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Romance Trick# 2: No. 1 Relationship Mistake?

Welcome to Part 2 of my Romance Challenge Series. Read on to learn about relationship values.

Each week I’ll drop one of my road-tested Romance Tricks That Work Like Magic to add zing to your love life. If you’re solo now, practice this tip on friends. They love to be loved by you too. 

If you missed tip #1, click here > Romance Trick #1: Are you doing this?

Here’s Romance Trick #2: The Error of The Golden Rule (scroll down)

Are you committing the most common relationship mistake people make? 

If you’re using the Golden Rule, i.e., “Do unto others what you want others to do unto you,” then you’re doing it wrong. Well, for relationships anyway. 

Here’s what I mean. 

There are some precise reasons you chose to be in a relationship. Or at least thinking about getting in a relationship. 

What are they? Sex, home-cooked meals, companionship, security, family, adventure? 

There are particular things that — if you didn’t get them — it wouldn’t be worth being in a relationship — you would choose to go it alone.

It’s the same for your partner. There are precise reasons for them being in a relationship instead of being single.

There are specific things your partner values that are the reasons why they’re with you.

And you know what? Your list is likely wildly different from their list.

Many women value security, family ritual, faith, humor, trust.

Men often regard passion, recreational companionship, a quiet, loving home, and a woman who takes care of her health and beauty as necessary.

What are your “Relationship Values™?”

Having a conversation with your significant other about what they MUST HAVE to be in a relationship and sharing with them what YOU VALUE is the first step.

The second step is getting up and focusing on giving them value instead of giving them what YOU value.  When your lover puts their energy into giving you what you value, instead of giving you what she’s trying to get, your romance catches fire.

Once you both get your unique needs met, you’ll see how satisfying your life can be.

Simply doing the exercise of getting clear on each other’s Relationship Values may be the best conversation you two ever have. 


Now you can use the Platinum Rule of Relationships: Treat your partner the way THEY want to be treated, not the way YOU want to be treated… And have them do the same for you.

You can get the Relationship Magic workbook on Amazon. But here’s a link to get the downloadable version for $9.99 as one of my newsletter readers.

Relationship Magic Live and Love The Platinum Rule (Discover your 4 top relationship values!)

Here are some free additional resources about discovering each other’s Relationship Values.™

Relationship Values™: Your Needs and Her Needs ⇐ Click To Read

How To Discuss Your Relationship Values With Her ⇐ Click To Read

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