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Clitoral Stimulation And Erection

Clitoral Stimulation And Erection

Try this free Engorgement activity and experience clitoral stimulation, taken from Dr. Patti’s best-selling seminal book, Expanded Orgasm.

ACTIVITY: STUDY ENGORGEMENT

Set a goal of studying engorgement. Notice what unengorged genitals look like.

Men: Repeat the exercise of “playing doctor,” having your partner identifying a wide variety of your genital strokes. This time, however, practice verbal acknowledgements while you investigate. Tell her exactly what part you are touching. Tell her every stroke you are making. Notice as you do this how her level of engorgement changes.

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Her inner lips will begin to swell. Often one side will begin to change size first. Notice this and comment. For example,

“Now I am touching your outer right lip, near the top. I’m moving down slowly, toward your introitus. Now I am at the introitus. You’re starting to lubricate. I see little glistening drops of moisture just starting to form. You look most inviting. Now I am going up your left inner lip. Your left inner lip has become larger than your right lip was starting out. It is puffy and soft and looks very inviting!”

She may begin having genital contractions, which look like subtle or not-so-subtle clenching motions in her labia. Some women naturally contract more than others. Not all women are aware of any, some, or all of the contractions they are having. Starting out, if she is having contractions, they may be too subtle for her to fell, but easy for you to see visually. Note that contractions are not necessary for the experience of pleasure. Notice and enjoy them if and when they show up, but don’t worry if you don’t see them.

The coloring of her clitoris, lips and introitus will also change from a light pink to a dustier rose. Eventually, as she becomes very swollen, they will often be dark red, or even purplish in color. Notice her color changes, her contractions, and anything else you can. Comment as you notice. A steady steam of comments is the most effective.

  • “Your clitoris is glistening like a pretty pink pearl. It is coming out to play.”
  • “Your lips are getting softer and fuller. They feel nice and cushiony.”
  • “Your outer lips are about fifty percent more engorged than when we started just ten minutes ago.”
  • “The color of your inner lips has gone from a dark pink to a deep red.”
  • “I see you are starting to contract very gently. There’s one now.”
  • “There’s another contraction. This one was stronger, too.”
  • “Your clitoris has tripled in size when I started touching you. I find that very attractive.”

Men, when you put this kind of attention on a woman’s genitals, you are complimenting her and approving of her at a very deep level. You are supporting her in feeling sexually desirable and deserving of all the pleasure that she can possibly consume.

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Women, notice how it feels to be receiving so much feedback and attention. Communicate with your partner the pleasure you feel in receiving these gifts.

  • “A pink pearl.. what a lovely image.”
  • “Engorged? Already? That’s great to know. Thank you.”
  • “Yes, I can feel my outer lips swelling to reach for the wonderful sensations you are providing me. Please continue.”
  • “I am so enjoying all your descriptions of what is going on. You are focusing my attention on my pleasure in the nicest way.”
  • “Thanks for noticing those contractions. I didn’t feel the contractions, but I love to know when they are starting.”

By talking in this way, ladies, you are rewarding your man for his actions. He will want to give you increasingly more pleasurable attention when your sandbox date starts out this enthusiastically.

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17 Comments

  1. great information

  2. something to think about thanks! tho i have to confess i feel very self-conscious when my partner is staring at my lady bits.

    • My wife feels the same but I love the way she looks and the thought that she’s mine and I so want to please her but she’s forever tense or stressed

  3. Thanks for your information initially i used to feel uncomfortable when my partner is looking unto my genitals but nowadays am okay.

  4. After several years of marrage in the last 3months I started talking to her about the things I saw happening I she got aroused, which aroused her even more.I even started to take and show her pictures I took with my phone.she got so arousedwhere her clit stood out the lenght of my finger nail,her lips turned purple,I got her to touch her clit while I took a picture and the first time she had an orgasm andsquirted on the phone and the sheets were soaked. She has several climacs easly, but first orgasm.

    • It’s so exciting to have erotic breakthroughs! And there are plenty more ahead.

  5. I hope some day you take the time to look at your own genitals and realize how beautiful they are. And that your man would love to see your whole body and delight in it.

  6. I’ve used this technique and have tried to be as gentle as possible but I get no reaction whatsoever from my wife. She says she doesn’t feel anything at all. What can I do so that she will be more responsive?

    • Chris, are you using lubrication and stroking her rhythmically while varying the strokes and pressure? Start out lighter and add more pressure as you go. Start out smaller and weave in faster variations. Ask her to signal what feels good by pressing your leg with her hand. If she’s not pressing your leg, keep moving around her clit, over, under, circles, windshield wipers… all the while telling her what you see or feel so she gets positive feedback. And before you start, make sure the room is nice and she can RELAX. Also, read Dr. Patti’s free ebook, Touching For Rapture. You could be “touching for effect,” instead of rapture, which may be why she’s not feeling it. Practice for 2 minutes every day, first thing in the morning before you both get up if she’s willing.
      Post back here and let us know how this helped.
      Love,
      Susan

      • Being an expert in arousal, I’m sure you’re aware that regardless of what you do to someone, if their mind isn’t engaged. you may not go very far in arousing particularly a woman. Mental, and emotional stimulation is key in many cases. What you say, and how you play before erotic touching can go quite a ways in “priming her engine”. I do appreciate all that you have shared with us as readers.

      • my wife is very shy in talking while making love
        i am trying her to realise the special effects sensitive point eg she does not want to go beyonf cliotris stimulation and cliotris orgasm and i find it very strange that the same girl/my wife after only after clitris orgask would request for hard and fast strokes as long as i can do.my total stay on target are with love making is 45 minutes to one hour and that is wonderful–your comment-SUSAN

  7. I need more than that. a good tongue and G spot works best and I like long thick penis with a curve

  8. Nice article ! What I found myself with a few of my sessions over the past week, I notice is being discussed. It is not necessary that you speak these words…but during foreplay, women should allow men to liberally feel the pussy with their hands first and then with their lips, tongue much later. Men on their part use their fingers to gently (for first two minutes) and then with a little hard (for next two minutes) over the pussy lips and lightly inside and then quite liberally (for next two minutes)put fingers to rub the clit in circular motion and then when she likes than insert the fingers with palm facing you gently and locate the rough-skinned g-spot and give gentle but firm rubs. That’s it. Everything is place for a fabulous session then-after. In fact chances are she already cum once and when be very pleased to go for the very next with more passion, and energy to now satisfy you totally. This animal-like feeling she gets now to satisfy you back is what you should aim for, before you seriously get thinking about satisfying yourself. If the above is achieved, you get nice 10-15 minutes of full-filling session for both the sexes and you look-forward to having it more often this way…and the next times create variations of all positions that is women-on-top always. Again the animal-spirits of her helps you to as well be satisfied…

  9. My question is: How do you find the clitoris before engorgement?
    An engorged clitoris is 3 times larger than unengorged clitoris.

  10. Dear Susan, The way you have explained in the above valuable information,
    I was dreaming that i am actually doing it with my GF and i am experiencing pleasure out of that. Thanks for the guidance will definitely adopt in practice.

  11. we r eager to this one without any fee

  12. I have to say when i signed up on this webiste for the info. i have to say i thought it would be a waste of time. I could not have been more wrong Susan you and the ladies over at PLM are amazing much needed info. where were you guys when i was in my 20′s lol. On a serious note i can’t thank you enough for all the info on how to please the ladies. As a single Mature Man dating a few women let’s just say the activity has picked up in my bedroom x10. Fellas try and not use the info for evil. That pic at the start of the email good lord where do you find these beautiful women, she’s amazing.

    Kevin
    Newark NJ

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