Read on to learn how to touch your partner.
Passion Playdates are when you and your partner set aside a specific time for passion play. You plan for (and look forward to) sensual “private” activities where you come together as beginners to learn new things.
Think of Passion Playdates as fun “couples sexercises” that grow and enrich your intimacy — physical and emotional.
This is hot monogamy at its best, and it’s also great for singles who date!
Last week we discussed the essential touches you could use for Passion Playdates.
This week, let’s talk about the basic strokes.
Different people display varying tolerances for friction. This tolerance depends on your partner’s ease and comfort level with you and the idea of being touched in a more intimate, heart-connected way.
Now, you can experiment with these strokes during a playdate or even in public.
Try sneaking one on your partner as you’re grocery shopping, watching a movie with the kids, or even when you’re eating at a restaurant.
Experiment with stroking over your partner’s skin versus rubbing through the skin with these basic stroke patterns:
1. Up and Down
Make a variety of tiny, medium, and large up-and-down strokes on your partner’s skin. You can choose to do them in places of their body where they’re more sensitive to touch or ticklish if you want the maximum effect.
2. Circles
Make circular strokes of various sizes. Be sure to tell your partner what you are doing. For example, you might say, “I am making small circles with a center at about 9 o’clock.”
3. Ellipses
These are egg-shaped and convenient when stroking your partner in narrow spaces, seated, with your backs against the wall, or in any position where not much of your body surface is exposed.
4. Horseshoe Tracing
Same with ellipses, but with a “U-shape” instead of an egg shape. Tell your partner you are doing this specific type of stroke and ask if they like it. Constantly ask for feedback. Make it part of your Erotic Playdate practice.
5. Pad Versus Tip
Touch your partner with the pad of your finger. Then contrast this type of stroking by touching them with the tip of your finger. Ask which one your partner prefers.
6. Different Number Of Fingers (And Different Fingers)
Experiment with touching your partner with different numbers and sets of fingers and using different fingers than the ones you usually use to handle them. This makes the sensation a little bit different every time.
7. Palm of Your Hand
You can even try stroking your partner with your entire palm at once. This makes it feel like you’re giving them a loving message.
As with all Erotic Playdates, remember to communicate, ask for feedback, and receive feedback openly and honestly. And of course, have lots of fun with each other.
Remember, these Playdates only help you and your partner strengthen your relationship and add more exciting activities you can do to and with each other.
