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What Porn Men Really Consume

What Porn Men Really Consume

Last week I wrote an article called, “What Turns Women On? Her Primal Sex Triggers“ She wants to be adored and feel like she’s sexually irresistible to you. The findings came from a fascinating book, “A Billion Wicked Thoughts.” Men want to “induce feelings of erotic fantasy in their partner through their sexual prowess.”

What kind of porn do men really consume? Though the youth and gay porn categories rank first and second, the following are in the top ten of all searches:

  • MILFs
  • Breasts
  • Cheating Wives (Also called cuckhold porn and the second most popular heterosexual interest on search engines, these men also view the greatest number of videos.)
  • Vaginas
  • Butt

The top adult sites, as of the book’s printing were:

  • Pornhub 16 million unique visitors a month
  • RedTube 10 mil
  • XHamster 10 mil
  • YouPornm 8 mil
  • XNXX 7mil
  • And now XVideo is the #1 site.

What’s interesting again is that though 16 and 18 are the most common age-related searches, #3, 4 and 5 respectively are for 50 year old women, 40 year old women and 60 year old women.

Men, especially men over 35, like to watch videos with women we would consider to be middle-aged.   Further, though Teen and Young are the largest searches, the combination of Mom, MILF, Grannies, Old, Older, Cougar and Mature out pulls the youth by a considerable margin.  Group sex is a highly ranked category. Vintage porn from the 70′s and 80′s is also highly viewed.

Men like to look at body parts in addition to videos of women in sexual situations. The parts men are drawn to are breasts, butt, feet, hips and “feminine features.”  Interestingly, foot erotica was often linked to submission content.

Some of the most popular sexual searches in the Top 20 are MILFs, Breasts, Cheating Wives, Vaginas, Amateurs, Mature, Animation, Domination and Submission and Grannies.

The reason men view porn?

DISTRACTION.

Men want to be transported. Men take a break by watching porn.

This is “me time” for men. A moment of pure pleasure that triggers your primal brain and feeds it what it desires. Pictures of the feminine form enjoying sexuality.

One of the reasons amateur porn is so popular is because it’s authentic. If men want to “induce feelings of erotic fantasy in their partner through their sexual prowess” then the women in amateur porn are truly enjoying themselves. Hence the popularity.

Top types of comments on porn are:

1) Praise for a woman’s attractiveness.

2) Praise for a piece of anatomy.

3) Praise for a woman’s authentic pleasure.

Comments such as, “She loves it!” “Look how excited she is!” “Would more cocks make her happier?” illustrate how important it is to determine the authenticity of a woman’s pleasure.

No Faking! (this upsets men)

Men are wired to pay attention to whether their partner is engaged and responsive during sex. And with 65% of women reporting they have faked orgasms, it’s no wonder men are fearful they are not satisfying their woman.

They are thinking, “If I’m not turning her on, who is?”

The more pleasure he provides, the more likely she will have sex with him again.

Squirting (female ejaculation) is an unfakable sign and is the third most popular search on PornHub.

It’s not surprising that the most common sexual searches are all “how to:”

  • have sex
  • give head
  • finger a girl
  • last longer in bed
  • eat a girl out
  • eat pussy
  • make a girl wet
  • give great head
  • kiss
  • make a girl squirt

What I find most fascinating about this list of search terms is that they are newbie search terms. Men who have been with a partner for a while may feel that they have their sexual techniques dialed in. Or they believe they are satisfying their woman. Or for many guys, they are simply too lazy to keep learning.

The good news is that you don’t hit your sexual maturation until well into middle age and you continue to be an excellent lover well into your 50′s and 60′s (and for many men, they are sexually active into their 80′s and beyond). So it behooves you to continue to pursue lifelong learning about both technique as well as sexual communication skills.

Many men who used to have libraries of porn DVD’s are now beginning to collect a library of advanced sexual mastery techniques and sexual communication skills that allow to them be certain they are inducing feelings of erotic fantasy in their partner through their sexual prowess.

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5 Comments

  1. As usual you’re right on the button (no pun intended). You’re amazing!

  2. Hi Sue,
    Thanks for more of your insightful, informative and ever optimistic observations.
    The men over thirty five may have given up on thoughts of youthful totty or actually enjoy the signs of a life “lived” as mapped out in laugh lines etc., in the more mature woman. Think fine wine and Scotch Whisky.
    The point you make about mutual enjoyment is bang on (pun intended). When a partner has lost interest, done me a “favour” or not enjoyed herself I have been gutted. In that case, Sheri’s “practice on your own instrument” is preferable. It’s better all round.
    Maybe this is why promises of “free sex” from “Bored housewives” is more attractive than brothels. Is there more of the connection we crave from a like minded individual than a business woman making a living or feeding a habit?
    Your Seduce Her Tonight and Seduction Accelerator programmes are tremendous eye openers and are helping melt hearts at home as well as improving my relationships with all the women I come across (pun not intended).
    Thanks again to you, Dr Patti, Sloane & Tallulah. x.

  3. I love how Susan addresses these grimy male topics with such quality and class. Very hard to do.

    Looking back, I wish she had got to me earlier.

    As she said, so many guys are throwing away their porn stash in exchange for a library of sexual mastery techniques and sexual communication programs. To me, thats a far better investment of my time than porn.

    Why watch it, when I can learn to have it in real life?

  4. I have watched porn very little. And only a few minutes when I did. Names of any sites are not known by me. Because I am 88 years old is not a reason to watch porn. Never did when I was younger.

    Occasionally I watched a lesbian film and from the women having sex which each other, I have become slower and more loving and gentle.

    I have always been successful in helping any woman to orgasm however long it takes. I will study your valuable courses especially in giving multiple orgasms. I know now from PLM that women can have many orgasms during a session. That was an exciting thing to learn.

    My body gets excited when I see the many nude photos of my woman’s slender and sexy body. Her sister has taken them of her and she has emailed them to me.

    Masturbating in different positions is superior for me to any porn.
    We live in different countries and had one date two years ago when we met in her country. We plan to marry soon. She is ready to squirt, have anal and threesomes as well as oral sex with each other every morning after I eat her to wake her and she gives me oral until we get up for breakfast. She is 37.

    Your concept of easy offers has resulted in juicy responses from her via hot spicy emails. We both love each other and in 25-30 years, I may need to review your Revive your Drive. If so, it will be in my library from you Susan. But I am confident that the Drive will be magnificent for each of us all during our life together.
    Matt

  5. First, thank you so much to Susan and the Personal Life Media team for their brilliant hard work on helping people in relationships and in sexual matters.

    Susan wrote: “The reason men view porn? DISTRACTION. Men want to be transported. Men take a break by watching porn. This is “me time” for men. A moment of pure pleasure that triggers your primal brain and feeds it what it desires. Pictures of the feminine form enjoying sexuality.”

    In the free PDF you gave us recently by Jim Benson on erectile dysfunction (Getting Hard Instantly on Command), he gives porn as the #1 cause: porn disrupts the dopaminergic craving system by desensitisation, so that erectile dysfunction can occur.
    I’m not arguing no-porn. I strongly advocate your sensuality courses and your suggested lifelong sensuality and sexuality learning. I think porn can be educational. But I also feel that a lot of these men that are being ‘distracted’ by porn and having ‘me’ time, are rather having their dopaminergic craving/wanting/addictive systems messed up. Evolutionarily, in times of scarcity, the wanting system is attracted to anything that may be rewarding. This behaviour was vital to survival. However, liking does not increase in parallel with wanting, which is how the two distinct systems of wanting and liking were discovered. The modern world of advertising and marketing brilliantly exploits the wanting system, making us want and therefore buy and acquire things, without necessarily liking them. In people, especially those without self-regulation, this leads to the likes of overeating, gambling, drugs and so on. The ancient evolutionary system was vital to survival, but is now counter-productive. So, porn can be counter-productive. Today’s surfeit of porn confuses our primal brain.
    You may want to watch this video (http://www.guardian.co.uk/science/video/2012/may/18/neuroscience-psychology) for further insight on the two distinct wanting (dopaminergic) and liking (cannabinoids, opiods) systems. In other words, porn brings a ‘A moment of pure craving [not necessarily pleasure or liking] that disrupts [not triggers] your primal brain.’

    Finally, Susan said: “One of the reasons amateur porn is so popular is because it’s authentic.” I’d rather say: ‘One of the reasons amateur porn is so popular is because it’s more likely to be authentic.’!! I’d certainly search for amateur over pro porn for this reason.

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