When starting a relationship, how do you approach intimacy if someone wants to take it slow and the other is ready? Is there a way to talk about this and not end a relationship over it? Learn how to attain the best intimacy.
When one partner is ready for sweet, intimate love, and the other isn’t, you move at the slower person’s pace. Expanding your view of “sex” also increases intimacy and improves connection. When sex doesn’t just mean intercourse and becomes more inclusive, this also takes the pressure off.
There are many ways to enjoy physical pleasure, including:
- Holding hands
- Stroking or brushing one another’s hair
- Head massage, Face massage, Foot massage, Body massage
- Telling each other what you admire and appreciate about one another
- Holding each other in a long hug, I call my Soulmate Embrace
- Enjoying nature through a picnic, a bike ride, a hike, or a boating experience
- Dancing, contact improve or partnered yoga
- A guided tour of each other’s body
- Sweet sensual massage
All of the above activities are very safe concerning STDs. It’s only when you get to mouth-on-genital or genital-to-genital touch that you need to have the Safe Sex Talk.
Check Out This Video About It ⇐ How To Have The Safe Sex Talk
Because women bear the burden of conception and are more susceptible to issues with STI’s, it’s essential to have the Safe Sex Talk early in a possible intimate relationship. Easing her fears about unwanted pregnancies and infections will allow her to want more than just a touch from a partner.
BEST INTIMACY
Find out what conditions need to be met for the slower partner to be ready. Each individual has a different list that needs to be in place before moving forward into physical intimacy.
You cannot guess what the issues are holding a person back from intimacy. It could be they need time to get to know each other, wanting to meet each other’s friends or families, not wanting to have intercourse before marriage, being a virgin, wanting the first time to be very special, or not feeling the chemistry. Body image issues hold many people back and cause them to question whether they are truly wanted.
For some, it’s a concern their reputation might be sullied if others find out. Some people are on anxiety medication, antidepressants, or other medicines that lower their libido. Others have health issues that cause low desire.
Some women have pain with intimacy. Some men have sexual health issues. It could simply be that the slower partner isn’t sure that the faster partner’s sexual style or approach to intimacy matches theirs.
It’s best to listen to what kind of modifications, workarounds, or patience is required. Sweetie, no pressure. I want to know when it’s right for you. How will I learn? How can I honor your needs? Would you please tell me what would be the best possible experience for you? I’m patient, and you’re worth it.
If there are issues, you can acknowledge them, and if there are problems, you can try to find solutions.
AROUSAL BEGINS WITH RELAXATION
Pressure dampens desire. Removing any urgency can often speed the time to intercourse simply because you’re eliminating stress. Running a partner a menu of options to be a yes to a “right-sized” offer is a crucial tenet of seduction.
And getting your partner in the mood for love means moving them toward pleasure. When you offer intimacy and get a no, it’s because it was too big an offer.
Giving multiple choices allows the “not ready” partner to find options that feel good to them. Do you want me to hold you? Would you like a neck rub? Should we go for a walk and hold hands?
Allowing intimacy to deepen slowly, gaining trust, and building desire are some of the most satisfying parts of a new relationship.
Trying to push for intimacy too early does the relationship injustice. Slow down. Run pleasure menus.
And build trust.
These loving intentions will build a solid foundation of trust and security, allowing your partner to truly enjoy “the first time” when it finally happens.
I hope you’re loving this advice and thinking of using it in your relationship soon.
For now, check out these articles I sent over the week. Each was written with loving intentions for you to use in your own intimate life.
