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The Foreplay Hug Technique

Ladies, train your guy to hug you like this.

Men, listen up. This is what we need, want, crave, gotta have from you.

“Wow! I’ve never been held like this. I want that!” — Sue


“I’ve always regretted that he takes my relaxation as a cue to end the hug. You ladies talk about polarity between masculine and feminine — holding hard is masculine; I’d like to be able to relax into letting go of my arms’ grip while still being strongly held by him. That would be delicious. It is rare.” — Jeanne

How To Hug Her Before Lovemaking ⇐ Warm Embrace Makes Sex Better

Perhaps the single most important technique a man can learn to transform his soulmate into his sexual soulmate is what I call “The Best Hug in the World” technique.

“What?” You might ask. “Hugging?”

I want my soulmate to tear my pants off and climb on top of me cowgirl style, not ask for the best hug she’s ever had. Can we just get to the part where you tell me how to give her the best orgasm in the world?”


I totally understand why you would ask this question, and I am tracking your desire. Stick with me a minute and I will show you why and how the twain will meet.

First of all, I think we can agree that lovemaking and stress just plain don’t mix. The primary cause of stress, in a physical sense, is tired nerves. The best way to rejuvenate your woman’s tired nerves is to simply hold her in your arms.


The magic that makes The Best Hug in the World so effective is your intent. You are aiming to allow your woman to fully surrender into your masculine nature. That masculine-feminine dynamic of protector and protected is a fundamental turn-on most women (and men) subconsciously crave. It’s your manly strength and power that makes her feel safe enough to open up. Most women need to relax physically and open emotionally before they can surrender sexually, and that is the secret that makes this technique so powerful.

So here’s what I want you to do before you even think about having sex, especially when she is stressed or resistant.

Invite her to lie on your bed with you. Say something like, “Sweetheart, I can see you’re tense.  Let’s take a break and lie down for a few minutes before we get started on dinner.” If it feels right you might even say, “I’m not taking no for an answer.” This is your first subtle but safe application of masculine power.

Once you and your ladylove are horizontal, allow her to nestle comfortably in your arms. Take time to adjust pillows to give your bodies support so you can both completely relax. Pull her close and really hold her. Let her rest her head on your chest or shoulder.

Don’t say anything until you are completely relaxed with each other. Just breathe together in your embrace. Notice how your heartbeats slow down. As you inhale and exhale together, your bodies will start to co-regulate. You’ll have a calming effect on each other as your nervous systems start to decelerate, allowing tension to release. This is what rejuvenates tired nerves.


Be sure you sustain the embrace as she relaxes. Instead of releasing her as she lets go more and more, pull her a little closer. Be careful you don’t let your arms become stiff. Leave room to move and adjust. This is a cherished time for nurturing and generating a feeling of safety. Think of it as a sanctuary of sorts where both of you can enjoy a healing experience that lasts however long it takes for you both to feel refreshed. She will let you know when she’s complete.

If you cultivate this technique and do it on a fairly regular basis, you and your soulmate will be able to achieve deeper and deeper levels of relaxation. I’ve had hundreds of readers write to me saying they felt the most loving and calm they’ve ever felt with their lover while doing the Best Hug in the World technique.

It’s as rewarding for a man to be the bastion of secure love as it is for a woman to be the object of his loving. From this place you will naturally start to appreciate and open your hearts more fully to each other. That kind of openness is what makes full-body orgasmic release possible.

Remember, both men and women subconsciously crave the masculine-feminine polarity. Satisfy that craving in her and you will not only get under her skin, you will get inside her body in the most fulfilling way possible for both of you.

Your “Foreplay Hug” exposition, which by nature should be obvious, makes the most sense in the world, and melds perfectly with what I think/feel “love making,” – rather than sex, is all about.
Pity that you weren’t around when I was younger to help guide me to these pinnacles of true, lasting love and ecstasy!
Good work, and thank you for the humanity that you put into it.  —Andy


Here are more articles if you want to get REALLY good at giving and receiving, “The Best Hug In The World.” Check these out:

How To Romance With The Best Hug In The World
Why He’s Hugging Her Wrong
The Hug That Comes Before Making Love (Foreplay Hug)
Heart-Melting Intimacy Technique You Can Use When You’re Feeling Afraid
3 Intimacy Games for Couples

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Susan S. Bratton CEO,  Personal Life Media
“Trusted Hot Sex Advisor To Millions”




3 Responses

  1. Your willingness to help anyone create better relationships by sharing these nice tips causes a more trusting, understanding with you, too.
    Thank you!

  2. What u wearing! That look like some sorta straight-jacket lol very cute, sexy and classy love your hair bless you Lady.

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