How To Break Through Her Orgasmic Glass Ceiling
“I think most women relinquish all sexual responsibilities to the male in relationships!” Here’s how to keep your woman coming…
This Facebook post reminded me of a familiar man/woman conundrum…
One of the most common complaints I hear from men is, “How come she isn’t more affectionate and why doesn’t she initiate sex?” “Why do I always have to be the one to suggest we make love?”
One of the most common complaints I hear from women is,”How can I get him to take the lead sexually… to have a “bedroom game plan”… have him give me all kinds of orgasmic pleasure?”
Here’s what’s going on, Honey. (scroll down)
THE MASCULINE FEMININE DYNAMIC
Depending on where you are on the scale of masculine to feminine at any given moment impacts your needs.
Sometimes the feminine wants to take charge… and sometimes she wants to surrender.
Sometimes the masculine wants to be nurtured and appreciated… and sometimes he enjoys tremendous benefit from being, “the rock.”
If you remember that we all embody a wide range of masculine and feminine feelings and desires, you can have an agreement with your partner stating that you’ll ask for what you need in the moment.
If you need to rage and simply want a witness…
If you’re feeling cocky and you want to take charge…
Make it not just OK, but encourage yourself and your partner to be what IS in each moment.
Ask for what you need.
Let’s talk about initiating sex.
If you want to be wanted instead of doing the chasing, but are afraid that if you leave it up to your partner to initiate sex, it won’t happen… Try this.
Lower your expectations from SEX – as in intercourse – to intimacy of some kind.
Physiologically, the masculine and feminine are different creatures. To the woman, the idea of intercourse is a BIG ASK. For a man it’s not. He is penetrating… She is being penetrated… they’re very different experiences.
So what if the man asks his woman to “find three instances this week where you take the lead on being affectionate.” (And no, asking for a blow job is too much too!)
Give her three examples of what you’d enjoy, such as:
“Come to bed naked, get on top of me and rub yourself all over me and kiss my face. Allow me to feel your body with my hands.”
“Take a shower together and soap each other up, then rinse and pat each other dry with towels.”
“Spoon me before we get up in the morning.”
“Tell me I’m handsome to you.”
“Pet me, scratch my back or tickle me the way I like when we’re watching TV.”
If he can receive these affections without trying to turn them into sex, she will start feeling safe enough to be more affectionate more often.
Then, the simple fact that she’s being affectionate will increase her desire for sex with him over time.
The guy has to fight against his natural instincts which want the BIG prize immediately… by slowing down he actually gets more affection and ultimate more sex.
Being able to maintain himself makes her trust him more… that he does love affection and is not always just trying to get sex.
WHAT ABOUT HER DESIRE TO BE LEAD?
For a guy to have the skills to run the bedroom experience well enough for her to surrender to him, she has to feel secure in his ability to keep her sexual energy high… he has to know how to give her multiple orgasms over a period of time.
Women often push for quickies because they don’t feel he has the skills to provide enough pleasure… her sexual energy drops because he drops the ball and then she doesn’t want to expend the energy to keep it going. She just wants to stop.
If he demonstrates his desire for her, is verbal about how sexually irresistible she is to him, and he has a good supply of communication skills and orgasm techniques, he can carry the experience well enough for her to allow herself to take her pleasure.
In this video I talk about:
- What to do when what he’s doing doesn’t seem to “feel good,” or her sexual energy drops.
- How to use the clitoral sensitivity from her first orgasm as ammo for her subsequent orgasms – even if she’s been a “one-and-done” comer before now.
- What to do on those days when she can’t feel his strokes or his penis inside her.
- How he can have confidence in the heat of the moment to keep her moving toward peak after peak (and even how to tell if she’s faking orgasm).
- What’s most important is if he understands her refractory periods, her climactic curve and her erotic map so he can show her what her body is capable of.
- Really what he’s doing is overriding any of her sexual inhibitions with PURE PLEASURE. This much pleasure turns the struggling girl looking to eek out one measly orgasm into a massively hedonistic experience in bed with him.
This is a HOT video…
I recorded it because after having private discussions with men and women about their sex life desires for a decade, I really understand what men need to know to give women that surrendered pleasure they are longing for.
Even with all of our cultural overrides, we are still – deep in our physiologies – masculine and feminine.
You can’t fight city hall.
You gotta know that generally men lead and women follow.
And even if sometimes it goes the other way… and you can ask for what you need from your partner in the moment… nothing replaces the deep desire for a man to give his woman incredible pleasure… the kind of pleasure that means she’ll never leave you, and she will want you regularly for sex.
Hey, it isn’t easy.
Tons of crap gets in the way of us loving each other fully.
But adding to your skills – communication skills and orgasm techniques – both for men and women, is the answer to having more pleasure together.
That’s why I’m so glad you are part of our Insider’s Club… the sexual seekers who know that with more skills and techniques you will co-create more joy and pleasure together.
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