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I Can’t Orgasm! Help Me!

I Can’t Orgasm! Help Me!

“I can’t orgasm!” Most women don’t reach orgasm during sex. This is the orgasmic gap. And that’s what we’re going to fix today.

It is easy for many men to reach orgasm.

It’s both a gift and a curse for them.

A gift because it’s so easy to feel orgasmic pleasure, but a curse because sex doesn’t last that long.

Moreover, it’s the same for women i.e. amplified.

A gift because it makes the woman feel that her man truly feels an intense amount of pleasure so much so that when they make love, he comes very fast.

However, it’s also a curse because most women don’t orgasm that quickly. In fact, in my experience of helping couples for over 10 years, a LOT of women need over 15 minutes of slow, consistent, heart-connected pleasure to reach orgasm.

This gap in orgasmic pleasure between lovers is the orgasmic gap. Surprisingly, we can close that gap with the right knowledge and techniques.

Check out this email below. A reader and her lover are experiencing this orgasmic gap. She can’t come. No matter how hard she tries or how turned on she is.

Read her email and my response below.

Vaginal Anatomy For Arousal And Pleasure ⇐ Never Say “I Can’t Orgasm”

Desire And Arousal Secrets ⇐ Increases Sex Drive, Desire And Arousal (Increases Your Chances Of Having Orgasms)

Click Here To Watch My Videos ⇐ Penetration Orgasms Playlist

The Expand Her Orgasm Tonight Program ⇐ Couples That Play Together Stay Together (Especially In The Bedroom)

Love Unbound ⇐ Music For Better Sex

Thrust In Time ⇐ Thrusting Technique That Gives Women Intense Orgasms

DISCARD THE PHRASE “I CAN’T ORGASM”

“Hi Susan,

I’m a 65-year-old woman with a new boyfriend who’s 72. I find myself completely turned on by my partner, and yet, I can’t orgasm. I’ve never been so in love, and his technique is completely arousing. Every part of me is engorged and vibrating when he makes love to me.

We’ve followed your videos for a long time. However, my monkey mind just won’t stop, and I try too hard to get to the orgasm. He’s so patient with me, sticking with stroking the “perfect spot” for an hour or more until I know he must be as frustrated as I am. Then my brain can’t stop worrying about him. He says we’re a team, and if I need to touch myself to get over the wall, he’ll focus on another part of me instead. I’ve used a vibrator that always used to work, but nothing. I think it’s just a matter of relaxation, or maybe too much turn-on too fast. I’d appreciate any suggestions.

Thanks for being there to help.” —Marcia (not her real name) 

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Hi Marcia,

I’m happy to hear that your partner is turning you on so much.

Here are a few options that may help you surrender to your orgasmic pleasure:

1) Search deep in your soul to see if there is something worrying you. Do you have any reservations about your boyfriend? Is there any way you feel unsafe? Check out these new videos I created with a few of my sexpert friends on how to have better arousal and pleasure.

Vaginal Anatomy For Arousal And Pleasure ⇐ Never Say “I Can’t Orgasm”

Desire And Arousal Secrets ⇐ Increases Sex Drive, Desire And Arousal (Increases Your Chances Of Having Orgasms)

2) Trust that he is patient, on your team and wants you to experience incredible pleasure with him because guys want this. Just keep communicating with him about how things are going. Get my Sexual Soulmate Pact technique and strike the pact with him because easy, graceful communication between lovers is the bedrock of hot sex. Even if you feel like you have good communication now, the little tricks in this ebook will dial up your sensual connection significantly. Moreover, this technique makes lovemaking more fun and rewarding for you both and will allow you to discard the phrase “I can’t orgasm.”

The Sexual Soulmate Pact ⇐ Two-Word Phrase That Ignites Passionate Lovemaking 

3) You’re having performance anxiety: “brain can’t stop worrying” “mind just won’t stop” “he must be as frustrated as you are.” Often, performance anxiety affects everyone in the bedroom. Most of your anxiety is because you’re new together and you haven’t gotten into the groove yet. Give it time. The more you spend slowing down and enjoying the pleasure of being together sensually and intimately (get naked lots, massage each other, talk and snuggle), the more you’ll be able to relax and let go.

4) Watch my Penetration Orgasm series of videos on my Better Lover YouTube channel (Please subscribe to my channel if you will. It helps me reach more people and it’s free.) You may see one, two, three ideas in that series and think, Aha! Yes! I need to help me. And these tricks will help you progress from intercourse. It could be as simple as kissing or eye gazing or breast play or lighting… See what you think.

Click Here To Watch My Videos ⇐ Penetration Orgasms Playlist 

(I have performance anxiety from worrying about coming from intercourse too. And I learned how to orgasm from penetration over a decade ago. I think we women commonly worry about being able to come from lovemaking. I come 95% of the time! But still… there is something in our estrogen molecules that just makes us worry.)

5) Learn new things together. Begin as beginners. Try some sexercises. The best recommendation for you is to get Dr. Patti’s Expand Her Orgasm Tonight program and set updates where you learn one of the exercises/experiences/couples games together. There are 21 erotic playdates in the program. You can cherry-pick, do them in order — anything goes. They teach you the art of the expanded orgasm with a clitoral stroking technique that really tunes him into your orgasmic channel.

The Expand Her Orgasm Tonight Program ⇐ Couples That Play Together Stay Together (Especially In The Bedroom)

Since he was willing to rub your spot for an hour, he’s a good candidate for the Expanded Orgasm clitoral stroking technique.

This skill, which you learn together by doing the 21 playdates, gets a couple very synched up intimately. It engorges your genitals more, which also helps you orgasm from penetration.

6) Try Ellen Eatough’s Love Unbound Music for Better Sex. It has auditory pheromones that help women come more easily and intensely. I love to have sex with it.

You’ll probably end up like Pavlov’s dog, getting turned on every time you listen. I know I did when I binged on it for over a year straight! Haha. It’s sexy and romantic and calms the mind to let you surrender to your desire.

Love Unbound ⇐ Music For Better Sex 

7) Try this Thrust In Time intercourse technique I just wrote. It’s a free ebook. My 34th sex tip ebook! I wrote this technique to teach men how to move their penises in a way that gives them stamina while giving their woman the sensations and rhythms she needs to get over the edge and have orgasms strictly from intercourse, without even needing any clitoral stroking. Of course, you can ALWAYS add in clitoral pleasuring with hands or toys. The more pleasure the better!

Thrust In Time ⇐ Thrusting Technique That Gives Women Intense Orgasms

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Let me know which of these things you decided to try because I thought about all the various aspects of greasing the skids for your slippery slide into orgasmic outer space.

I’m looking forward to a full report on your progress. Ping me if you get stuck and especially make sure to let me know what broke the logjam for you.

These are solid strategies for everyone because everyone is different.

Enjoy!

Here are all the resources you’re going to love. Check them out.

Vaginal Anatomy For Arousal And Pleasure ⇐ Never Say “I Can’t Orgasm”

Desire And Arousal Secrets ⇐ Increases Sex Drive, Desire And Arousal (Increases Your Chances Of Having Orgasms)

Click Here To Watch My Videos ⇐ Penetration Orgasms Playlist

The Expand Her Orgasm Tonight Program ⇐ Couples That Play Together Stay Together (Especially In The Bedroom)

Love Unbound ⇐ Music For Better Sex

Thrust In Time ⇐ Thrusting Technique That Gives Women Intense Orgasms

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