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What Is Backdoor Sex? Answering Your Questions on Anal Sex for Beginners [Mailbag]

Rick writes, “What’s your take on anal. And how do women climax from anal sex?”

Anal sex can be incredibly pleasurable. It provides a different kind of orgasm than strictly clitoral or vaginal stimulation.

There are sensitive nerve endings around the anus. And the feeling of being filled up and stimulated in the rectum can be incredibly pleasurable.

There is also a spongy erectile tissue similar to the urethral sponge (also called the G-Spot) that gets stimulated during anal sex. This is called the perineal sponge.

Suppose you stimulate her P-Spot by inserting a toy, fingers, or penis in her rectum and pressing from the other side of the wall inside her vagina. In that case, it feels as good as G-Spot stimulation – deeply satisfying.

See the green spot I drew on the anatomical image below. You can see the location of the perineal sponge that feels so good when stimulated by fingers or the penis from either the vagina, rectum, or both.

Her pudendal nerve also branches off to become the rectal, perineal, and clitoral nerves. So all the sensation from the entire vulvar area goes to the brain through the same channel. Touching her clitoris, internal vaginal canal, and rectum simultaneously can stimulate her significantly.

The movements would be small – you’re not finger-banging her – you’re palpating and lightly pulsing those areas (unless she asks for more).

Generally, if you’re a guy, slow down whatever you’re doing. And then go half as fast from there. Keep yourself in check. Don’t overdrive her system.

Women climax from anal because all those nerve endings and erectile tissue feel great when stimulated slowly and with mindfulness.

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Adding a vibrator to her clitoris while you’re penetrating her rectum with fingers, a toy, or a penis if she’s aroused and wants that stimulation can give her an entirely new category of orgasms. Inserting a dildo or,

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Here is my opinion on some important things regarding anal sex:

1) NEVER put toys, fingers, or penises that have touched her anus or been inside her rectum near or inside a woman’s vaginal area.

Use tight-fitting polyurethane or polypropylene gloves for any touching. For sex, I like these black gloves because it feels less medical and more sexy. Take them off inside out and throw them away as you go.

Being safe and responsible is sexy. Insist on this.

Clean as you go.

Use lubrication. You can use organic distilled or fractionated coconut oil or health-grade avocado or sweet almond oil.

Some people act like you MUST use a silicone lubricant for anal play. Personally, if you’re warmed up and fully engorged and aren’t rushing, your ass will open up and relax. Nut oils are fine as long as you use polyurethane condoms and gloves, and silicone toys.

Use a condom for penis penetration and over the toys you insert anally. It’s cleaner.

2) You can get parasites from anal sex.

I do not recommend “rimming.” 

Some people are very turned on by “eating ass.” It’s depicted in porn, which is not reality. And I’m sure there are ass-eaters out there who have perfected the art of keeping clean with enemas and such.

I don’t practice eating or having my ass eaten because I think it’s generally unsanitary.

Think about cleanliness and comfort when you pursue anal pleasure.

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