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How To Be The Man And Take Charge Of Your Relationship

How To Be The Man And Take Charge Of Your Relationship

For any man who wants to know how to become a Masculine Sexual Leader…

Does Revive Her Drive work on my (insert unique trait) wife?

That seems to be a recurring question I get from men.

My answer will always be the same, and I talk about this inside the Revive Her Drive coaching modules again and again…

It’s rarely about her… it’s mostly about you and how you show up for her in her life and in your relationship.

For a lot of troubled relationships, there’s a deeper problem than just lack of sex drive. And that should be handled first, before trying to revive the spark.

For example, a reader sent me an email with the question, “Will Revive Her Drive work for my alcoholic wife?”

Whether or not you have a similar problem in your relationship, this will be incredibly helpful for you.

Here’s what he said (and my response) below…

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“Thank you Susan for the emails and information to help me make my relationship better.

My wife and I have been going through a really difficult time.

We have been married for 25 years. We came from dysfunctional families and had some bad ways of dealing with things.

We always had an intense love for each other and our sex life was very strong and hot.

10 years ago, we moved to MO. There were several women there who loved to go out and drink on Thursday nights. Unfortunately, these ladies became friends with my wife, and then they started going out a lot.

She went wild with drinking for about 4-5 years. She admitted to me that she was seeking attention from other men and trying to get acceptance from them.

I confronted her about her excessive use of alcohol when she goes out. The more she drinks the “friendlier” she gets with people.

She likes to dance and when she starts drinking the dancing goes from fun to seductive (very short duration) to what I see as slutty dancing.

These just didn’t feel right to me to be actions of a woman who was happily married.

When I found out all this, I was furious and angry beyond anything i have ever felt in my life. I was so hurt and felt something in my heart snap!

Since then, I had started to pull away from her in my heart.

If I remove my insecurities and judgements, and try to look at what she does through different eyes, the picture doesn’t change that much. Her behavior is what I see.

But I still love her and know that we are supposed to be together. I just fear that something has to happen to her in order to wake her up to what she does. And I believe she is an alcoholic who doesn’t see it.

So will Revive Her Drive work here? I have looked over some of the material but haven’t been in a good place to do it.

As I clear these up, I feel like I can enter my masculinity more and more now. I have always felt blocked by something and have found the causes and am in process to remove them and heal my past.

I see your program as another amazing tool to create out of this world relationships.

Thank you for listening. I am trying to find balance and health with all I have for all situations as much as I can. Thank you!

Max (not his real name)”


Here’s my response:


I am very glad you are doing so much work on yourself to heal your traumas.

Keep going.

It’s a lifelong process for which you will only get stronger.

There is no end. No moment of complete fix. Only the practice of healing and growth.

As for your wife, she is definitely an alcoholic and using alcohol to cover the pain of her past abuses.

I suggest you start going to family group to learn what you can do to help your alcoholic wife.

Right now she’s getting attention from outside her marriage. Once you start bringing the masculine sexual leadership INTO your sex life, her need to get it outside of your marriage will diminish… but not while she’s drinking.

For now I suggest you should focus on Multi-Orgasmic Lover for Men.

That has both a series of audios and videos about overcoming the grip of sexual abuse and shame as well as masculine sexual leadership skills that will help you make your wife feel the desirability she is seeking.

So you go join Al-Anon, keep working on yourself, go through the MOL program, give her the sensual (and sexual) attention and masculine leadership she’s craving from you, get her to no longer search for the momentary high of alcohol and make her want YOU all over again, just like before.

And when that happens, unleash Revive Her Drive on her like crazy.

It just takes some Masculine Sexual Leadership skills to get her to see YOU and only you.

Thanks for writing to me.

Please keep me updated on your progress.


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