Maria asks, “How do I gain more confidence to be slutty for him in a good way?”
A good read for both men AND women.
(Guys, I’m writing this to teach women how to enjoy being more sexually confident in the bedroom. You can read it and do these things for her to support her sexual coming out.)
Ladies, it is life-affirming to let your sexy out full blast and be as erotic and desirous as you want in the privacy of your bedroom. But you can’t let it rip if you are afraid your partner will shame you.
Here are the two things you can teach your man to do for you exactly how you want him to, so it allows you to keep opening up and expressing your animalistic sexuality.
#1 Approval
#2 Aftercare
APPROVAL
Throughout the lead-up to sex, during foreplay, and while making love, show your man how to give you plenty of positive feedback, an affirmation that he loves your sexiness, and approval for what you are doing.
Many women like verbal feedback the most. Whether he’s moaning in appreciation or telling you how sexy you are and what he finds irresistible about your behavior, they all go a long way toward bringing you out even more. Tell him what makes you feel appreciated and praised.
Do you like to be filmed or have pictures taken of you when you’re naked?
Do you like your guy to “place his order” for his favorite lingerie for you to wear?
Does it help you get in the mood when he texts you dirty thoughts about what he will do to you later?
Maybe you like to share “frames” during a good romp?
Perhaps presents delight you?
Don’t be afraid to ask for what you want to feel loved and respected during lovemaking.
Almost every time I make love, I ask my man to tell me what he loves about me.
I find it both reassuring and heart-opening to hear him telling me what he loves about me and how much he loves me while he’s making love to me.
They just go hand in hand!
I’ve also noticed that people generally crave MORE conversation and pillow talk during their lovemaking. You can up your verbal appreciation considerably without getting rejected.
AFTERCARE
If you’ve been a total slut, acting like a dirty porn star with an insatiable sexual appetite, you’ll need some hugs afterward, girl.
Our genitals are directly connected to our emotional hearts. It’s great to be abandoned by your passion, but guys need to understand that we also need hugs, kisses, and appreciation afterward.
Take the time to rest in his arms and let him tenderly hold and kiss you.
Teach him my trademark “Best Hug In The World.”
He will love it as much as you do.
Other things your man can do include patting you with a towel after lovemaking. Getting you a glass of water. And sharing more “frames” about what he loved most during your date.
The bottom line? Listen to your deep desires and needs and communicate them to your guy.
He can’t guess. He needs to know.
Explain to him that you’re a little different every day. Men understand women’s cycles. He just wants to make you happy. Tell him he gave you incredible pleasure and that you look forward to your next date.
And finally, consider offering him invitations to please you instead of directing him.
This will keep you in your feminine and him in his masculine.
And if he balks at a request or says, “OK, but I’m going to do it on my own time” (as in, “you’re not the boss of me”), you simply need to understand that training him to be your best lover ever is a process.
Keep at it. Don’t give up. Sooner or later, it will dawn on him that “there’s no such thing as failure, only feedback,” and he’ll be hungry to please you and ask for your requests.
Soon after, you can train him to run you some menus of small offers.
This is one of the four keys to seduction that Dr. Patti teaches in The Seduction Trilogy.
You can learn the 4 Keys and run menus for him to model the behavior.
Knowing about these small offers will ignite your sex life because all of a sudden, he’s offering you tons of ideas that turn you on.
It doesn’t matter who goes first when focusing on sexual skills. You can both learn a TON from us here at Personal Life Media.
The combination of communication skills and sexual techniques is a powder keg of explosive sexual satisfaction waiting for you when you are ready.
