Try this as an on-ramp to becoming more comfortable talking during sex: Begin a gratitude practice.
Your partner wants to know they are doing a good job and that you both feel good.
Their performance anxiety will be lowered, and their pleasure will improve if they are explicitly told that what’s happening is good, excellent, fun, pleasurable… Otherwise, they will just not be sure you’re enjoying yourself.
Use the examples at the bottom to get started. ⬇️
Try These Sexy Gratitude Examples:
“I’m enjoying myself so much with you today.”
“What you’re doing feels so good.”
- I’m lucky to have a partner who is so good in bed.
- We are great together when we make love. It feels good to be here.
- You look very sexy and pretty/handsome to me today.
- I love when we finally get a chance to be alone together.
- Our intimate times are such treasured moments.
- I’m glad we still have it going on!
- When I picked you as my partner, I chose you so well.
- Being close to you like this expands my heart.
- Whatever you’re doing, don’t stop! I love it!
- Oh, that’s a new move. Great job. It feels wonderful!
- I’ve missed being this close to you lately. Thanks for this beautiful reminder of our connection.
- I love you so much, darling. Thank you for being my best friend and lover.
You can also keep it short and sweet at first.
Feels good.
Love this.
Love you.
You’re the best.
You’re so sexy.
Then, over time, you can say more words.
Not only does speaking your appreciation lower anxiety by reassuring your partner, but it also draws your hearts closer together. Just by noticing and speaking the words, the pleasure is heightened for both of you.
We, humans, need to know we are doing a good job. We crave encouragement, appreciation, and gratitude. You can increase your good partner skills by integrating a gratitude practice into your intimacy. Over time, you’ll become so comfortable talking during intimacy that you’ll be able to graduate to requesting modifications and asking for desires. That’s when things get perfect in the bedroom! These higher-level skills of more masterful lovers are available to you now.
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