If your sexual patterns are flexible and you can give her whatever her body craves in the heat of the moment, she can fully unleash her sexual appetite. Rub my belly. Go down on me. Kiss me. Spank me. Rub my neck. I want to go down on you. Hold me for a minute. Can I have some water? I want to ride you. Pass the lube. Skip this song. Throw me over the back of the couch. Hold me down. Kiss me deeper. Suck my nipples. Oh, baby, that feels so good.
More women than ever before in history are sexually self-directed, opinionated, experienced, and demanding! They want a wider variety of sexual experiences, new positions, and more kinds of orgasms, from G-Spot to breast-gasms to anal-gasms to female ejaculation. Women also want to add toys to the lovemaking experience. And they want to experiment with new sex positions and have sex in new places. They are kinkier and more dominant than ever. And this guide will give you great ideas to pleasure your alpha woman.
Men are driven to want to satisfy their partners sexually. Simultaneously, they pressure themselves to know the “right” things to do to drive her wild with desire. They assume they should know what she wants and give it to her before she has to ask. And if she makes a request, they can take it as her being bossy or him not “doing it right.”
If you’re with a demure woman, she will go along with what you’re offering. But a strong woman has a mind of her own and makes specific requests. The three most important aspects of being with a strong woman that you can provide are:
1) Flexibility
Be accommodating to her requests, no matter how fast they change. A woman in touch with what her body wants in the heat of the moment is the most straightforward woman to satisfy. Feminine sexual energy is ever-changing when it’s allowed to flourish under the care of a confident partner.
2) Service
She may need a lot of stimulation of various sorts. Keep your energy high and deliver. You may need to work on your stamina over time with a strong woman. Getting
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3) Confidence
Don’t contract or take it badly when she makes a request. Never slut-shame her or make disparaging remarks about her sexual desires as a response to your insecurity. Her recommendations do not mean you are not doing an excellent job on your own. They suggest she feels comfortable enough to ask for what will feel best to her in the heat of the moment. This is the highest form of flattery a man can receive. Consider her requests for the cheat sheet to her happiness.
Hallmarks of a sexually assertive woman include:
She will ask for a sex date without any coyness. She’s honest in her desire for you. She is unashamed of her sexual appetite.
She knows how her body works and what kind of touch she needs at the moment. Sometimes it may be that she needs to be held and stroked sweetly. Other times she wants to throw you down on the bed and climb on top of you. Women range from kitty cats to lionesses within a single lovemaking date when they honor themselves at the moment.
Alpha women spend so much time in charge that they often want nothing more than to surrender to their erogenous pleasure. They need a lover who takes over their nervous system. She needs to be transported out of her head and into her body. She wants to have her circuits blown so hard with orgasms that she can’t even remember her name.
RUNNING MENUS
Women who are natural leaders still at times want their partners to take over and call the shots. Because she is confident in her own opinions and desires, she will know if this lovemaking date is where she wants to decide what you two will do together, or if she likes you just to tell her what to do. You can start the date by suggesting some ideas. I call this “running a menu.” When you offer her three ideas from small to large, you can get a sense of where her head is and what will give her the most satisfaction.
Baby, do you want a glass of wine and a foot rub…
Or do you want a sensual massage with warm oil…
Or do you want me to pick you up, carry you to the bed and kiss you deeply?
GET PHYSICAL
A woman with a dominant personality can be more physically forward, less passive. She may like to be lifted and moved around. Pick her up, carry her to the bedroom, and put her on the bed. She may like energetic sex positions. Often women with sexual strength are physically strong and want to press their body on you, feel resistance, wrestle or climb around doing different sex positions.
A way to support a woman is to ravish her with your masculine dominance. You can hold her body, grab the hair at the nape of her neck, use a more firm hand with her and be generally more aggressive — as long as you don’t hurt her. You can spank her and tell her what you want her to do to please you. Remember that spanking isn’t meant to be painful. It’s intended to stimulate the tissue in the back of her vulva and buttocks. Most women don’t want to experience pain. They want to feel more sensation. She has to trust that you can be a velvet hammer, not a sloppy slapper.
TELL HER WHAT YOU WANT HER TO DO
Buy her sexy lingerie and heels so high they are best for lying down. Lay them out on the bed. Tell her to go into the bedroom and put them on for you. Make her model them for you. Tell her how sexy she is and give her specific reasons why you love her body. The more precise your descriptions, the more she can believe what you’re saying is trustworthy and take it in.
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EMBODIED SEX
Many sexually strong women excel at talking dirty, making up sexy stories, moaning and making sounds of pleasure, and praising your penis and sexy body. While others love to be verbally dominant, demanding you to serve them in ways they want. This switching of roles can be very exciting for you both.
Passionate women like more aggressive kissing. They want you to kiss their lips. French kiss them with your tongue, deep kiss them and meet their ardor. They want to feel as much energy coming from you as they are giving out. You must bring intensity to the make-out.
Sexually confident women can be generally more comfortable looking you in the eyes. They will meet your gaze and hold it. They like to watch you come, and they want you to witness their pleasure. A woman with a strong sense of self is often more at ease with how they appear. These women like to watch themselves having sex in a mirror.
Lusty women tend to have a high capacity for orgasm. They want you to go down on them and give them oral-gasms. They want you to know how to provide them with pussy massages to warm up and engorge their vulvas. They know that clitoral erections are as vital for them as penile erections are for you. They want you to learn to finger them internally and externally and how to find just the right spots in every moment to take them over the edge of pleasure again and again without giving them clitoral fatigue.
VARIETY AND SPONTANEITY
Strong women appreciate the range of intercourse that runs from sweet lovemaking to giving her a good pounding where she can scream with pleasure. They want you to have authority over your ejaculatory choice. When you can manage your arousal such that you can choose when to climax, you can offer a sexually ravenous woman as much orgiastic pleasure as she can consume. Strong women don’t want you to hold back, so you don’t come too fast. They want to see your turn on, feel your desire, and have you show up with a hunger for them. They want you to be able to get rock hard, go soft, and get hard again for them so they can have hours of hot sex with rests between scenes. She wants you to have a healthy erectile function so you can last as long as she needs you to, so she becomes sexually satiated.
If your sexual patterns are flexible and you can give her whatever her body craves at the moment, she can fully unleash her sexual appetite. Rub my belly. Go down on me. Kiss me. Spank me. Rub my neck. I want to go down on you. Hold me for a minute. Can I have some water? I want to ride you. Pass the lube. Skip this song. Throw me over the back of the couch. Hold me down. Kiss me deeper. Suck my nipples. Oh, baby, that feels so good.
Flexibility. Service. Confidence. The three gifts a brilliant lover gives a strong woman.
— Susan Bratton, an Intimacy Expert to Millions, is a GAINSWave spokesperson and expert on passionate lovemaking, bedroom communication, and sexual biohacking. Author of 35 books and programs, including Ravish Him, Hot To Trot, Sexual Soulmates, Thrust In Time, and 7 Stimulating Sex Positions, Susan is a champion for all those who want great sex their whole life long. Get your free illustrated sex position guide at https://personallifemedia.com/stimulating-sex-positions/.
