To increase a woman’s sexual desire, consider focusing on these four cues.
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Researchers* asked women what turned them on and found the results divided into four general categories:
1. Love and Emotional Bonding Cues
2. Explicit and Erotic Cues
3. Visual and Proximity Cues
4. Romantic and Implicit Cues
HELP A GIRL OUT
Love and Emotional Bonding Cues
Understanding how you (or your lady) feels most loved, secure, and emotionally connected and consistently creating those feelings will increase her desire for lovemaking. (This is what my Relationship Magic exercise helps you put into words so your partner can make those feelings for you.)
Explicit and Erotic Cues
What turns you (or your lady) on? Does she like reading erotica? Have you told her how sexy she is? Her lover’s erect penis? There are responses to erotic cues that are unique for each woman.
Visual and Proximity Cues
What gets you turned on when you see it? A warm fireplace? A pair of the sluttiest high heels in your closet? Is your guy in his tight briefs?
Romantic and Implicit Cues
What kind of romantic experiences get you turned on? Do you love to be held? Does salsa dancing get you aroused? Perhaps a dinner out where he gets the car door? Or a verbal expression of his undying love for you?
These are the four conditions that increase a woman’s sexual desire.
Too often, the new relationship energy fades when the romantic and emotional bonding cues are taken for granted.
In Revive Her Drive, I explain to men who want to rekindle their sex lives that they must start with romance and then re-awaken their wives’ or girlfriends’ sensual awareness before moving into seduction and sexual techniques.
Men, in general, have a faster sexual accelerator system, so they tend to forget these all-important steps to a woman’s arousal.
In my following email of this series, I’ll tell you the eight things that cause women to “put on the sexual brakes” according to
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Pay close attention to what you or your partner needs to feel “in the mood.”
When you learn what makes you feel like making love, you can quickly empower your lover to create that experience.
In my vast experience working with men worldwide for over a decade, they love having a checklist of things a woman needs to want to make love.
Any shortcuts to your pleasure and happiness will help him create the feelings you need to make love.
And isn’t that one of the joys of life?
