How to tell if they’re interested.
“If you have a one-night stand with a guy and he doesn’t call or text you within 24 hours afterward, he’s not interested.” — Jane
“If you have a growth mindset, you can make the first and subsequent sexual experiences even better with this simple communication skill.”
Little story… My girlfriend Jane has what she calls, “The 24-Hour Rule of Dating.” If a lover doesn’t communicate with her in 24 hours she assumes the connection just wasn’t there for them.
Now Jane has a great sex life and enjoys dating. But she doesn’t go all stalker on them or spend her time fretting too long about the ones that don’t circle back in a timely manner.
She just moves forward. (There are three fabulous skills for you below, darling.)
She has sex ONLY with men where she knows it’s an experience she wants to have. That even if he never calls her again, she’d want to have sex with him anyway.
I’m a big proponent of having a few lovers and gaining skill and experience with different people. It believe it expands your sexual abilities. AS LONG AS YOU DO IT SAFELY!!!! (see below)
You learn new things with each lover you have. Every partner embodies different skills and experiences. That’s what makes it so fun to have sex with someone new.
That being said, you really don’t get good with a lover until you’ve has sex 10 or 20 times. If you have a growth mindset, you can make the first and subsequent sexual experiences even better with this simple communication skill.
The most important part of what I call my, “Boyfriend Training” is getting him to WANT your feedback right up front, before you have sex. Teach him, make a deal with him, to LOVE when you give him feedback.
And then give it to him. Don’t be shy. You could never see this guy again. Might as well make the night GREAT.
Since you don’t know each other at all, telling him what you need in the moment will set a solid foundation for your mutual pleasure.
Here is the advice, explained in men’s terms so you can relay it to your next lay in a way he can understand:
“Thank You For Feedback” <== Read the short article here.
If you train him to love your feedback he will want to have a lot more sex with you than other women who are less communicative.
And if he resists your feedback, he will be a pig-headed and egoistically-sensitive boyfriend who is not worth the effort. So it’s a great litmus test for a guy’s overall character too.
Pass this technique on to your friends. It’s a great one for making the sex sizzling hot.
Also, please get tested regularly and use condoms even if you are on birth control. There are a LOT of nasty things communicated through saliva and secretions including a virulent outbreak of syphilis going around right now.
How To Have The “Safe Sex Discussion <== Includes Which STD Tests To Get
Look, guys are DYING to get themselves inside you. You are in control of a LOT more than you might even think.
Of course I want you to be kind and loving, but I also want you to hold your boundaries.
Here is an article about how to discuss your sexual boundaries and desires with your lover.
Set Your Sexual Boundaries <=== This is REALLY GOOD STUFF!
OK, that’s enough for today.
Start flirting your ass off with guys and letting them know they are sexy. Most men are pretty shy and need a LOT of encouragement…. a shocking amount of reassurance. They don’t want to mess up.
So get in their corner, help them give you incredible pleasure, and be true to yourself and your needs.
To more sexual experiences that create wonderful memories that last a lifetime!
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My age is in 40s and I have yet to enjoy the pleasure of sex. I look forward to a great experience with a right size lady..
Dude. You’re making too big of a deal of sex. Go rent “The 40 Year Old Virgin” and laugh it off. Then go get laid. Experience doesn’t make a woman a whore. So, stop putting women on a pedestal and give up looking for the “right one.” Get some experience. Be safe, but stop being so choosy. And you should probably level with her and ask for help losing your virginity, because chances are slim that you will impress her with your skills. It takes practice if you want to play like Air Jordan. Pick up the ball, and go play.