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TriMix Alternatives for ED

When nothing works, do this.

Michael is 73 and still wants sex (though his wife would rather he just give up).

Here’s what he’s tried and what I recommend next.

Hi Susan.

I got your email recommending GAINSWave treatments for ED. I just completed a 6 session treatment of Low Intensity Extra Corporeal Shockwave Therapy with Boston Medical Group.

I actually thought that the shockwave treatment would make a difference –but just like the various herbs –nothing –no tangible change.

I have had a pretty complete physical inspection including a look with a camera by health provider. Nothing.

I have a prescription for the injections. They mostly work, but not real well. It’s easy to loose the erection with some physical activity –then sit still for a bit and it comes back. Not conducive to satisfactory intercourse any more. In the beginning, they helped physically, but having to go take a shot every time is a pretty bad mood spoiler, especially when the mood and intimacy is part of the problem

She has never admitted that my having to take a shot makes her feel that she is not desirable enough – but she has commented about the mood spoiler (my words, not hers). Lots of words can be added here, but the bottom line is that I ruined a good thing and strongly brought out her latent “dislike” of even simple physical intimacy (I’m too old for this silliness, and sex is wrong if its not for procreation, etc.) Now she thinks so little of herself that she has let her body go badly – and so have I.

My particular ED problem goes back easily more than 30 years (I am 73). I’ve been getting steadily worse and worse. It’s a major contributor to my totally sexless marriage. It is not the sole cause, but maybe if I had been able to perform well enough I could have figured out a lot sooner that I had a great deal (a really great –huge amount) to learn about how to be a desirable intimate partner.

Through your programs, I have figured out a whole lot about what I did not do and a lot of things I could have tried. I did try some things to attempt to recover some intimacy –but, it amounts to far too little far too late –and it is steeped in my personal negative view of myself and my inability to really work steadily to a plan. I try something and if it either is not accepted or fails, I quit trying with my usual internal grimace and internal remark that you expected to fail so you did –I don’t tend to do that with most of the rest of my life –just where it requires me to give of ME.

In any case, I thought you would like to be aware that the shockwave process does not fix or even help everyone.

Thanks for listening.


My Reply: (scroll down)

Hi Michael,

You’re only 73. You’ve got a good 20-25 years or more on this planet. Don’t let this hurdle keep you two from having another quarter of a century of great sex together. Like anything, you have to work around, over come, compromise, and adjust to old age.

I’m sorry the shockwave wasn’t able to help you get off the Trimix injections. The Boston Medical Group where you went uses something called, RejuvaPulse, which is not the GAINSWave brand. But it is low-intensity extra corporeal shock wave technology. That’s why it’s the one I recommend. There are many people who are doing LI-ESWT in many ways… If you had six treatments and it didn’t work, it was still worth a try. What if it HAD worked ?!?

Note: GAINSWave is the only official brand of the patented technology. Here is an ebook describing the procedure. Michael is one of only two men who it has not worked for. So if you are having issues with firmness — getting blood in or keeping it in — GAINSWave may work for you.

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And as far as the injections, if they are working, keep doing it. Don’t give up just because you have to take a break during intimacy to inject. The more you can do this with grace and leadership, the more it becomes a normal part of lovemaking.

Have you tried a vacuum erection device for ED? A penis pump? This is the unit I recommend specifically for men who need help getting blood into and trapping blood in their penis. This cylinder has smooth edges at the base instead of a flange so you can pump blood in and roll a constriction device onto the base of your penis very easily to trap the blood in there.

Mind that you get a tight-but-not-too-tight seal. You don’t want to compress the spongy tissue of your penis. You just want to trap the blood in from the pumping. And don’t leave the ring on longer than 30 minutes.

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Perhaps the TriMix injection with a pump could be the trick? Has your doctor recommended this combination?

Even if your wife is using these roadblocks as an excuse to stop making love, if you can find a way to keep her willing, it’s in her best interest to do so. Don’t think that sex is just for you. It’s for her health too. But because men are testosterone driven, you have more ready desire for sex. Your desire for sex is present and linear And as you’ve seen, it’s not going to go away as you age. So you might as well up your seductive and sexual skills to facilitate your woman’s desire.

Women in monogamous relationships have a non-linear sexual response. According to the book, Integrative Sexual Health, they explain the Basson’s non-linear model of female sexual health. It’s normal for women to experience, “responsive desire.” They enter into sex from a willingness to participate not because they are horny like you are.

Spontaneous desire does not proceed arousal for your wife or any of the rest of us. That’s why so many of us women say we are glad we HAD sex after the fact, even though we didn’t want it before you seduced us.

A lot of guys think their wife just isn’t sexual. Or they aren’t attracted to them. Or they get mad that they always have to initiate. I say, just let all that go and be the masculine sexual leader she needs you to be. Life is not fair. You know that.

It’s a bummer for us women that we can’t be already horny for you guys. That you have to help us get over the hump. But as soon as you just take the reins and lead us to our pleasure things get easier.

All her limiting beliefs about sex for procreation and she’s too old and blah blah blah are just obstacles you need to overcome. Obviously you won’t do anything against her will —but you do need to learn to seduce your woman at the ripe old age of 73 which is still young in my book.

You may have to ramp up your sexy talk and spend more time just simply touching her when you are not trying to have intercourse. You want to get her to the point where she is simmering with desire for you. Her body memory knows she enjoys intimacy.

Each women is different, so seducing your wife requires a combination of taking her out for walks in nature, buying her sparkly things (they don’t need to be expensive — look in my Amazon store for classics that are low cost but high “bling” value), and giving her a lot of full body massages that get her begging you to massage her Yoni (genitals).

Romance and seduction are fun! It’s all in your attitude.

Here is my free ebook, 30 Romance Tricks That Work Like Magic. Inside I explain why romancing her is the foreplay she needs and which romantic things are most likely to lead to sex.

As well, here is my Dirty Talk free ebook you’ll discover both your, “dirty talk styles,” so you can begin to get her mind turned on between sex dates. This also shows you how to talk dirty during sex without weirding her out. She sounds very traditional. So you’ll need this advice.

And third, I suggest you invest in my Seduction Trilogy program. I had my darling mentor, Dr. Patti Taylor put together this easy system with four keys to seduction for guys to use to seduce even the most stubborn, resistant, shut down long-term partners. It’s seduction with integrity. Nothing manipulative. It flows the way women flow which is the opposite of what you are doing as a guy because you don’t know how women operate. And these four keys are what guys who are testosterone driven and goal oriented need to know to seduce women who are meandering, estrogen-driven creatures.

Because you’re linear, you just try to get sex way faster than she is ready for it. So you get rejected. The 4 Keys To Seduction model will help you make the small offers that ramp up to lovemaking in a way that helps you get her there as fast and often as possible without pushing her away by driving her there too fast. It’s a delicate balance and the 4 Keys model WORKS!

Just like in my program, Revive Her Drive which explains that in order to get regular sex from a woman like your wife you need to:

1) Romance Her Mind So She Remembers Why She Wanted You
2) Awaken Her Sensual Body Instead of Trying To Get Sex
3) Become The Masculine Sexual Leader Who Seduces Her
4) Learn To Operate Her Sexual Nervous System

Revive Her Drive explains the big picture and gives you TONS of ideas to try based on your type of wife.

Being physically close has so many advantages, and receiving your semen gives her a load of Testosterone which keeps her confident, serotonin which helps her happiness, and among many other mood stabilizing substances, zinc which helps keep her mind sharp. Plus there is oxytocin — the bonding hormone — which keeps her feeling in love and connected to you.

Oh, and the more testosterone you can get into her via your semen, the more she will want sex. Testosterone has been shown to improve sexual function in low libido women. A 2005 meta-analysis of 35 trials lasting 1.5 to 2.4 months and including 4,768 women demonstrated that supplemental testosterone improved sexual function scores and increased the number of sexually satisfying encounters. (Integrative Sexual Health).

I personally use a daily bio-identical compounded vaginal application of testosterone in an organic coconut oil carrier cream to increase lubrication and sexual pleasure.

Here are more videos about vaginal dryness.

And more videos about bio-identical hormone replacement with Dr. Glenn Wilcox, my doctor.

You’re only 73. You’ve got a good 20-25 years or more on this planet. Don’t let this hurdle keep you two from having another quarter of a century of great sex together. Like anything, you have to work around, over come, compromise, and adjust to old age.

When you get in your seventies, you have the time and experience to be the best lover you’ve ever been in your life. I have said many times, men don’t get really good until they are in their sixties.

What if you two are not even at your peak of amazing intimacy, incredible orgasmic pleasure and deep connection?

If you have to hold the torch for your sex life, do it. Follow the steps above and make sure you are also taking care of any issues she’s having from aging.

The intra-vaginal RF and CO2 lasers on the market today for women are fantastic at rejuvenating delicate vaginal tissues. The Orgasm Shot for women made from PRP (platelet-rich plasma) from her own blood reinfected into her entire clitoral structure can make her orgasms feel like she’s 35 again.

I did an entire video series on my experiences with these procedures. I was having pain with intercourse and did the CO2 laser inside, the RF therapy on my outer labia and 3 Orgasm Shots and my sexual response at 57 is BETTER than in my mid-30s. I am a better comer now and I have youthful tissue — a wonderful combination!

I hope you will consider trying again. I am sending you much love and appreciation for your kind note.

Please let me know what course of action you choose to move forward. Remember, you are the leader of your sex life for both you and your wife.

Sex is good for you both! So see if you can try and make it work.

I’m rooting for you!

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