I appreciate the following email from a loyal fan who is going soft because he’s up in his head during sex.
As a lover, it’s natural to want to perform at your best in the bedroom.
However, anxiety and self-doubt can get in the way of truly enjoying the moment and giving your partner the pleasure they deserve.
One common fear among men is getting “soft” during sex. This anxiety can lead to “being up in your head” and not fully present with your lover, leading to a less satisfying experience for both partners.
But the good news is that this fear is completely normal and there are ways to overcome it.
Presence is among the top 3 things women crave from a guy in their relationships and sex life. Check out his email and my response below.
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“Dear Susan,
I have completed your penis pumping schedule along with the P-Shot and GAINSWave therapy. I am also on testosterone replacement. While my flaccid penis does not appear to have grown in length or girth, my erect penis has gotten much more significant in girth and length and firmer.
My girlfriend says my penis is longer and the circumference is larger, but I was always a grower, not a shower. She loved my penis before and loves it even more now.
I added about an inch in length and about .75 in girth.
However, the new problem is between my ears. I am having problems staying in the moment when I am with her. This causes a loss of my erection and is now causing me not to get erect because all I can think about is not messing things up with her. Any books you can recommend?
Any recommendations would be appreciated. Thanks!” — Darren (not his real name)
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Dear Darren,
Get to the root of why you’re putting all this pressure on yourself and your girlfriend.
What are your deep beliefs and fears that are making you do this?
Focus on being in the moment.
I’ve done two videos with Jim Benson on how to be present during sex. These videos speak to guys, but when they know how to be present, MOST of the benefit goes to us gals:
The Tuning Fork Technique That Triggers Her Intense Orgasms ⇐ Presence Explained
Both these videos explain how to be more present and less “in your head” trying to DO your lover instead of simply connecting with her.
This book has three techniques to lower anxiety.
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