The simple tool I’m talking about is “Feedback.”
Many couples don’t know how to give (and receive) feedback in a constructive loverspace. (Loverspace is what I call the special place where you are intimate.)
Now, ask yourself…
How much fun, intimacy, and passion would you and your lover have if you regularly received feedback and welcomed it?
You would be amazed if you thought about it.
FEEDBACK IS A WONDERFUL GIFT
It can be positive or negative. It can be about your relationship, intimacy, finances, communication… anything.
The content of the feedback itself isn’t as important as it is honest, open, vulnerable, and received positively.
Think about it.
We can’t develop lover skills without practice. And we don’t get practice because we don’t know how to give each other feedback.
We don’t know if we’re doing the right things… or NOT doing anything right at all.
Is your communication good?
Is intimacy exquisite?
Is the passion still as fiery as before?
Are your thoughts, opinions, and requests heard?
Is your input respected?
YOUR FEEDBACK LOOP
Here’s an easy way to practice giving and receiving feedback.
Have fun giving each other massages and making requests during the massage.
Tell your partner how to do it just how you want it.
Then have them do you, and give them feedback this time around.
And in the future, you can move on to things like how your partner looks, eats, sleeps, listens to you, and shows you how much they love you.
The more open and welcoming your feedback loop is, the better your relationship will be.
These are just a few simple ways to incorporate healthy feedback into your relationship.
Another way is to receive advice and feedback from other people.
People like older, more experienced couples. Close friends who you can trust.
Even experts like Dr. Patti, Tallulah Sulis, Sloane Fox, and myself…
You can email us anytime, and we’ll help you as much as possible with our experience, expertise, and advice.