Did You Forget To Have Fun?
Here are games you can play with an intimate friend when you’re missing each other, miles apart, or even in the same room.
This works whether you’re still single and want to get closer and more intimate with someone you like or whether you’re dating/married.
These games are meant to be joyful and exciting. They support your mutual personal growth.
You can play all but the most sensual of these with a friend if you’re single. (These games run over all the obstacles in the friend zone).
My reason for creating this list of connected experiences was originally for singles to use on video chats. I’ve been encouraging all my single fans to get on eHarmony and Bumble and use their video chat feature. Practice at one or both dating websites while waiting for the NEW latest dating app.
Then I realized I’d done this with my husband many times. So these are fantastic if you want to amplify your intimacy with your partner.
Everybody needs to play some sexy games!
The Sexy Video Chat Games are below (you can also play them at home in the same room), along with how to play them. I will also show you how to set an exciting frame for a Sexy Video Chat Game date so you peak your participants’ energy.
TURNS FRIENDS INTO LOVERS
Here are the 8 Sexy Video Chat Games:
1. Top Ten Touch
2. King’s/Queen’s Choice
3. Mirror Movement Minute
4. Lion’s Play
5. Animalistic Impersonation
6. Ecstatic Dance
7. Romantic Reveal
8. Circling
I’ll describe them here, but please don’t miss below how to set up these games so they are entertaining (and not awkward or weird).
1. Top Ten Touch
You agree to share ten ways you enjoy being touched in this game. Your friend will give you ideas for pleasurable touch. Explain how you love to get your face massaged. Show them how to do it. Movement is the idea. Describe how you like to be touched by showing your partner. Get your body involved.
2. Mirror Movement Minute
Set a timer on your phone for 1 minute. One person follows the other person’s movements by mirroring what they do as closely as possible. Discover which person prefers leading or following. Adjust to make your personal experience as fun as possible. Laugh as much as you can. Be lighthearted and playful. Play over again as many times as you like.
3. Romantic Reveal
Take your partner on a tour of the most romantic locations in your home. Explain what it is about this room, the area, and the memories that make this the place you envision a romantic interlude. Talk about steamy fantasies.
4. Lion’s Play
In this game, pretend you are two lions on the Serengeti separated by a magic glass wall. The sun is warm. The plains are quiet except for some birds twittering in the tree you’re reclining under. It’s a glorious and relaxing day, and an adorable lion is looking at you. You go up to the glass. You sniff. You bat one paw at the screen. You roar. You meow. You flick your tail seductively. Flirt with your lion or lioness. How can you show your lion(ess) that you’d like to roll around with them in play?
This game can quickly morph into:
5. Animalistic Impersonation
Now that you’ve explored your feline side, what other animals do you admire for their ability to play and to feel good?
A dolphin cavorting the waves? Is a snake awakening your kundalini energy? A coyote howling at the moon?
Show off your best impersonation of animals showing the joy of being alive.
6. Ecstatic Dance
Put on some freeform dance music of your liking. Electronic Dance Music, EDM, is suitable for this game. Both of you dance to it by surrendering yourself to the music. Dance like nobody’s there. Practice surrendering to your pleasure under the gaze of an intimate friend. Dance long enough that you start feeling comfortable and having fun. Remember to enjoy how good your body feels when dancing with other beings.
7. King’s/Queen’s Choice
This advanced game is best done after a few video chat dates or sexy date game nights at home. This game requires you to be vulnerable. The vulnerability lets you play outside your comfort zone. Vulnerability creates intimacy. Sharing how you feel or about something you want is one way of achieving instant personal growth.
In this game, you brainstorm ideas of things the two of you could do to have fun over video. If this is a date between lovers or potential lovers, you are welcome to make this as sexy as you think the other person would like.
Try to each come up with three, five, or even ten ideas by going back and forth. Don’t overthink it. Just get your head in the place of thinking about what you’d like to do with your King or Queen over a video that would excite, enthrall and energize you.
Alternate between sharing something you’d enjoy without any guilt or shame. You don’t need to act on these ideas. These are just brainstorms.
In the end, you will each choose up to three things you heard your Queen or King say that sounded fun. What most intrigued you from their list of ideas?
Then they will tell you their favorite three ideas you thought up.
You never have to act on any of them, or you can set up a date to do one next or a derivative of one of the seeds of an enticing playdate that came out of this King’s/Queen’s Choice Game.
8. Circling
Our final game is a technique used in personal growth groups in San Francisco. It’s a technique called “Circling.” It was invented by Guy Sengstock, Jerry Candelaria (RIP), and a lively group of analysis aficionados, including our Jim Benson. You share your body sensations with your partner. After you go, they share the body sensations as you spoke and their body sensations now.
Here’s an example:
“Right now, I’m excited to video chat with you because I love every interaction. They are precious moments for me because I love your mind and body. My whole body is buzzing with excitement when I’m with you. I feel heady — my head is “floaty” and dreamy. I find you dreamy.
I have a little lump in my throat telling you this. It’s still hard for me to give verbal compliments from past programming.
Right on my breastbone, my chest feels flushed and warmer than usual.
My body is tired and has been for so many weeks. There’s profound exhaustion at the base of all my other sensations.
My jaw is a little tight… I’m not relaxed enough to talk yet. I haven’t been speaking much to anyone lately. I find it tiring. I’ve been more introverted lately.
My breasts feel full. I want to take my top off for you on this call. You always say I have “legendary boobies.” So I like you to get to see them. I have a sensation of heaviness, of weight in my breasts. They long to be picked up and admired.
I’m noticing I’m sucking my stomach right now. And I have butterflies in my Yoni. The feeling isn’t lusting. It’s light.”
That’s an example of how you describe your body sensation to your King.
Your King might respond:
“I immediately felt thrilled hearing you say such nice things about me. I feel buzzy hanging on your every word. What you said was sexy, and I started getting aroused listening to you. I find sensual talk very arousing. My chest expanded, and I could feel my lungs taking deeper breaths to calm myself down. When you talked about your breasts feeling heavy, my mouth watered.”
That’s what Circling is—expressions of vulnerability that you frame as physical sensations.
Circling brings another dimension of connection to achieve a deeper intimate relationship.
The setup is critical to the pleasure you get.
CREATING PEAK MOMENTS
Set up a time with your partner to do one of the games above. Get on Bumble or eHarmony, start talking to people, and set up Meet and Greet Video Chat dates. You can’t get to Sexy Video Chat Dates until you start doing some Meet and Greet Chat Dates.
The way forward is to take the first step.
