Conscious thinking means you become aware of what you are thinking. You watch your own thoughts. And you realize they are just that: thoughts. Not gospel. Not “the truth.” There are a zillion truths.
Plenty of lovers come up with a fantasy that appeals to their partner, even if they never thought of it themselves. The wonderful moment when you shout out to a lover some kinky new desire and they are just as excited by the idea as you — those may not be fantasies you came up with to cope with your fear of abandonment or not being loved by your caretakers — your parents.
Conscious thinking means you become aware of what you are thinking. You watch your own thoughts. And you realize they are just that: thoughts. Not gospel. Not “the truth.” There are a zillion truths.
Plenty of lovers come up with a fantasy that appeals to their partner, even if they never thought of it themselves. The wonderful moment when you shout out to a lover some kinky new desire and they are just as excited by the idea as you — those may not be fantasies you came up with to cope with your fear of abandonment or not being loved by your caretakers — your parents.
