A woman’s sexual peak is not at 18 years old and it’s not at 35… Contrary to urban legend, a woman’s sexual peak comes at whatever point she puts her attention on her sex life… with or without a partner. Because our sexual growth is our own experience and does not require another person, we can reach our peak solo as well as through a lover’s kind encouragement.
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Remove The Roadblocks
Because of our cultural baggage, including slut shaming, patriarchal styles of sex, sexual abuse and trauma, body image issues, fear-based sexual education, the Madonna Whore conundrum, and other constructs that shut down a woman’s sexuality, it takes many women years to feel confident enough to listen to their bodies and ask for what they need to be sexually satisfied. And those are the lucky ones. Most women give up on sex because it hasn’t satisfied them and it’s easier to avoid than be continually disappointed.
Add to this road of speed bumps the fact that men, being testosterone-dominant are generally more horny on a daily basis. Comparatively, women ebb and flow in estrus (their horny window) over a 28-day moon cycle even after menopause. We gals are more likely to want sex around ovulation, instead of every day. Count 9 days from the start of their period or the full moon to pinpoint their most likely time to welcome your advances. And even though females have the same amount of erectile tissue in our genitals that creates the pleasurable sensations of orgasm, we are slower to engorge or get erect. Yes! Women need to get erect too. Our male-bodied partners have the benefit of lightening-speed hemodynamics or blood flow to the penis. This gives them fast acting erections, making them ready to have sex much sooner than their female partners. Most women have been rushed into intercourse too often, making it very hard for them to achieve orgasm from the act. If you don’t climax from penetration, or your partner can’t last long enough to satisfy you, you are less and less likely over time to want to make love.
All of these differences between the sexes can be confounding to the men who want nothing more than to give their woman incredible sexual pleasure. Often men are extremely frustrated and don’t know what to do to get their woman to want sex, enjoy sex, have orgasmic bliss — much less ever initiate sex. Over time this can feel like rejection to a man. He will withdraw emotionally and without him being the champion of the couple’s sexual adventures, the sex wanes and the couple becomes begrudgingly platonic.
“I want what they are having!”
When a couple is having amazing sex together, you can see and feel it in the way they connect with each other. Sex is healthy. It’s good for us. It keeps us young. And when we are not having it, we prematurely age and miss the heart-connected, hormone exploding, pleasure-filled experience that is our birthright.
Four Fundamentals of Seduction
The trick to having lifelong great sex that keeps getting better with age is understanding that there are some basic fundamentals of the man/woman sexual dynamic that you can shortcut so you don’t end up in a sexless relationship. If you’re in a same sex relationship, these tenets can still hold true. Here are four fundamentals of seduction:
1) If you’re the high desire partner, turn around, SLOW DOWN (and then slow down some more) and help your lover get into their sexy state of mind and body. Arousal begins in relaxation. Foreplay can be as sensual and satisfying as the sex itself.
2) Stop trying to “get sex.” Get present and connect your hearts and you’ll increase your chances of generating some delicious pleasure together. The more you give without expectation, the better chance your partner will get in the mood. Nobody can perform under pressure. When your expectation is sensual fun, rather than penetration, more penetrations becomes available.
If every time you touch your partner it’s to get sex, they will begin to avoid you. Recreate trust by simply enjoying holding your partner, giving them butterfly kisses, massaging their body wherever it wants touch, and verbally expressing your adoration. These are the keys that unlock the lust.
3) Make your lover many sensual offers. The more “right sized” the offers are, the more often they will say, “yes!” Rejection comes from making offers that are too big. “Do you want to have sex,” is too large an offer. Perhaps, an offer for cuddling, a massage, or even just a walk in the woods to get the blood flowing would be met with enthusiasm. From there you can slowly escalate. In this free guide, More Sex More Often, you can discover how to effortlessly make offers that lead to way more sex.
4) You can help your lover explore their sexual potential by assuming the role of the sexual trainer in your relationship. YOu’re always training your partner, either implicitly or explicitly with your behaviors. Why not activate your masculine sexual leadership? When you introduce novelty and variety into your sex life, lovemaking becomes an adventure.
The 3 Keys of A Master Sexual Trainer are:
1) Appreciate
2) Communicate
3) Incubate
Why is your partner going to love being trained by you?
- You’ll show them you are fully there (present and attentive).
- You’ll reassure them that you feel their turn-on—even if they are still searching for it.
- You’ll make it safe and exciting for them, and value their feedback.
- In return, they will get the message that you mean business… you are going for the gold… their gold!
- Do all this… and they will naturally want to learn even more… including what you like to give… and receive.
Watch This Free Video On How to Be a Master Sexual Trainer ⇒ The Seduction Trilogy
A Lifelong Joy Ride
A person’s sexual maturation can be a lifelong joy ride, if they set the intention to be a sexual being at every age. Each decade brings new adventures and desires. We are constantly evolving sexually, as are our appetites for different experiences.
In our twenties, sex is new and we are learning the basics. We may experiment to “find ourselves” sexually, but this finding is a lifelong journey. In our thirties we may be focused on raising a family or winning at work. By the time we are in our forties, we begin to gently perceive our mortality. This makes many people strive to create sexual scenarios that want to cross off their bucket list. It may surprise you to learn that a midlife crisis can often trigger an explosion of sexual growth. Many women have their first orgasms in their forties.
In our fifties, we begin to let go of perfection and become a bit more sexually confident. In our sixties we hit a sweet spot of accumulated sexual skill with lots of patience and more time to explore. Many Tantric lovers are in their midlife, called to find the spirituality in their sexuality. In our seventies, if we’ve taken care of our health, kept our genitals in good shape with
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As a sixty year old woman, I’m having the best sex of my life. And I keep saying that year after year after year because my husband and I keep appreciating, communicating and incubating new ideas to co-create pleasure together. Once you get into this sexual training mode, you begin to train each other toward even more new fun ideas. And that’s the best thing about sex. It keeps on giving. It can always get better. There is no limit to how much pleasure you can have. You can have a renaissance in your relationship at any time and at any age. Keep the faith and work the system and you too can have the most outrageous, life-affirming sexual pleasure of anyone you know.
