Today’s wisdom comes from the brilliant Dr. Marty Klein—therapist, author, and educator. Here are three ways to verbally enhance your intimacy, which supports deepening your physical intimacy.
Dr. Klein notes, “For some people, reassurance, validation, and emotional relief are the real rewards of a meaningful relationship.”
I often encourage everyone, particularly men, to reassure their partners. (Yes, everyone appreciates it!)
The natural emotional fluctuations we experience can sometimes make us more anxious. In such times, reassurance strengthens emotional bonds and leadership within the relationship.
- Reassurance also fosters greater emotional harmony—balancing the energies between partners—which, in turn, deepens emotional connection.
Men especially appreciate validation – knowing they are doing an excellent job with things.
“You make me happy. I love being in your world.”
- Validation is a crucial aspect of feeling seen and essential. Acknowledging your partner for their emotional support, thoughtfulness, or being helpful when you’re together boosts their confidence and enhances your relationship.
“I am always so impressed with who you show up every day. I admire you as a person and a partner.”
And finally, the third and most appreciated verbal skill is positive feedback. Dr. Marty calls these words of affirmation.
- Affirmative words hold equal importance for both sexes. If partners struggle with emotional intimacy, they must feel validated and desirable. Everyone needs assurance that they are wanted in your life.
“You are the most important person in the world to me. I treasure you and feel so fortunate that we are together.”
If your partner is interested in exploring new emotional or experiential territories, validating their curiosity can make the journey more fulfilling for both of you. Dr. Klein emphasizes our need to feel emotionally “balanced” and “accepted.”
When you encourage, reassure, and validate your partner—making them feel loved, appreciated, and cherished—you alleviate their worries, reduce stress, and elevate their emotional well-being.
Express heartfelt words of appreciation to your partner. They, too, focus on pushing the boundaries of your comfort zone to explore new dimensions of emotional intimacy, passion, and overall personal and relationship growth.
