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Episode 27: Sandor Gardos - Pt 2 Can Sex Become a Spiritual Practice?

In Part two of our discussion with Dr. sandor Gardos, we take a deeper look into everybody's favorite topic...sex.

Unfortunately, the sex life of most men is not where it could be. We're not talking about how to pick up women here, we're talking about something deeper. What is behind our sex drive and what is our sexual energy really?

Men tend to look at sexual energy as frustration, something to be fixed,,,and as soon as posible. Men train themselves at a young age to relive sexual energy as fast as possible, not cultivating and using sexual energy to invigorate our lives.

Women tend to see this sexual energy differently, even using different words to describe sexual feelings. Where men talk about "sexual frustration" women speak of the same pleasurable feelings as "juicy" or "alive."

Sandor encourages us to see this energy not as something to avoid, but something we should honor as our very life essence. He invites us to learn to be with strong energetic sensation and practice cultivating and holding sexual energy.

Why is Viagra the best selling drug in the country?

Often we can be very dissociated during sex, perhaps fantasizing about someone else or generally checking out altogether.

Most of us would rather take a pill than truly look inside ourselves to discover what may be getting in the way of our sexual desire.

Dr Gardos points out that most men don't know what is possible with orgasm because we don't know how to be with intense sexual energy.

At the highest levels, sex can become a pathway to deep spiritual states...a very direct route Dr Gardos says.

So where is the average guy to start on this path of sexual self-discovery. Dr. Gardos suggest finding community, whether locally or online and begining to take in and share information. This can be tough at first but there are resources out there for men willing to take a look. This is not another goal that has to be met or an achievement we need to reach, but an opportunity for us to know ourselves better and live more fully because of it.

Episode 26: Sandor Gardos - What is Killing Passion in Relationships?

Is the "conventional relationship" ideal killing the passion in relationships?

This week's guest, Dr. Sandor Gardos lets us in on what he sees as the secrets to maintaining passionate relationships.

Knowing everything about one another, always maintaining equality, laying everything on the table...These may be good ways to maintain friendships, or business relationships, but when it comes to hot sex in relationship, these are the very things that may be draining passion.

The thing is, women want hot sex lives as much as we do. The things we do to try and strengthen our relationships can be the very things that will ultimately weaken our connection. Sandor hears from women all the time with fantasies every bit as raunchy as any man's he hears, and with a lot more detail. It seems men are generally less in touch with their actual desire than women are, despite popular perception to the contrary.

Not only does Dr. Gardos help us identify the problem areas, he describes what the path to erotic partnership can look like. Integrity, differentiation, variety &mdash these are keys we have learned from previous guests and seem to apply in all areas of our lives.

Listen as Dr. Sandor Gardos shares with us a piece of his vast wisdom on sexuality and relationship.

Episode 25: Rob McNamera Pt 2 Mind/Body Nutrition and Exercise

How much exercise is required to build strength and feel great? In part two of our conversation, Rob lays out a simple and straightforward plan to build high-performance strength. The good news: it's not Olympic level marathon training, Rob says we can do it in under 3 hours a week.

Rob highly recommends Shawn Phillips new book, Strength for Life as a great resource for getting started on a program like this.

Rob goes on to talk with us about Full Strength, a meal replacement product developed by Shawn Phillips that has been clinically shown to produce positive results in muscle building and fat and cholesterol reduction. A recent clinical study at the University of Oklahoma confirmed the wisdom that went into the production of Full Strength and documented surprisingly positive health benefits to the participants.

Listen as Rob gives rounds out our discussions on the role of Strength for The New Man.

Episode 24: Shawn Phillips Pt 2 Hitting the Wall vs. Balanced Recovery

Are you noticing instability in your life as you push closer to your limits of performance? Operating at "full-bore" may not be the best way to get where we want to go.

Shawn Phillips advises that for optimum performance, rest can be just as important as exertion. This applies to our physical bodies as well as our profession, our personal relationships and our purpose in life.

"Recovery is like the silence between the notes, that makes the music." Says Shawn.

For many of us, our lives are driven by our attachment to our goals. Shawn and Tripp also explore the possibility that there is a difference between commitment and attachment. Attachment is our dependence on an outcome. Commitment is our willingness to "play" regardless of the outcome. When we get too far into attachment we lose focus, lose our power, and lose our ability to remain present in the moment.

"I'm committed to the game without attachment to the outcome" Shawn says.

Listen as Tripp continues his dialogue with Shawn Phillips, Author and Human Performance expert.

Episode 23: Shawn Phillips: Health is Killing You!

Is settling for mere "health" actually sending you to an early grave? We all think health is something we should be happy with when we have or something to get back to when our health fails us.

Shawn Phillips will not settle for mere "health."

Shawn calls us to enter a life of Strength, a place where our abundant health can serve us in all aspects of our lives and allow us to put ourselves out there in the world.

We've all taken up a workout routine, trying to get "back in shape" because we think we should. Shawn invites us to get past the should's, and find our true strength, the source of our potential greatness.

From this place, the weight room becomes an expression of the abundance of our lives, and our bodies will show the results.

Listen to Shawn and Tripp talk about how to stop "doing fitness" and start being fit.

Episode 22: Rob McNamera: What is Strength?

Are you feeling at your best physically? Are you looking for that edge to keep you sharp at the workplace and help you handle the intensity of life's challenges? If you are like the average man, chances are you have not felt that great since you were in your teens. Not only is our poor physical condition slowing down our bodies, but its slowing down our minds as well.

This week we are talking with Rob McNamera about strength. Strength is the abundance of power. This abundance is true for our muscles as well as our brains, and affects our performance across the board. We can increase this abundance with regular strength training.

Listen as Rob breaks down the secrets of strength and shares with us the dire importance of taking care of our bodies.

Episode 21: The Seduction Community, Where to Go Next?

What do you do when you master the art of seduction?

After years of practice in the seduction community, Garrison still felt something was missing. He had become a pick-up artist, with no trouble meeting and dating women but the profound relationship still eluded him. In his continuing search he came upon a concept called "inner game" and the Authentic Man Program.

Listen as he shares with us what he found to be the ultimate practice to deepen his relationships with women and give him what he was looking for all along.

Resources:
- Ross Jeffries
- NLP - Neuro-Linguistic Programming
- Authentic Man Program
- The Game

Episode 20: A Reformed Pick-up Artist

Are you wanting to meet more women and have more success in dating them?

Ever thought of becoming a pick-up artist?

This week we sit down with Garrison Cohen, a "reformed pick-up artist" that has tried every technique there is in the world of seduction. Garrison walks us through his journey in the seduction community including a time as a Pickup Artist trainer. He shares with us the insights he learned from each of the schools of seduction and where it all led for him.

This is part one of a two part series.

Resources:

- Ross Jeffries
- NLP - Neuro-Linguistic Programming
- Authentic Man Program
- The Game

Areas of Conversation:
podcast, Falling Fruit, The New Man, Tripp Lanier, Men's issues, mens group, relationships, women, men, fallingfruit, fallingfruit.tv, online media, production, dating, relationships, sex, testing, male female, masculine, masculinity, dating

Episode 19: The Icing on the Cake of an Amazing Life!

What you can do once you have find a sense of wholeness?

In Part 2 of our discussion with Bryan Bayer of the Authentic Man Program we get into the benefits of doing development work on our ability to relate with women.

Bryan describes how presence becomes 'a vortex,' drawing people (specifically women) towards us. He then describes what interactions look like the 'need to get something" is dropped. It might look something like this:

"What do you do for work?"
"I am a shepherd, I just lost one of my flock the other day and I am having a hard time with it."

Bryan treats many social interactions as an opportunity to create artistic expression. This should be fun, once we let down our guard a little.

We also get into the unique kind of opportunity AMP presents for men. "10 years of therapy didn't get at what we got to in 2 days at AMP," said one participant. AMP is a unique mix of challenge, inquiry and compassion that can trigger rapid insights and growth.

Listen as we learn how relating with women is just the icing on the cake of an amazing life!

Disclaimer: Tripp and Casey have both attended the AMP program and both found it challenging, rewarding, and a profound growing experience.

Resources:
- Authentic Man Program
- The Game
- Dekker
- Goenka Vipassana Meditation
- Ken Wilber
- David Deida
- Leo on the Authentic Man Program

Episode 18: Bryan Bayer: The Authentic Man Program, Part 1

Ever notice how some guys just seem to be magnets for women?

Ever wish you could be that guy, effortlessly attracting amazing women into your life?

We sure do, and there may be help for us yet.

This week we're in the studio with Bryan Bayer, co-founder of the Authentic Man Program. Bryan gives us the story of how the AMP program came into existence out of his own pain and struggle finding real connection with women.

At one point, Bryan spent months asking himself, "what would I do if no woman ever found me attractive again?" From this deep inquiry, he discovered a whole new sense of integration and used it as a tool to fuel his own personal growth. He also had help from amazing women in his life that were willing to explore the depths of his being with him and give him feedback on what they were experiencing. AMP was developed with Bryan as his own guinea pig.

The AMP facilitators work with all types of men, helping them to integrate more of "themselves" and get rid of that sense of "need" that keeps women at a distance.

Listen as Bryan gives us a sense of where we can go in our interactions with women and how the AMP program is a great resource to help us get there.

Resources:
- Authentic Man Program
- The Game
- Dekker
- Goenka Vipassana Meditation
- Ken Wilber
- David Deida
- Leo on Authentic Man Program

Episode 17: Alissa Kriteman: Dating, Relationships, and Sex

What is the deal with all this testing from women?

In part two of our conversation, Alissa Kriteman shares an intense example of how she has tested her man and how his strength and ability to hold that deepened their relationship immensely.

Alissa shares with us some secrets that single men should know about meeting and attracting women and what role a healthy sense of self can play in finding a partner.

She gets into the very thing guys want to know about the most, what we are missing in the bedroom. No, it's not about any elaborate technique or physical qualifications fellas. It's also not something we can "figure out" exactly.

She goes on to speak about the wisdom of desire, and encourages us to cultivate our ability to "be" with desire and allow it to subtly guide us in life.

Listen as Alissa lets us in on the world of women. This is part 2 of a two-part series. Listen to part 1, Alissa Kriteman: Just for Women.

Resources:

- Just For Women Podcast
- Meet the Dreamer (Alissa's Book)
- Authentic Man Program (Alissa is a facilitator)
- Allison Armstrong
- Charlotte Kasl
- David Deida

Areas of Conversation:
women, sex, relationships, single, dating, desire, Just for Women Podcast

Episode 16: Alissa Kriteman: Just for Women

Do you ever wonder what women talk about when we're not around?

We sure do, that's why we had to get an insiders perspective from relationship consultant Alissa Kriteman.

Alissa hosts the hugely successful podcast Just for Women: Dating, Relationships, and Sex. She talks with experts about all the issues facing women in the world and helps her listeners live fuller lives with better relationships.

Given her experience talking with women, we thought she might have some insights for The New Man...she definitely did!

Alissa gives us the female perspective on how we, as men, show up in the world of women most of the time. She details the differences of worldviews experienced by men and women and how knowing these differences empowers us to have deeper, more authentic relationships.

Listen to this fun conversation with Alissa as we take a look inside the world of women. This is part 1 of a two-part series. Listen to part 2, Alissa Kriteman: Dating, Relationships, and Sex.

Resources:

- Just For Women Podcast
- Meet the Dreamer, Alissa's Book
- Authentic Man Program (Alissa is a facilitator)
- Allison Armstrong

Areas of Conversation:
women, sex, relationships, single, dating, desire, Just For Women Podcast

Episode 15: Have you Lost your Teenage Fire?

When does a boy become a man?

In more tribal times in human history, the transition to adulthood for men was very clear. It was accompanied by support and ceremony and left no question in the minds of the boys or the tribe about status or responsibility.

Our modern social structure seems to have abandoned this support structure for transition, something we are learning is so essential for young men.

Threshold Passages is one organization that is changing that.

Threshold Passages brings together young men on the path to adulthood, with willing mentors dedicated to helping these young men on their way. Together, these men and boys at varying stages of life, share wisdom, energy and support in the form of Adventure weekends and weekly group meetings.

This week we talk with Ed Lippolis, a program "mentor" at 39 years old and Patrick Hillman, a program "journeyman" at 16 years old. We get the perspective on both sides of this unique group mentoring program and hear about how important this program is in each of their lives.

Resources:

- thresholdpassages.org

Areas of Conversation:
Rite of passage, mentor, coaching, big brothers and sisters, elder, tribe

Episode 14: Robert Augustus Masters: Fear is Just Excitement in Drag

In Part 2 of our discussion with Robert Augustus Masters, he breaks it down to the practical level for us. Robert talks about several practices we can do to "get in our bodies" and get in touch with our true power.

"Repressed anger is as harmful as inappropriately expressed anger," Masters says when describing how to allow emotions to arise naturally. He says healthy anger is "the guardian of healthy boundaries."

Robert talks about being present to the emotions that are arising and giving them space to be expressed authentically.

When he says "Fear is excitement in drag," Masters is talking about the similarity of the emotions of fear and excitement as they are felt. When we allow the emotion to arise, without avoiding it, fear can be an exhilarating and useful emotion.

If you haven't already, we recommend listening to Part 1: Are you Stuck in the Friend Zone? to hear more of Robert's understanding supporting these practices.

Resources:
- robertmasters.com
- Feldenkrais
- Boulder Center for Integral Living

Areas of Conversation:
fear, emotion, repression, anger, power, men's issues, vulnerability, men's groups

Episode 13: Robert Augustus Masters: Are you Stuck in the Friend Zone?

Robert Augustus Masters is an Integral Psychotherapist and group leader. Integral means that he is working with mind, body, emotion and conditioning in a flowing and organic way.

Robert works with guys who have the balls to make the changes to make their lives better. His work focuses primarily on the body, as men tend to get "stuck in their heads" and cut off from their feelings. Some women can feel this and may experience the man to be less trust-able and less desirable because of it.

The "Friend Zone" is the place men go when they are not in touch with our true power. Masters clarifies that power does not mean overpowering and that there is a real difference between anger and aggression. When men get in touch with the power from their core, they are more authentic, trust-able and attractive to women.

Robert insists that vulnerability is not weakness but, in fact, authenticity. If we can learn to be vulnerable without crumbling, we can be more in touch with our lives and other people.

This is part 1 of a two-part series. Listen to Part 2: Robert Augustus Masters: Fear is Just Excitement in Drag.

Resources:

- robertmasters.com
- Feldenkrais
- Boulder Center for Integral Living

Areas of Conversation:
anger, power, men's issues, vulnerability, men's groups

Episode 12: The Warriors Journey: Returning from Iraq, Part 2

"The willow which bends to the tempest, often escapes better than the oak which resists it; and so in great calamities, it sometimes happens that light and frivolous spirits recover their elasticity and presence of mind sooner than those of a loftier character." - Albert Schweitzer

In Part 2 of our conversation with Dan Taslitz, we hear about Dans experience coming back from Iraq and what he went through in transition back to civilian life.

Dan has developed a system to convert stress into true strength and teaches men the power of vulnerability, learning to bend with resilience and not break in rigidity.

Listen as Dan gives us a glimpse of his life as a soldier. He then shows us his new life as a leader and compassionate warrior helping others resource their trauma to find true strength.

Resources:

- Part 1 of this talk: The Warriors Journey: From Trauma to Strength
- www.onefreedom.org
- www.magisgroup.com

Areas of Conversation:
Marine, Reconnaissance, Iraq war, warriors journey, trauma recovery, The Peaceful Warrior, service, patriot

Episode 11: The Warriors Journey: From Trauma to Strength, Part 1

Dan Taslitz is a war veteran. He served on the front lines in the Iraq war in Marine reconnaissance in some of the most extremely high stress, high pressure situations. When someone goes through an experience like this, their brain and body adapt in order to survive.

How does that adaptation translate into normal life when a soldier, like Dan, returns from the battlefield?

Its not always easy.

Dan paid close attention to his experience and the changes that were occurring for him. He made a successful transition back into society, translating his stress into strength. He has developed an intimate understanding of the traumatic experience.

He brings this wisdom to his work with OneFreedom.org to help integrate soldiers into society after their service in battle. Dan helps soldiers resource their strength and learn to adapt in the face of challenges.

Listen as Dan shares his warriors journey through intensity towards integration.

Resources:

- www.onefreedom.org
- www.magisgroup.com

Areas of Conversation:
Marine, Reconnaissance, Iraq war, warriors journey, trauma recovery, The Peaceful Warrior, service, patriot

Episode 10: Status is the Enemy of Contentment

Is your career really aligned with your life's purpose? How important is a man's purpose in life when choosing a career?

This week we sit down with Marty Nemko, Career Editor for U.S. News and World Report and Kiplingers.com and get his unique perspective on career and the popular stereotype of men.

Marty brings a no-nonsense approach to his career advice, but there is wisdom in his perspective. He tells us what the most rewarding careers have in common and what to look for when seeking that perfect job. He flips conventional wisdom on its head and looks at the truth behind the flashy careers like doctors and lawyers and why these may not be the best paths to a rewarding life.

Marty is also passionate about how men are seen in today's western society. He argues that the portrayal of men as incompetent, aggressive, and powerless is not only inaccurate, but is having a harmful effect of the psyche of men and buys.

Listen as he shares with us what he has learned from a lifetime of writing and research on professional life and specifically men's roles in society.

Episode 9: Women are Not Just a Pain in the Ass?

We're dodging flying coffee mugs right now for even suggesting that, but that's how it can feel to a guy now and then. What is going on with the women of our lives in these moments of apparent torture?

This week we sit down with the amazing women of the Authentic Man Program and they share with us a little bit about how women work. We learn how women perceive men and how we can "show up" more fully to experience new depths in meeting, dating, and serious relationships with women.

The Authentic Man Program is a San Francisco-based workshop that helps men learn to look deep inside themselves and connect with their deepest truth. It also shows them how to take that awareness out into the world to meet and relate to other people—especially women.

Kendra, Shana, and Alexis give us a glimpse inside what they bring to the Authentic Man Program and share with us some practices we can use to deepen our relations with the opposite sex.

Far from being a pain in the ass, these women (and all women really) are our trusted allies in finding our deeper selves and finding intense connection with a partner.

Resources:

- Authentic Man Program

Areas of Conversation:
presence, relationship, couples, inner game, seduction, meeting women, deep relationship, healthy communication

Episode 8: Is Pornography Great for a Relationship?

Porn is a part of nearly every man's sexual life. LiYana points out that a little porn is good for spice here and there, but too much porn can be junk-food, polluting our healthy relationship and distracting us from connection to our partner. She urges us to practice in the bedroom, giving our full energy to our partners.

LiYana then shares with us the key differences in how men and women open emotionally in relationship. Bringing a little consciousness to these differences is often enough to get through the hang-ups and into the true depths of connection.

Learn how to express love and the other things you love in your life rather than the typical compromise of love or these things. If you are experiencing resistance to commitment, get in touch with what are you going to lose by entering into a committed relationship? "Get in touch with that, then we can work with it," she says. You can have something EXACTLY the way you want it.

There's plenty of love to go around. Learn about the different styles of intimacy men and women bring to the table. Find out what absolutely has to be there if you want to take your relationship beyond monogamy.

Relationship lived in this way will call us to be our highest expression of a man.

Resources:

- redefiningmonogamy.com

Episode 7: Looking to Redefine your Monogamous Relationship?

Every man has had wandering thoughts or wandering eyes at some point during his committed relationship. Most likely it happens every day! Should we be avoiding these thoughts—repressing them so we don't hurt our partners?

Absolutely not, according to LiYana Silver, it's part of what makes you a man. So why do our special ladies seem to get so pissed off about it?

It likely has to do with our ability to stay connected to them. If we can develop strong, healthy constant connection to our partners, there is no limit to our freedom. We might even go so far as to take our relationship outside of the normal rules of monogamous commitment if that's what we want to do, according to LiYana.

Listen as LiYana lets us in on the secret "Kryptonite" that melts the resistance and defensiveness of any woman in relationship to establish true, deep connection. This connection is liberating for men in relationship, as we will feel the reigns loosen through trust.

Resources:

redefiningmonogamy.com

Areas of Conversation: relationship, couples, polyamory, monogamy, deep relationship, healthy communication

Episode 6: Is it Necessary to Get Close to Death to Live Life?

In the final episode of our three-part in-depth conversation with Jayson Gaddis we explore the deepest truths of men's Rite of Passage work and how we can bring this truth to our everyday lives.

What happens when we step out of our "safe zone" and why are some constantly chasing the adrenaline rush in danger? Jayson talks with us about the power of stepping out of this "safe zone" and how embracing our "edge" can become a practice in our lives.

We pulled together some resources to start you off on this very effort. They are all centralized here at mensgroupresource.com.

This is Part 3 of three-part series. Listen to Part 1: Join a Fraternity! Be All That You Can Be! Now You're a Man! Right? & Part 2: Is it Necessary to Get Close to Death to Live Life?

Additional Resources:

- innernature.org
- Authentic Man Program
- school of lost borders
- mankindproject.com
- Way of the Superior Man
- Fire in the Belly: On Being a Man
- Into the Wild
- FightClub.com

Episode 5: How Does a Rite of Passage Affect the Rest of your Life?

How does rite of passage affect the rest of your life? Are you really alive?

So you've experienced your Rite of Passage, you're speaking to your animal spirits, now what? Jayson gives us some suggestions on how to take your insight back into the world and how to stay connected to your highest self throughout your life.

What is the Rite of Passage really about? Are you in touch with the fact that one day you will die? Rite of Passage work gives men an alternative to their tendency to stay up in their head and analyze. It allows you to stay present in your body, feel from your heart, and be truly aware of the world around you.

Popular culture often hints at the kind of initiation into manhood we are talking about. War films, coming of age tales and hero stories are often built around a man's Rite of Passage in some way. Fight Club pointed to the problem, but didn't really offer a workable solution. The film Into the Wild is Jayson's favorite Rite of Passage story, and every man with these questions should check it out. Email Jayson: Jay(at)innernature(dot)org

"Wouldn't it be cool if there was a website that he could go find this information?" - Jayson

We pulled together some resources to start you off on this very effort. They are all centralized here at mensgroupresource.com.

This is Part 2 of a three-part series. Listen to Part 1: Join a Fraternity! Be All That You Can Be! Now You're a Man! Right? & Part 3: Is it Necessary to Get Close to Death to Live Life?

Additional Resources:

- innernature.org
- Authentic Man Program
- school of lost borders
- mankindproject.com
- Way of the Superior Man
- Fire in the Belly: On Being a Man
- Into the Wild
- FightClub.com

Episode 4: Join a Fraternity! Be All That You Can Be! Now You're a Man! Right?

Is joining a fraternity is a necessary part of a man's development?

Well, maybe. College fraternities are addressing a genuine need all young men feel—the need for a transition from childhood to be accepted as a grown man. The problem is that they are doing a poor job of meeting that need with genuine and healthy "Rites of Passage."

This week Tripp and Casey sit down with Jayson Gaddis and talk about the Rite of Passage concept and its absence in modern western culture. With no Rite of Passage, men miss out on an essential ingredient to our healthy development. Jayson points out that the typical pattern of following the "shoulds" in life and not getting in touch with our true purpose is almost epidemic. "It's a recipe for midlife crisis," he says.

This is Part 1 of a three-part series. Listen to Part 2: How Does a Rite of Passage Affect the Rest of your Life? & Part 3: Is it Necessary to Get Close to Death to Live Life?

Additional Resources:

- InnerNature.org
- The Authentic Man Program
- From Boys to Men: Spiritual Rites of Passage in an Indulgent Age
- Real Boys: Rescuing Our Sons from the Myths of Boyhood

Episode 3: I'm Not Calling You Fat

In the previous episode we learned that being in a serious relationship doesn't mean that you are cut off from what you truly want in life. This week we continue our discussion with relationship experts Alyson and Reuvain and learn practical ways to communicate your desires to your woman. Alyson even gives us a tip on how to approach your woman honestly, even if its something as sensitive as sexual attraction and body weight that has become a challenge to your relationship. Get the inside scoop on how to bring your relationship with a woman into the world of healthy differentiation, and feel the depth of connection that results.

This is Part 2 of a two-part series. Listen to Part 1: Feeling Smothered? - Learn How to Live Your Truth and Be in Relationship

Episode 2: Feeling Smothered? - Learn How to Live Your Truth and Be in Relationship

Does the traditional model for relationship feel limiting to your true nature? Do you feel like you constantly have to compromise your authenticity to avoid conflict with your partner? We have, and we're learning that it doesn't have to be that way.

In this episode we're talking with psychotherapists Alyson Schwabe and Reuvain Bacal, relationship experts and specialists in women's and men's issues. They let us in on something the therapists call 'differentiation' and what we think of as 'the opposite of a shitty relationship.'

Healthy differentiation means maintaining autonomy while in relationship to another. The lack of differentiation is perhaps at its strongest in our romantic relationships, where desires, social models, and insecurities pull us into dependence. If we can learn how to establish healthy differentiation our relationships may take on a whole new level of reward and freedom. Listen as we learn what it looks like to lack differentiation and learn some techniques for how to get to a healthier relationship.

This is part 1 of a two-part series. Listen to part 2: I'm Not Calling You Fat.

Episode 1: When is the Last Time you were Called on Your Bullshit?

Tripp Lanier, professional coach and men's group facilitator, kicks off The New Man by calling on a group of Boulder men to discuss Men's group work. The guys talk about what they think when they hear "men's group," what they would like to gain from participating in a men's group, and the unique value that men can offer one another

Rollie, an internet professional and spiritual practitioner, brings up a common phenomenon he calls the "pre/trans" misconception in which pre-conventional "macho" behavior is associated with the masculine and avoided or repressed, preventing an authentic Trans-conventional masculinity from emerging.

Keith, freelance writer and Kung-fu teacher, points to Taoist principles of yin and yang and the inherent power in each. He notes that as men cultivate the softer yin energy they cut off their own personal power and the power of that yin as well as their inherent yang energy.

Rich, restauranteur, relates that in his years as a married man, he unknowingly missed out on the unique relationship that other men provide. He looks into how a men's group can be similar and different from one on one coaching.

Casey, marketing professional and New Man producer, shares that his clarity of direction allows him to be more available for giving in relationship and the world. The support of men keeps him on his "edge," the place where he is growing and expanding his capacities to handle life's challenges.

Join the group as they explore the potentials men's work and dig into how to approach the concept of men's specific personal growth.