“The difference between a marriage full of passionate lovemaking that keeps getting better or a life of bitterness and deep-seated resentment with the woman who is supposed to be your life partner.”
Understand what’s motivating her talons to scratch, so you can turn that wildness into animalistic bedroom sex.
Dear Susan,
I have tried with total focus to apply everything that has been taught with your Revive Her Drive Program and it has actually made things worse between my wife and myself.
SHE WAS ENJOYING THE ROMANCE
At first it seemed to be working and our day to day relationship was showing signs of starting to improve, then she “caught on” to the fact that “something was different”. My wife said that I seemed to be much better and she was enjoying how I was treating her better. But a couple of days later she said to me, “I figured out what is going on. You have been using some kind of date drugs on me or you have been using some other tricks that you learned from your damned “internet porn” and I am not going to put up with any more of it.”
She is now extra suspicious of everything I do, thinking that if I am anything but rotten to her then I am just doing it with some evil ulterior motive.
In light of this turn of events, I guess I am one of your failures, I am sorry to say.
Rob
MY ADVICE
Hi Rob,
I am sorry your wife is so distrustful of your bids for intimacy.
It is very heart-breaking for you both.
And, you are NOT ALONE. This is a very, very, VERY common situation.
Many men have come through this and have been able to turn their wife into a woman who loves to have sex with them, even going so far as to initiate sex.
Understand that for her, she just got scared. Anger is often just pent up arousal.
You said she seemed to be responding at first. Perhaps you went too fast and didn’t take your time following the steps inside Revive Her Drive in the right order?
That’s OK. You guys have a tendency to rush these things… Not your fault, you are ready to go and she’s just not there yet.
Based on the little bit that you told me, she likely has a lot of sexual insecurity.
This comes from lack of experience, along with societal and religious repression.
(Sometimes there is also hidden abuse in a woman’s background.)
The #1 thing I want you to know is that you cannot give up.
If you retreat the minute she pushes back on you, it signals to her that you are not masculine enough to handle her desires.
She’s not even aware this is what’s going on. In her rational mind, what she’s doing makes sense.
You will need to stay strong to lead her to her sexual potential.
I’d like you to consider talking to one of our sex coaches to help you apply the four elements of revival from day to day so you don’t get this pushback and instead slowly and surely move her toward her sexual potential.
CALL IN BACK UP SUPPORT
Our coaches are trained to give you the courage to stand up to her push back and have the break through experiences that mean the difference between a marriage full of passionate lovemaking that keeps getting better or a life of bitterness and deep-seated resentment with the woman who is supposed to be your life partner.
Some guys do really well going it alone with Revive Her Drive. But other men need a little more support in the form of someone experienced to talk to to see their way clear.
Revive Her Drive will show you the steps to take to get back to passionate sex with your wife, and a coach can provide that glue and encouragement and a way to see clearly what is happening in the day to day.
Some husbands try vacation sex, gifts and presents, or taking a mistress. All of these are a helluva lot more expensive than a couple sessions a month with your own personal Sex, Love and Intimacy coach.
If a guy will work with a Golf Pro on his swing, why wouldn’t he talk to a sex coach about resparking the passion, right?
You have a real live wire there. She’s going to fight you hard, so it’s best to understand what’s motivating her talons to scratch so you can turn that wildness into animalistic bedroom sex.
Ladies, coaching works just as well for you if your man is not bringing it to you in the bedroom.
One Response
I am a woman and my husband doesn’t have any interest anymore. I tried to tell him what I need and he is just not responding. I bought the ‘Revive her drive’ hoping it would help; but, he doesn’t think he needs it because I’m interested already. Our problem is related to masculine / feminine issues. I don’t know how to fix it.