According to my mentor, Dr. Helen Fisher, author, and anthropologist at Rutgers University, our bedroom personalities are composed of two basic types of traits:
- character traits developed through life experience and
- types of temperament, 50% of which stems from our biology.
Traits of temperament are heritable, relatively stable across your life and linked to specific genes, hormones and/or neurotransmitter systems.
She sampled 28,000 people to come up with these four personality types: Explorers, Builders, Directors, and Negotiators.
ARE YOU AN EXPLORER?
Let’s delve into the first of four types, the Explorer.
“Variations in the dopamine system have been linked with novelty, experience and adventure-seeking, susceptibility to boredom, impulsivity, energy, and enthusiasm. People expressive of certain genes in the dopamine system tend to lack introspection; they look out not in. These men and women are also often intellectually curious, mentally flexible and creative. Helen called this style of thinking and behaving “curious/energetic” and dubbed them Explorers.”
Though this article is for everyone across the gender spectrum, I’ve taken one idea —the concept of giving woman lingerie —and give you a few ideas for each sexual personality type.
If you’re a man who thinks he’s an Explorer, I’d like you to reply to this email and tell me what kind of sexual ideas appeal to you.
If you’re a woman, reply to me if you’re an Explorer and refine these ideas or give me others that would appeal to you.
Tell me if you’d like your guy to do any of these for you (and definitely tell your guy you’d like to have fun like this if you would)! He is probably a different Sexual Personality Type and would love to know what you’d like more.
Is your lady an adventure seeker? Does she bore easily and enjoy impulsive novelty? Is she curious, mentally flexible and creative? She’s an Explorer.
Try a spontaneous dare where she puts on the lingerie of your choice when she loses a bed-wrestling match.
Tell her you to have a presence in your pants and make her find it blindfolded with her hands tied.
Take her to a beach and have her warm her beautiful body in the sunshine while she gets ogled by passers-by. Later, take her home and ravish her.
Have her wear the lingerie under her clothes when you take her out for dinner. Keep sliding your hand up her skirt under the table and brushing your arm against her body. Then take her home and have her do a striptease for you before you give her the best intimacy of her life.
Remember to reply to me if you have a refinement, a new idea or a tweak. I’m interested!
It is our passion to help you explore your sensuality, as well as to give and receive more pleasure, love, and warmth ♥