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“Am I headed for a sexless marriage?” [Mailbag]

One of man’s greatest fears is to live a sexless life.

And that’s not an exaggeration.

For the last decade, I’ve helped men whose wives have less and less interest in sex turn their women back on again.

Rekindling the sexual spark is a process. She didn’t lose her sex drive in an instant. Something happened slowly and subtly in the background of your relationship that caused her to lose interest in sexual adventures.

But there IS a process to revive your lover’s libido.

Here is how to bring back her sexual passion like a phoenix rising from the ashes, burning and hot with fervor. 

And ladies, if you’re feeling this and want your lover to treat you right so you can WANT him too, then show this to them. 

Scroll down below to read the fan email and my response.

Revive Her Drive With This ⇐ She’ll Love How You Rouse Her Libido With This Simple 4-Step System.


“Hi, Susan,

I’ve been married for 26+ years to the same woman. 

Before marriage, my wife had a troubled past with a bad boyfriend and an abusive father. 

We discussed it and planned to save sex for our marriage when we were dating. She, of course, told me how she couldn’t wait to have her way with me. 

It sounded good at the time. 

However, after we were married, things were different. There were “rules” established. 

No anal sex. I respect that. And she also hesitated every time I brought up blowjobs. She would allow me to go down on her, but she didn’t feel comfortable. 

However, I believe it was her subconscious because her VERY wet and semi-orgasmic vagina told me her body was enjoying the attention.

Now, 26 years later, she still hadn’t lost the “baby fat” she gained from giving birth. She has always been a BBW. I ACCEPT her that way, but she doesn’t accept herself.

Lights always have to be OUT during sex. 

We have ONE position to have sex in. That’s her on her back, legs on my chest on the side of the bed. We used to have intimacy 3x a week, BUT NOW, we only got together physically 2x last month.

Do you have any recommendations that will revive her sexual interest?

Am I headed towards a sexless future?”

James (not his real name) 


Hi James,

Your story is ubiquitous. And you’re headed straight for a sexless marriage… Your worst nightmare is well underway. So I am glad you found me.

You must learn how to lead her sexually by establishing the trust she needs to open up without thinking about it.

And with women, it takes a few things happening at the same time:

1. You have to romance her. She needs to feel romanced to feel sexy for you, or NONE of the following three steps will work.

2. You must remind her body it likes sex subtly, so she gets aroused without reasoning — essentially, you bypass her rational mind with subtle touch techniques.

3. You have to take the upper hand in a way that turns her on, not pisses her off or causes her to push you away.

4. You must learn to cross-train her so she starts coming more than one way with her legs wedged.

These are Romance/Sensual Awakening/Polarity/Advanced Orgasm Skills

…which are what I call The Four Elements of Revival.

I teach you all the nuances of working these four elements inside my online program, Revive Her Drive.

I’ve helped THOUSANDS of men who’ve followed this program have more and better sex than they’ve had since their honeymoon. Even men whose wives have been abused because of it, most women have experienced trauma from childbirth or abuse or shame.

Part of what you’ll be doing is healing her traumas by learning what I teach in this program.

The program is a series of audio and some simple pamphlets. You mostly listen to get the big picture about what has happened, how you turn it around, and many ideas you choose from that you think will be most effective for your wife. Because you know her best and all women are different.

You can start listening right away and trying some of the first steps. You’ll be piecing together your plan as you listen to the audio.

You’ll see her respond immediately, but I have to caution you. There will be steps backward sometimes. And though you are probably a little pissed and stymied, listening will make you feel less frustrated.

If it doesn’t work, you can get your money back. It won’t work for everyone. Some women are so far gone I can’t save the sex life.

But if your wife has sex with you twice a month, you will be fine. Just work the program steps slowly, and pretty soon, she’ll be coming harder and better, suggesting sex and trying new positions.

Here is a link to my discount page to purchase.

Take the Mastery Coaching option if you can afford $17 a month. This additional audio supports you each month as you take her from where she is to where you want her to be sexual.

Revive Her Drive With This ⇐ Simple 4-Step System To Rouse Your Lover’s Libido Like Never Before

Please keep me updated on your progress if you are willing. All the feedback from men over the years is how I’m so damn good at helping guys revive their wives’ sex drive.

2 Responses

  1. How about how to revive his passion and sex drive. I’m lost as to how to turn him on. He says he’s been dead for six years. I’m not and would love to try to awaken him but he says it’s a limp thing. I’m ready to try anything but he seems to be like a cold fish. Is it time for me to walk away and find someone who likes sex. He swears he’s not gay just doesn’t have any desire. Says he loves me but I want some intimacy. He’s almost 60 and I’m a few years older. I want to try new things and feel the closeness sex can bring. I love him but don’t think I could endure another sexless marriage. My deceased spouse had numerous medical problems so I was understanding for 20 years. Now I’m ready to enjoy a bonding. What do I do, please help me before it’s too late for me and I’m in a coffin. I’ve been reading everything I can to learn more. I want to touch feel and be felt. Am I wrong? I’m pleading for guidance.

    Thank you

    1. Hi Helena,
      It sounds like your husband thinks that because he has erectile dysfunction, sex is over for him. It’s not. First, there are many things that can be done to reverse ED. Watch this video series with Dr. Amy to learn the causes and solutions to ED.

      Secondly, start with my Soulmate Embrace technique. Teach him how to hold you. This will increase your intimate connection in lieu of intercourse for the time being.
      Practice this holding technique at least five times before giving up on him or it.

      Third, have him give you three genital massages per week. Get our Steamy Sex Ed Video Collection and have him follow along. He needs to watch and practice while he’s telling you what he’s doing and you’re giving him feedback. Remember, he has no skill, so he’s going to need a lot of encouragement.

      If he shows signs of willingness to stick with this massage practice, consider “graduating” to Expanded Orgasm dates. Our Expand Her Orgasm Tonight program teaches a couple how to give a woman Expanded Orgasms. This will get you back into multiple orgasm mode, even without his penis working. Here is more information on the Expanded Orgasm Practice.

      And here is a video of Tim and I talking about our Expanded Orgasm Practice we’ve been doing for 14 years straight.

      Also get some sex toys and play with them together. Here are my best toy recommendations which include a Magic Wand, a vibrating G-Spot toy and two wands — a glass and metal one. You get an ebook with our best recommendations and a free video to show you how to use them. You may also want to add a big dildo to your toy chest so that you can have your husband put that dildo inside you to fill you up while he strokes your clitoris and labia in your Expanded Orgasm dates.

      And finally, start giving him hand jobs, even if he’s flaccid. My Steamy Sex Ed Video Collection also has sensual and erotic penis massage techniques you can follow along with. They will feel great to him and remind him he does like physical intimacy!

      You can reverse his penile atrophy with massage as well as with a vacuum erection device (penis pump). If you pump him up a couple times a week, it may revive his penis. At the least it will feel good. He may need Testosterone replacement to feel more desire, as well as a GAINSWave series of treatments with a couple of Priapus or P Shots to restore his erectile function. It all depends on his health.

      The pumps I recommend are:
      Dr. Joel Kaplan’s penis pumps:
      Dr. Joel Kaplan’s Male Enhancement Products:
      Blue LCD Rechargeable Vacuum Erection Device Penis Pump Click Here:
      GainsWAVE Shockwave:
      Priapus Shot:

      Here is a video series that shows you what to do to pump him or have him pump himself. Warming his penis with a warm wet towel first really helps.

      If you want more of a straight up massage techniques program instead of a super sexy one, my friend Mariah Freya teaches Yoni (vulva) and Lingam (penis) healing massage techniques here:

      All this touch and learning together is a fun couples project. It will get you both going in the right direction and you’ll start having intimate fun times together again.

      Let me know your questions and send me a progress report!


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