Singles looking to start an excellent relationship…
And couples wishing to make their current relationship bloom even more…
I just discovered a NEW way you can take all the friction and risk out of your relationship, marriage, or dating experience.
How? By putting it into writing.
This may sound far-out for some people, but if you’re a person who likes to do quirky “couples” exercises, this one’s right up your alley.
One of my readers, Dr. David Murphy of Sydney, Australia, introduced me to this beautiful idea.
For many, this common law Relationship Agreement is a beneficial, renewable, and flexible way to achieve the most out of your relationship, marriage, or dating life.
Relationship Agreement
The Relationship Agreement provides a blueprint you can follow.
The Relationship Agreement, or RA, is a renewable set of rules, goals, expectations, and boundaries you set for each other.
Think of it as a “contract” for a project.
Every year you “renew” your RA together. You both review, update or change any of the details you agreed to uphold. You can take out the details you want. You can add more.
However, you both have to decide on them.
These details can include schedules and frequency of date nights, modes of communication, vacation plans… whatever is vital for the two of you.
Since finances can cause disagreements in relationships, you can also choose to include the running costs of your relationship in your RA. You can decide if it should be split 50/50 or however you want.
What else can you have in your RA? Well, according to Dr. David Murphy, anything under the sun. Anything and everything that you want to measure.
If you have specific goals in your relationship, like having your first child, getting in shape together, or traveling outside the country, include them.
If you have particular requests, such as wanting your partner to show more affection, initiative, and leadership, or more patience and less nagging, by all means, include them.
I’m always a believer in the saying, “What is measured gets managed. What gets managed gets done.”
The Relationship Agreement is for those not afraid to set up mutually agreed upon rules and boundaries and have it in writing.
It’s a NEW, quirky, and fun way to work on your relationship.
I love coming up with and discovering new and fascinating ways to help people achieve the connection and intimacy they desire.
