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Saying YES To More Offers (Orgy Pic)

Saying YES To More Offers (Orgy Pic)

Accepting or rejecting graciously.

Admit it. You’d love to get more “offers” for intimacy.

Even if you’re in a long-term relationship ― and especially if you’re single ― everyone likes to receive exciting propositions.

Making an offer can be very edgy… filled with the dread of rejection. So we end up not making or getting as many as are actually going on in people’s minds.

ART OF THE ORGY

You’ve probably thought to yourself, “Wow, I’d love to make out with him!”

“I wish I could hold her tight and kiss her. She looks like she feels so soft.”

“What a hottie! I wish he’d ask me out.”

“I sure would love a blow job. Her mouth is so soft and I am so horny.”

“My breasts get so tender before my period. I wish he would massage them.”

But all this hot action is going on inside your head… and it doesn’t come out of your mouth.

Which means a lot of fun is being left on the table instead of happening in the bedroom.

Let’s fix that!

How?

YES, AND or NO, BUT

Have more intimate pleasure by learning how to respond beyond yes and no with a “Yes, And” or a “No, But.”

Instead of just yes or no, you can modify whatever the offer was and make it “right sized” for the moment.

Let me explain… And I can’t take credit for this excellent construct. It’s something I’ve learned attending San Francisco Play Parties.

Play Party is a euphemism for a sex party. You might think about it as an orgy. And though there are people writhing around all over the room in various configurations, each of those groups has pre-negotiated their boundaries.

They know what they are a yes to and what they are not. And when ideas surface for more pleasure and offers are made, using the, “Yes, And,” or “No, But” model goes a long way toward having more relaxing pleasure together.

PRACTICING YOUR YES AND NO

Here are some examples:

OFFER: “Would you like to get together and hang out sometime?”

RESPONSE: “Yes, and I’d love it if you took me on a nature hike and we had a picnic together.”

OFFER: “We should hang out sometime.”

RESPONSE: “No. “Hanging out” is too open-ended for me. I like to be asked out on a proper date. But I’d love to have a date together where we planned something in advance so I could look forward to it.”

OFFER: “Let’s hook up.”

RESPONSE: “No, I can’t hook up unless you give me recent STD test results and we have a sexual history discussion. But I can have a hot, naked make out with you as long as you promise to hold the line at NO penetration and no oral sex.”

Do you see how you can be a modified yes or a modified no?

Think of it as a reframe. You’re using what works and putting a new spin on it.

That way you can be a YES more often, which encourages partners to give you more offers.

This is akin to “small offers” that we share inside our Seduction Trilogy program. Small offers also create a string of yesses.

The most important thing you want to do is be kind when replying to anyone’s offer.

Practice The 3 E’s:

  • Encouragement
  • Empathy
  • Ease

The easier it is to make you an offer ― because you will be gracious in your reply ― the more offers you will receive.

As the masculine, you can also train your partner to respond in this manner so you know that you won’t get rejected for making offers.

Part of sexual leadership is generating ideas for more pleasure.

Be willing to throw out lots of offers without being attached to any particular outcome. You’ll become more confident and better at making offers the more you do it.

As the feminine, invite offers from your partner by letting them know you will not rebuff them, you’ll merely reframe them. Make it safe for your masculine lover to provide the structure of sexy ideas.

There is no, “he should, she should” here. We all live across our gender spectrum at various times in our life. If you want to make offers, do it. If you want to receive offers, make it known.

It’s all about training yourself and your partner to move you both toward more pleasure. And that’s ultimately what we show you how to do inside our incredibly valuable Seduction Trilogy. The Trilogy is three ebooks and audiobooks that show you the 4 Keys to Seduction.

The Four Keys to Seduction is a frickin’ HOT model and I’ve personally used it for nearly a decade in all sorts of situations in work, with friends and with my lovers.

So now you know how to make a Yes, And and a No, But reframe to any offer you get. This is a freeing model that will result in more pleasure and connection for you.

Try it and let me know how it goes.

I appreciate your zest for being a better lover.

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