signals go to her brain, intensifying her orgasms.
Use lots of organic oil, such as avocado, jojoba, or sweet almond. You want this to be a slippery, pleasurable stimulation. If you need to adjust your hands, do so slowly. Don’t make any sudden moves. As the giver, you need to make sure you are in a comfortable position ahead of time so you can take as long as she needs to achieve orgasmic bliss.
Using pillows to prop yourselves up so you’re both relaxed, having soft, clean towels, a big bottle of organic oil, nice music, the right lighting and temperature, and freshwater sets a loverspace for relaxation. Arousal must begin in a foundation of relaxation to achieve the peak heights of orgasmic ecstasy we are going for with this Orgasm Challenge.
Use very light pressure as you warm up and engorge the G-Spot inside and clitoral structure outside. The lighter the touch you can get your partner to respond to, the longer you can deliver orgasmic sensation without overstimulating her nervous system.
Alternate between pressing down from the top of the clitoral area and pushing up from the internal vagina. The clitoris is not just that nub you see under the hood. That’s merely the beginning of a deep root of erectile tissue that embraces the vagina.
Part of the magic of the Blended Orgasm is that she gets deep stimulation on nearly her entire clitoral and urethral erectile systems. Once her clit boner pops, you’ll see her internal G-Spot ballooning of the top of her vagina. At this point, you’re making good progress. It takes about 20 minutes for her engorgement to swell up her tissues. So, she has the erectile tumescence needed to achieve pleasurable orgasms.
You have one finger on her clitoris outside and one finger on her internal G-Spot. From there, provide fingering techniques over those two areas. You can get a whole series of manual G-Spot stroking techniques in Female Liquid Orgasm. And you can add even more clitoral and G-Spot fingering techniques from our Steamy Sex Ed™ Video Collection. You can’t think up all the strokes. It’s best to watch examples and remember them. That way, you have an endless variety of ways to slide, tap, pulse, circle, swirl, knead, and on.
It’s imperative to start with a full genital massage to warm up the entire vulva. Don’t start the Blended Orgasm stroke before getting her vulva engorged. She needs the blood to plump up her erectile tissue so that every touch feels incredible.
The Amish have a saying, “The hurrier I go, the behinder I get.” This means that trying to jump in and give her blended orgasms will produce less pleasure than slowly warming up her vulva with massage, bringing blood flow in, relaxing her ramping up the stimulation without any time pressure, and then moving to the internal/external finger pleasuring experience.
Giving Yourself Blended Orgasms
A new sex toy from Womanizer called the Duo simultaneously uses airflow on the clitoris while vibrating the G-Spot internally. This is a great way to improve your blended orgasmic response during solo pleasure. It’s even more heavenly when a partner “drives” your orgasm so you can completely relax.
Use the Duo a few times a week between partnered pleasuring to keep your clitoris and your g-area engorged and responsive.
Integrated Blended Orgasms Into Your Foreplay
The Blended Orgasm is a wonderful technique that dovetails from a Yoni (vulva) massage. It can be combined with G-Spot Awakening, Female Ejaculation, and Expanded Orgasm techniques.
Blended orgasms are a melting, double pleasure technique that thrill women, often leading to a release of divine nectar, her female ejaculate. I’ll explain how to have a female ejaculatory orgasm in week six of the Come With Me: 20 Ways To Orgasm Challenge. Get on our sex tips by email newsletter here to receive these weekly orgasm challenges.
For now, practice the clitoral orgasm, the G-spot orgasm, and now the blended orgasm. Comment below with any experiences you’d like to share or questions you have. Let’s get on to our male-bodied partner’s pleasure with the Blended Orgasm for Him, the P-Spot, and Penis Pleasuring Orgasm.
Blended P-Spot and Penis Pleasuring Orgasms
Simultaneously stimulating his P-Spot and penis provides an orgasmic experience he won’t achieve with only penile stimulation.
The P-Spot is actually his prostate gland. I explain all about the prostate muscle, where it is, and locate it in the P-Spot Orgasm Challenge Week #2. Start with P-Spot pleasuring before adding the second hand on the second part. You need to be dexterous and have enough muscle memory to stimulate his P-Spot and penis separately before combining them. Keep working on your lingam massage (penis massage by hand) skills and P-Spot pleasuring at other times of the week. Give this a try knowing you will get better and the goal is to co-create pleasure. Take the pressure off each other, explore and have fun.
My Suggested Warm Up and Pleasuring Routine
A man can warm up his own prostate using a finger or prostate tool. His partner can either wear a dildo and harness. He can control the speed and depth in the missionary position, or his partner can control the penetration in doggie style. Or his partner can use a finger or prostate tool. The stand out tools I recommend are:
Limba Flex or Amor dildo and Joque Harness for pegging. EZ Reach Prostate Probe with Remote Control for solo and couples play. Give your lover the remote and let them take you to heaven. The BadAss Prostate Package includes two excellent vibrating prostate massages, trainers, and lube at a great price. There are links under all my free prostate pleasuring tutorial videos.
The easiest way to give a Blended P-Spot massage is to have your partner insert a massage tool into the rectum. If it vibrates, you can turn up the speed slowly to his liking. With the vibrator on, oil up his penis and stroke it. This EZ Reach tool can be controlled by a partner and the recipient can relax.
The first time you try a Blended Orgasm together, talk about what feels good. Start with simple strokes on the penis shaft. Swirl your palm around the head while the tool massages him.
From there, you can manipulate the tool and vary your penis pleasuring strokes and take him to orgasm without ejaculating. If he doesn’t know how to have full-body energy orgasms, we will get into that in Week #9 of the Come With Me: 20 Ways To Orgasm Challenge.
Over time, he will enjoy more palpations and pressure directly to the prostate. Similar to the G-Spot in women, the prostate enjoys being pressed on.
For now, he can tell you what would feel good, and you can make things up that seem like he’d enjoy them. The first couple of times you do this, you’re simply building skills and developing new neural pathways to pleasure. Take your time and enjoy yourselves.
The three P-Spot orgasm tools I recommend are at the bottom of this article.
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