Ready for a playful session with your honey pie?
You can do this in person, over the phone or online.
Today I want to share one of the 21 Erotic Play Dates from Expand Her O Tonight that takes you both up the learning curve behind closed doors. (All twenty-one of these “sandbox dates” are described below.)
This playful session is called, “Sharing Favorite Frames.”
Frames are a descriptive snapshot of shared experience.
If your partner enjoys it when you talk to them, and you enjoy talking about intimacy together, the Favorite Frames technique expands and deepens your experience.
But let’s assume they are shy, and that social conditioning makes them feel shameful speaking about this topic. Try to make them feel more comfortable but just asking a very small, easy to answer the question, such as, “When we made love last time, what did you like best?”
Ask them to say, “I liked it when…” and just give one example they are comfortable sharing.
Think about this exercise as a frame. A frame is like the frame or border around a picture – it’s a snapshot in time or a short time sequence.
I like to share favorite frames after making love so my partner can take even more pleasure in experiencing my experience as I tell him about it.
People find they enjoy re-living specific date experiences, and also they find they can enjoy new details that they missed at the time.
You might think this happens only when you hear your partner’s frames, but I think you’ll find that when you share a frame, you will recall something you missed at the time.
Talk about your experience during (if appropriate), and afterward:
This is done in a specific way.
Each of you shares one specific frame —or snapshot in time —of the experience, that relates to something you felt in your body, that you really enjoyed.
For example, John might say, “Sue, when I hugged you more tightly as we kissed, I noticed you relaxing and letting go. I felt a warm rush of energy and love for you.”
And then Sue might say, “John, when you took me in your arms, I felt my whole body sink down to a new level of letting go and opening up, and this rush of sensation came up through my lady bits, that then shot right up into my belly, like white-hot heat.”
As you’re getting started, I recommend you share frames relating to your dates such as:
- How the room looked or felt
- The music you liked, and its effect on you
- Specifics about your partner’s appearance that pleased you
- And your experiences during the physical and communication components of the date
At other times, you may find it fun to share frames around non-date moments, such as how delighted you were when he fixed your computer or how much you enjoyed being surprised when she cooked your favorite dinner – and even cleaned up afterward.
Susan says it’s like a look back through the senses of your body. And Sharing Frames increases your gratitude for each other.
Be willing to be beginners together.
The feminine especially enjoys this kind of conversation where you share your sensual experience of your time with her.
In my program, Expand Her O Tonight, there are 21 of these exercises crafted to get the master lover’s skills “into your bones.”
Experience these playful lab sessions, to be transformed as a lover forever!
- Sharing Favorite Frames
- The Centering Breath (The Grounding Cycle)
- The Centering Breath (Short Form)
- Entraining Your Being with Your Heart
- Red Dot Exercise
- Responsible Grounding after the Date
- Touching with Feedback
- Asking for Changes
- Questions to Consider and Discuss
- Genital Grounding (grounding at the end of the date)
- The Clock Method Process
- Breathing Together
- Play Stop/Start
- Touch for Rapture
- The Spreading Breath
- The Three Opening Strokes
- Touching from Center to Center (Touching All of You with All of Me)
- Basic Kinds of Touches
- Basic Strokes
- Feel Your Thinking/Think Your Feelings
- Alternative Do Positions and Special Situations
I can’t think of anything more fun than being with your partner learning new bedroom skills in a time when the world is topsy turvy.
I would love for you to check out the articles we sent over the week. Each one was written with love, and your relationship and health in mind.