“She confided in me and said she has never had an orgasm with me.”
Check out Frank’s email and my response below.
PLAY WITH YOURSELVES
Hi Susan,
I heard you on a podcast, and it resonated with me.
Back story. My partner and I have been together for 20 years and married for 18 years. We have three gorgeous teenage girls.
My wife experienced being sexually molested at a young age. She is now in therapy and going through that process. However, two months ago, she started showing disinterested sexual behavior towards me.
We talked a lot, and I started the romance sequence you spoke of one month ago. However, she confided in me and said she had never had an orgasm with me.
Naturally, I feel tricked and lack confidence, trust, and such. Anyway, I love her and am trying to grow in every way, including sexually. I have no clue, and it’s pretty heartbreaking. Consistently, I appreciate your wisdom on these matters.
Kind Regards,
Frank (not his real name)
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Hi Frank,
Don’t worry! This is fixable.
For starters, get a few vibrators. Hold your wife and play with her nipples while she uses the vibrator on herself.
Having her help herself to many good orgasms will help you give her some when you get more involved.
Whisper your love for her and how sexy she is while holding and playing with her breasts. Give her specifics. Follow my Dirty Talk directions. If she wants you to tell her a dirty story, do that too. Here is a playlist of my how-to-talk dirty videos:
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If you start the experience by giving her a body and a genital massage, this will relax her and improve her chances of orgasm. Use the Magic Wand all over her mons and outer labia while you’re massaging her. Your job is to get her blood flow going to her genitals. Then get her orgasming quickly. This will build on itself and make it easier for her to cum.
There are a few vibrators I recommend.
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I’d also recommend you both start taking FLOW. It will drive blood to her pelvic bowl. This increases her lubrication and sensation, so she’ll come more easily and feel more intense.
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Keep the romance up.
Don’t feel tricked. It’s not about you. Sexual molestation is a crappy deal all around. Glad she’s working through it.
Embrace her honesty. That is what empowers you to give her the pleasure you so want to give her.
Soon she will want you inside her. Watch my penetration orgasms videos to help you understand how to have her come from intercourse.
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One final note… as she begins to open more to her pleasure, she may want you to do some G-Spot healing. This does more for releasing sexual trauma than all the talk therapy in the world.
Our program, Female Liquid Orgasm, will show you two precisely what to do in what order.
Female Liquid Orgasm ⇐ Trauma Healing
You might be surprised that most partners heal their lover’s sexual trauma. More at-home healing is done than in therapist offices.
You got this!
Just get her coming first, so she gets over that hump and gains confidence.
