The 5 Pillars of Passion

At this point, we could ALL use romance in our lives.

But what is romance?

What makes something romantic?

Do people have different romantic styles?

In 2012, I studied “romance” for a whole year by reading at least 30 books and papers on the subject. I did the research, talked to people, and discovered that there are five types of romance.

Romance falls into one of five categories.

I called these categories “The 5 Pillars of Passion.”

The five types of romance are:

1. Mindfulness

2. Sensate Connection

3. Playful Adventure

4. Erotic Communication

5. Declarations

You can’t go wrong doing all five. But certain people like certain types better.

Kinesthetic people like body-based expressions of passion best. Those who are auditory appreciate erotic communication. Here is a free audio interview called Love Lines from Dr. Patti. She and Daka Raj discuss the Open Mind system of seducing your partner based on whether they are dominantly visual, auditory, or kinesthetic.

Once you know your Open Mind states, your romance and intimacy come alive.

Another way to assess romantic preferences is using the People Code, a technique from the book of the same name. It breaks us down into four types based on our core motivation: Power (red), Intimacy (blue), Peace (white), and Fun (yellow). People who are “yellow’s” love Playful Adventure.

When you are partnered, knowing what romantic expressions please your partner the most is good. And it’s beneficial to see what you like the best. When you’re single, you can explain this to a new date. You can ask them what they like best, to get to know them.

Guide your partner by telling them what is most important to you. Refrain from making them guess. Let them win by pleasing you easily.