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How To Revive HIS Sex Drive

How To Revive HIS Sex Drive

Men’s low libido explained.

“She isn’t sexually adventurous enough for me.”

When I analyzed this data, the results shocked me.

You are not going to believe what the real reasons are that men are no longer sleeping with their wives.

What I’m about to tell you is the story of how the brain’s inherent biases cause people to guess wrong about reasons why their partner is not sleeping with them.

There are as many men who suffer from diminished libido as there are women.

It’s not all tied to hormones, that’s just a small part of what might be surprising a man’s desire.

Here are the reasons men state they stopped having sex and the number in parenthesis is why women think their partner stopped having sex with them.


The first percentage is what men report as the reason why they stopped wanting sex with their woman. The second percentage (in parenthesis) is why WOMEN THINK their man stopped wanting sex with them.

It’s important to notice the difference between the two for each reason. Sometimes they are close, but sometimes they are wildly different. When they are different it means that what the woman thinks is the reason is NOT what the man says is the reason. Look closely at these fascinating results!

According to Why Men Stop Having Sex, the reasons men say they stopped are NOT most commonly because of erectile or orgasm issues.

Erectile Dysfunction 30% (39%)
Premature Ejaculation 16% (20%)
Delayed Ejaculation or Inability to Ejaculate 15% (27%)

Illness dampens a man’s vitality:

Depression 34% (57%)
Medication that Lowers Libido 21% (26%)

It’s not that these men are gay:

Gay 1% (2%)

They are not busy:

Too Busy 6% (18%)

They sometimes were not interested in sex to begin with 3%

Some are not as interested in connecting with another individual:

I prefer to masturbate, but not online 25%* (27%)
I prefer to masturbate to porn 25%* (27%)

* According to the study, these figures may overlap.

The large majority of reasons why men do not want sex have to do with their partner:

She isn’t sexually adventurous enough for me 68% (14%)

She doesn’t seem to enjoy sex 61% (10%)

I’m interested in sex but not with my wife 48% (25%)

I’m angry at her 44% (45%)

I’m bored 41% (31%)

She is depressed 40% (36%)

I no longer find her sexually attractive 32% (40%)

I am/was having an affair 20% (19%)

She is/was having an affair 9% (19%)


Men generally do want sex according to the book’s authors.

What this means is that if you have a partner who’s desire is diminished, it’s best to start talking…. and LISTENING.

“We found that ED, depression, anger, discovering a computer downloaded with pornography, or even an affair was usually not reason enough to call a divorce lawyer.”

The small population that did divorce said they were ANGRY.

“They were also more likely to identify as bored, on medication, and depressed and to believe their spouses were unfaithful. They reported slightly less sexual dysfunction, perhaps indicating that they weren’t as fearful of competing in the world of single men.”


Look at the data.

When you compare what she thinks the issues are compared to what he reveals, the big disconnect comes from these key areas:

She isn’t sexually adventurous enough for me 68% (14%)

She doesn’t seem to enjoy sex 61% (10%)

I’m interested in sex but not with my wife 48% (25%)


The same reasons women stop wanting men are rooted in boredom.

Lack of passion can be reversed.

The same steps that work in my Revive Her Drive system work for him:

  1. Get Your Polarity Back (at least in the bedroom)
  2. Return To Romance (remember why you fell in love)
  3. Re-Awaken Your Sensual Selves (get out of your heads and into your body sensations)
  4. Begin To Seduce Each Other Again (move toward pleasure together)
  5. Sexual Mastery Skills (learn new sexual techniques to get better in bed and avoid boredom)

Knowledge is power… inside and outside the bedroom.

If you are no longer attracted to your wife…. or you suspect that your husband is not longer attracted to you, you can start with LISTENING… and these steps back to passion.

This is a solvable problem.

My program Revive Her Drive is made for men who want more passionate sex with their wives. However, everything in the program goes both ways.

Reawaken Romance and Intimacy <== Revive Her Drive (Works for Him Too)

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The researchers did not take into account issues such as sexual abuse or the shame that comes from religious or familial repression. If this is your situation, an AASECT sexual therapist could provide breakthrough support for you.

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