There has never been a better time to while away the hours making love and learning pleasure techniques. This Happy Hummer Pleasuring Technique will make you both feel calmer and loved.
Right now, we all need to stay out of circulation and calm our collective nervous systems down. And we need to boost our immunity, all of which lovemaking does so well.
There are a lot of single folks who seek a safe shelter-in-place lover… And a lot of partners at home are hoping you’ll slowly and lovingly seduce them.
Intimacy provides many healthful benefits, but sometimes our partner or we feel too stressed for sex.
Here’s one of many neat little pleasure techniques I call the Happy Hummer. Activating your vagus nerve will help you feel calmer. The vagus nerve runs from your brain to your heart to your belly… and in the case of us ladies, right down to our womb. This is why we need to feel calm and emotionally connected before we experience arousal.
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One side of the vagus nerve gets us going; the other nerve calms us down. These are the main lines of our sympathetic and parasympathetic nervous system. The vagus nerve is also the nerve of connection, love, and kindness to yourself and others. Most of us are stuck in states of fight or flight more than in rest and digest.
Vagal tone gives us “warm and fuzzy” feelings. If you have a low vagal tone, you are often more anxious and depressed. The higher your vagal tone, the more quickly your body regulates your cardiovascular, glucose, and immune responses. This is one of the reasons why intimacy is good for your health!
TONE YOUR VAGUS NERVE
If you feel anxious, improving your vagal tone lowers anxiety and lifts depression. The vagal nerves run down the sides of your neck. The vagus nerve is connected to your vocal cords and the muscles at the back of your throat. Singing, humming, chanting, and gargling can activate these muscles and stimulate your vagus nerve.
Do you know what else can stimulate your vagus nerve and improve vagal tone?—giving oral pleasure. Of course, this works better when giving to men because their penis is the perfect magic wand you can use to stroke the sides of your throat.* However, even humming while giving a woman oral pleasure improves your vagal tone.
The lower and more deeply you hum, the more pleasurable it feels. Embracing your man’s member with a warm throaty hug while humming your love for him calms and nurtures you both simultaneously. Now that is one Happy Hummer.
Just one more reason why oral benefits the giver and receiver…
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* If you need advice about stroking the sides of your throat without activating your gag reflex, I’ve done a video series here.