Is She Too Sensitive To Go For Orgasm #2?
Here is a 3 dimensional rendering of a clitoral structure.
Many men ask me how they can get their woman to become multi-orgasmic. Many women are able to achieve a single orgasm but find their clitoris too “over stimulated” and sensitive to want additional touch to “go again” and have another or multiple orgasms.
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Why can some women come for hours and others shy away from a second orgasm, even if the first felt amazing?
Here’s one of the most common reasons why and what to do about it.
Essentially, if you are stimulating her clitoris to the point where she orgasms and then is too sensitive for additional stimulation, she’s experiencing clitoral fatigue.
For women who are actively enjoying their sex life with you BUT they get too sensitive to want another orgasm, here’s what’s likely happening.
Whatever you two are doing to stimulate her to orgasm is putting too much focus and attention on the stimulation of her clitoral glan. The glan, or head, is just the tip of the iceberg. The glan is covered by the hood and that is all that is visible of the clitoral structure. The structure includes a shaft as well as two wings or “crura” and two bulbs. The shaft, wings and bulbs are buried inside her and need time and stimulation to become engorged and carry her onto a plateau of arousal where she wants to get off multiple times.
By spending more time spreading her arousal throughout her body, by kissing her, playing with her breasts and nipples, by giving her a sensual massage before touching her clitoris, you will engorge much more erectile tissue throughout her body. Then as you touch her vulva, you start from the outside and work your way in, just teasing her clitoris as you are engorging her vestibular bulbs and labia.
The single best recommendation I can make to you is to follow the 21 “dates” outlined by Dr. Patti in our Expand Her Orgasm Tonight program.
This program teaches the “giver” you and the “receiver” her to deliver strokes that naturally expand her sensation and orgasmic ability. By doing this as a learning program where you both begin as beginners and make it FUN, you both increase your abilities to generate pleasure for yourselves and each other.
Expanded Orgasm is a kind of sensual massage you use to get your lady ramped up to multiple orgasms. The stroking technique prevents clitoral fatigue AND increases the quality of each of her orgasms. Expanded Orgasm is also called, “The 30 Minute Orgasm” in that the strokes will take her right up to the edge of climax and then EXTEND or expand the moment of climax so it stretches like chewy taffy and allows her stay in orgasm longer and longer. The stroke techniques in Expanded Orgasm help you BUILD on each orgasm so that the next one feels better than the last one.
This is a chart of what Expanded Orgasms look like:
The Expand Her Orgasm Tonight program is very clever. It breaks down the process of the couple learning together into “21 dates” where the skills from the last date are built upon by the next date.
Not only is this a fantastic “couples project,” it will help her orgasm from penetration/intercourse in addition to manual stimulation.
You have 30 days to fully try the program with our money-back guarantee. This gives you time to review the program, present it to your partner once you understand how the pieces fit together and what you will be expected to do. This planning will increase your chances of enrolling her in this pleasure.
This is the program that saved my marriage with Tim, made our sex life juicy hot and is the reason we started our company, Personal Life Media, to bring to other lovers the skills we learned in the sex workshops we went to, including learning from Dr. Patti how to experience Expanded Orgasms.
Note: For some women, there’s a mental barrier. They don’t BELIEVE they are multi-orgasmic. Or they are not aroused enough when having sex with you. While they may be willing to give you the satisfaction of bringing them to one climax, that is all they are motivated to achieve. They prefer to come once and be done so they can get to sleep or put their attention on other things that are more interesting to them. A harsh truth? Yes. But you come to me for answers to problems, not to mask problems from you. For this issue of her lack of motivation to be multi-orgasmic, there’s a different solution than for clitoral fatigue. The solution to lack of interest in being multi-orgasmic typically involves them understanding that other “every day” women (not porn stars or sluts or some orgasmic wonder woman) are experiencing immense amounts of pleasure and that they can too. This could be a limiting belief of theirs, boredom with the sex they’ve had to date and/or their partner not fulfilling the sex they long for and dream of. One solution is the introduction of more novelty and excitement that is missing in their sex life. This ennui is the result of their partner not being the lover that can take them into rapture — often a lack of “differentiation” between a couple and a lack of polarity (masculine/feminine magnetism).