You know the saying, when emotion is high, intelligence is low.
If you’ve ever regretted saying something but you just hoped it would blow over. Here’s a new way to communicate that works better than saying sorry.
Today I will teach you one of my favorite conscious communication techniques.
This will help you co-create a Sexual Soulmate relationship with your partner (or future partner.) You can also use this technique at work, with friends and family.
It’s called the “Do-Over” Communication technique.
For context, a Do-Over is when you “rewind” the hands of time to reset a moment that may lead to tension with someone.
It’s easy to explain on the fly, but it works best when it’s a skill you and your partner or friend both know about in advance.
So when one of you requests a Do-Over, both will participate.
For example:
If your partner triggers you for whatever reason, just request a do-over.
AVON: Where are the light bulbs?
BRETT: The same place they were when you asked me yesterday.
AVON: Ouch! Can I have a do-over?
BRETT: Sure. They are in the hall closet. And by the way, you asked me that same question yesterday.
AVON: Thank you.
For best results, both of you should understand that it’s not about covering up something they said when one requests a do-over.
But it means they were aware they said (or did) something that may cause tension and are conscious enough to admit it, take ownership, and politely request a safe Do-Over to set things straight again.
Here I am on the Sonoran Living Show explaining The Do-Over technique to Susan Casper and Terri Odette:
Click Here To Watch The Video ⇐ The Do-Over Technique
This skill will work if both are willing to observe the Do-Over rules.
Talk about this with your partner tonight, and plan on using the Do-Over technique the next time one of you says (or does) something you regret.
It will do wonders for your relationship. Trust me.
