Here’s an excerpt from an interview Dr. Patti did with Sheri where she describes the Vestibular Bulbs.

The best way to engorge her vestibular bulbs is to stroke them with organic avocado or coconut oil (something edible that can be used safely around her vulval area).

They are underneath her pubic hair between her slit and her legs where the green arrows designate in the picture.

Start from the outer edges. Massage more down than up, especially in the beginning. Go with, not against the nap of her pubic hair.

Try all kinds of strokes from small circles, to pats, to light kneading. Roll your fingers across the top of her mound, her mons venus. Ask her for feedback and see what feels good to her. Spend a considerable amount of time there as you are awakening that erectile tissue. Each time you give her a vestibular bulb massage it will begin to engorge faster and more fully.

The ultimate goal is to have the tissue all around the opening to her vagina be so engorged that the tissue seems almost gelatinous. When you can wiggle her pudendum like jelly and it easily moves up and down and all around instead of being “stuck” to her body, you’ve done a thorough job.

Then you can move toward the center further and start engorging the hood of her clitoris and her clitoral shaft before you enter her with your fingers.

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Even though I knew I should take care of his needs. . .  I started shying away from his touch pretty early in our marriage.

Our physical intimacy tailed off drastically after we had kids.

Plus, we both foolishly believed that your sex life inevitably cools down after you get married. Watching so many of our friends get divorced or cheat on their spouse was the canary in the coal mine. We could just as easily be in the 50% of marriages that end in divorce.

Luckily, my husband met a sage old man who told him the truth that saved not just our sex life… The secrets Ray told us saved our entire marriage.

Want to bring back that loving feeling?

O.K.

First off, you absolutely must be told the truth:

You have to know about the real problem…

The real reason you are struggling with getting the sex you want today… and it will surprise you:

Because it’s the one thing that’s been holding you back from realizing the intense and passionate sex you long for and crave…

And the reason why men all over the world have faced declining sex lives for years:

The real problem is the fact that you’ve been lied to… and these lies are keeping you from the type of sex with your wife or girlfriend that you desire and deserve…

The Big “Married Sex Life Lie”

Blame the media and magazines, like Cosmo, National Enquirer, and cheesy “female talk shows!”

You and your wife have been bombarded for almost as long as you’ve been alive with false, misleading claims from these sensationalists…

And they depend on your suffering to make a buck.

That’s just criminal in my mind!

All the misinformation out there that the media loves to exploit is enough to confuse anyone… It confused us for years…

They told me that having sex 4-5 times a week is not possible for a couple who has been married for 20 years… Yet NOW my husband Tim and I sometimes make love at night and then again the next morning. And we’re in our 50’s!

But for years, society was conditioning us to believe that this simply could not happen…

Part of the Big Lie is that “women aren’t as sexual as men”… I bet you’ve heard that or maybe even believed that at one point in your life…

This is not even close to the truth…

If you are one of the millions who fell victim to this lie, then you must decide now to believe the truth instead…

Because: Otherwise, you will continue down the road of “not tonight dear”…

With your wife’s stiff back facing you every night as your sex life remains dead in its tracks…

And, eventually, no matter how strong you are, you simply give up… on frequent sex with your wife… And on your dream having the sex life you did when you first got together…

Listen: This is not what I want for you, and I know it’s not what you desire for yourself…

And the reason that you struggle with sexual intimacy with your wife is not your fault…

Which means… most couples believe that it’s completely normal for a woman to stop wanting sex after pregnancy… or after menopause… or even after she gains a little weight…

So they accept that as fact and just learn to deal with it!

Amazing, isn’t it?!

The truth is… biologically and psychologically your woman has the same, or more, capacity for sexual desire as you do!

Even after having children…. Even after weight gain… even after menopause… plus:

We now know what precisely needs to be done to arouse any woman’s body… of any age… and of any body type…

Now, here’s another lie:

And this one is the granddaddy of all the sexual intimacy lies…

This is the lie that you have to continually “do things” for your wife to earn “points” that you can cash in for sex later….

Well, guess again… this is as wrong as wrong gets!

If you follow this lie, let me tell you what will happen:

You’ll spend weeks and weeks, busting your balls… without an end in sight… and work yourself to death bargaining or begging for sex…

And every time you get “touchy-feely” and want to show your wife how much you love her physically… you’ll get shut down or rejected… you’ll feel worthless…

And, once that frustration takes hold of you, it’s over… you’ll start to disengage from your wife right then and there…

There’s no way I want you to experience emotional pain like this… ever again…

I Totally Understand

It’s not your fault, you’ve probably heard a million opinions and got some free advice (usually worth about what you pay for it) and you’re more confused than ever…

Well, just like that first nasty lie, there’s some good news:

The real villain here is certainly not you… it’s actually the medical community!

The sad fact is that most therapists… even marriage & sex counselors… don’t know squat about how to have a fulfilling sex life at home…

That’s because they learn about sex by reading about it in some book…

And very few understand the few simple things you need to do to revive a woman’s sex drive sky high…

They think a woman’s sex drive is mental… and they spend all their time trying to get you to “talk” your way out of the problem…

The truth is you should never, ever try to TALK your wife into having sex with you… 

Why?…

Because a woman’s sex drive is tied into her hormones… and the quickest way to turn them off is to talk…

But there is also a simple, natural way to get her love hormones pumping again for you…

You have to activate them through her senses… her taste, her smell, her sight… You have to romance her in just the right way…

And I’m not talking about “romance” in the way your thinking… If you’ve been with a woman for more than a few years…

How you romance her is completely different…than how you romanced her when you first met…

Let me tell you the truth about how you and your wife can be happy in bed again…

These are the same romance tips that I have shown to thousands of men who successfully  restored their wife’s sex drive and now get all the sex they desire and deserve…

This is what I do, so help is on the way.

The Best System In The Whole World For Getting Your Wife To Want You For Sex Again. . . And Think It’s Her Idea

You could go out and read EVERY book ever written on “passionate marriage,” sexual intimacy, even sexless marriage advice, spend HOURS interviewing every sex therapist, seduction expert, sex workshop coach, and even adult sex educators, and actively go out in the field and DO this stuff in my own life, with some of my closest friends and with more than 150,000 men around the world like I have.

or…

Read and listen to these two ebooks and audiobook that condense down everything I’ve learned about how to get your woman to want you so much just thinking about you immediately gets her panties sopping wet. . . even by tonight.

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Just the raw information and stealth seduction turn-around techniques it takes to watch her sexuality bloom again like a petal-pink rose.

Note: The ”Sometimes I pretend that _(fill in the blank)_.” Exercise is below.

“And when I came to the epiphany that I really need to change, it launched me on a whole journey of exploration and, brother, that’s gone all over the place. As Susan mentioned, I’ve lived in a Zen center for a couple of years and done all these hardcore meditation retreats and I got my Master’s in Psychology and I apprenticed with wild men like Brad Blanton who I actually lived and worked with closely for many, many years. He’s like my spiritual dad. So I went through all of these journeys and I discovered the art form, as they call it, of really intentionally creating intimacy. It’s not a fluke. You don’t just like fall into intimacy. There’s sort of a cultural myth about romance. You find the right person and fireworks go off and that’s it. You live happily ever after. Well we all have those moments, but the truth is that sustainable, deep, perpetual passion is something that you learn the skill of creating. I am happy to say that I learned that skill and now I can create intimacy with all kinds of people. I can create intimacy with the lady from the phone company when I’m pissed off about the way that they screwed up my bill. Seriously! Or my neighbors. I mean your love relationship is going to be your laboratory and your ultimate achievement in this art form, but it will eventually just fan out to where you just have a juicy relationship in your whole life.

Like Susan said, I totally healed my relationships with my family. I lost my dad a couple of years ago, but because I had done the work of full body forgiveness, as I call it, with him, when he died I felt kind of a bittersweet quality. I was not torn up about it; I felt sad I wouldn’t be able to sit with him anymore and stuff, but I felt a lot of gratitude for who he had been and how he had shaped my life and stuff, and not one that was phony, not one that glossed over his weaknesses and stuff, but one that just really honored all of who he was. And my mom is alive and we have a better relationship than I have ever had with her in my whole life. We talk for hours and are both truly moved by the quality of the connection that we have, and if you had known us years ago, you would have never guessed that. I will say that I found her a challenging mom to have sometimes, but, and she felt sad. She was just a kid when I was born, and she had to go through forgiving herself and some guilt about not showing up in the ways that in retrospect she wished she had. But the point is that now we both can stand in that full body forgiveness and openhearted love for each other.

And let me tell you, when you heal your relationship with you “source family” — your mom and your dad and your siblings — it heavily impacts the quality of relationship that you have with your spouse. You may not know that there’s a direct relationship, but it definitely heavily impacts it. In our workshops, we give an assignment that people go do this work with their families as well because it’ll help your relationship immeasurably because in your love relationship you repeat the patterns of your background family.

So anyway, it’s transformed my life in ways that I obviously could talk all day about, and it’s my joy now to share this art form, as I call it, with other people because it’s like somebody getting saved, born again and then wanting to spread the gospel. I know it’s possible. I’ve seen it change not only my life, but thousands of other people’s lives that I’ve worked with. So now I’m on a mission from God to share this juicy information with people and help them implement it in their lives.

Okay. We don’t have the passion that we want to experience because we spend so much time hiding the ones that we don’t want to experience. I’m going to underline that. Say that again, so that you really let that sink in. The reason you don’t have the degree of the passions that you want to experience is because you unwittingly spend a lot of time hiding the ones that you don’t want to experience. This seems understandable but emotions are a package deal, so you can’t stuff some of them without accidentally stuffing all of them, at least to a significant degree. Not only that, but in order to hide the truth about yourself, you have to put on a mask, a performance, a false front with others. And by doing this, you automatically disqualify yourself from ever feeling truly loved. This isn’t conscious again, but you just sort of like, you start slipping into kind of showing people what you think they need to see or what they can accept or such and such, and overtime that becomes a performance that you’re putting on, unconsciously, automatically. And when you do that, you disqualify yourself from ever really feeling loved. And that’s because even when you seem to receive love, you know secretly that what’s being loved is your performance, and you think on some level, “If you really knew me, then you wouldn’t be able to accept it” or “You wouldn’t like me.”

So how do we hide ourselves from each other? We go around pretending. We go around presenting an image of ourselves that isn’t complete, that isn’t accurate, that doesn’t truly portray what’s going on inside of us. We pretend that we’re not angry when we’re angry. Or we pretend we’re really interested in what someone else is talking about when we aren’t. I do this little exercise with people in workshops where we play a game where they talk about sometimes I pretend when really… and they talk about the things they pretend and what’s really going on with them at the same time. And I’ve done this with thousands of people and I hear all of the same answers over and over again. “Sometimes I pretend that I’m not bored to tears with what you’re talking about.” “Sometimes I pretend I’m not pissed off at you when I am.” “Sometimes I pretend that I’m not attracted to someone when I am.” “Sometimes I pretend that I know exactly what I’m doing and I’ve got it all together when really I’m flustered and nervous inside.” “Sometimes I pretend I’m not trying to impress you when I am.” I’ve heard them all over and over again. And the really funny thing is we all go around pretending the same stuff all of the time, and it’s really kind of ludicrous when you look at it.”

In this free, 45 minute training, I’m going to turn you into a champion slut-maker. And when I say, “slut,” I mean that in the most positive sense of the word. The word has been derogatory in the past, but like many words, such as pussy, women are taking them back and making them OK.

In this case, a slut is a woman who embraces her sexuality. She enjoys making love and is as comfortable with slow, sensual heart-felt lovemaking experiences as she is with scenes that might include sexually abandoned positions, role play, lingerie or other more “naughty” kinds of sex.

When you can get your woman to feel so comfortable with you in the bedroom that she is constantly coming up with new things that turn her on and she wants to try them with you, your relationship reaches a new level of intimate connection, pleasure and downright FUN.

“What helped me the most was…ummm…everything!

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But to emphasize:

A) Erotic Vigilance - being in tune with my woman’s sexual appetite that day, and providing offers that will best satisfy it.  

B) Safe Danger - always moving her towards pleasure. Erotic adventures. Playdates.

C) Sensate Connection - keeping her in tune with her body and anticipating physical pleasure.”

— James C.

So if you want your lady to be a slut for you in your private life, listen to this audio and watch the video.

- Discover how to awaken her sensual potential.

- Teach her to be sexually abandoned with you.

- Make her feel passionately desired and show her attraction for you.

- Get her confident enough to initiate lovemaking.

- Make her comfortable surrendering her nervous system to you.

Understand how approval, reassurance and rewarding her are fundamental skills to opening her up to more variety, new positions, new techniques.

Listen privately to the audio download (below the video) or watch the video slideshow of gorgeous, lingerie clad women.

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Why am I giving you all this incredible knowledge without charging you?

Because, what I explain is foundational knowledge to make you even more successful with our core programs:

Seduce Her Tonight – your woman wants to be seduced. . . learn how to run her a menu of small offers to which she’ll say, “YES!”
Seduction Accelerator – build on the foundation of Seduce Her Tonight to escalate her “YES!” into spicy new sensual pleasure
Her Sexual Trainer – you’re training her with every action you take. discover how to subtly train her to enjoy even more pleasure
Expand Her O Tonight – the sensual genital massage technique that holds her in an orgasmic state for minutes to literally an hour
Female Liquid O – give your woman full body and ejaculatory orgasms
Revive Her Drive – turn your wife back on again and have a passionate sex life that keeps getting better

These are our core home study programs that will give you and your lover a lifetime of ever-increasing sexual satisfaction.

Please comment below what the #1 new piece of information is that you are going to use in your own sex life.

You Are The Champion!

There are many kinds of feedback including biofeedback, visual cues and verbal feedback and communication.

If you can make your lady feel safe telling you anything she needs to tell you (read, “Reporting In From My Animal” for more detail on this crucial concept) then you can get a super-charged feedback loop going with her that will allow you to satisfy her like no other lover.

When she can comfortably say ANYTHING to you, without using any manners, and you don’t take it personally, as a challenge to your skills, your sexual connection will skyrocket. Instead of feeling like you failed, you are eager for her feedback. And THANK YOU is the only response that works.

If you say, “Sorry,” you sound lame and childish.

Women want to be made love to by MEN, not babies who get their feelings hurt.

How many times is she going to tell you the TRUTH if you apologize when she gives you feedback?

If you say, “I know,” then you are just an insecure ass.

You simply CANNOT know. Because every day her body wants something new. A master lover knows that he never knows, and he luxuriates in discovering what her body wants today.

If you say, “Thank you,” then she knows you APPRECIATE her feedback and she’ll give you more.

The more you get, the better lover you are.

So just say, “Thank you,” and then give her “Two-Option Leading” choices.

Just watch how well this works.

Post a comment here on the blog once you’ve empowered your woman to give you everything she has in her brain as you make love to her.

Soon you will be a more masterful, more powerful, more sensual, more confident lover for her.

I am blessed…

Blessed o have this level of confidential interaction into the most personal aspect of peoples lives. Blessed to have this kind of trust with so many people who only know me through our online programs, emails and blog articles.

I am impressed time and time again by the quality of intimate love men feel for their women, how caring and concerned men are to please their lovers and how much they truly delight in their partner’s bodies, no matter how many years have gone by.

I am equally saddened time and time again by the lack of sexual confidence men feel in their interactions with their partners. Fear and shame destroy their ability to achieve the passion and connection to their lover they so desire. Fear and shame and the ignorance created by bad family modeling, societal opression and religious guilt and by the dumbed-down oversimplification and outright inaccurate sexual information conveyed by TV, the movies and the media at large.  Three cheers for bloggers who have taken into their own hands the ability to share what’s real for them sexually to create a deeper dialog in the undercurrent of our societal conversation.

So much is stacked against a man who truly wants to have the latest information about how to connect lovingly, erotically and in a state of ONEness with his lover. But for those men whose personal life journey requires he gain this knowledge… Those men will find their way to honest, contemporary, female-positive information like ours and so many others including Sherri Winston, Reid Mihalko, the OneTaste, Welcomed Consensus and More University communities, Jaiya and so many of the local AASECT therapists and counselors who spend their days teaching humans how to own an important part of their humanity… Their Sexuality.

By being here right now, reading this article, you are one of a small percentage of people who actively educate themselves by seeking wisdom, advice and connection to others.  For that I thank you and commend you. I celebrate you for being an eager learner and for continuing your personal growth. Because personal growth isn’t just about your life purpose or the work you do in the world, personal growth is often forged in the crucible of relationships. How you are with others… How you are with yourself… These are personal relationships that push you to become a better, more loving, more heart-centered and compassionate person.

Because of these intimate conversations I have nearly every day of my life except when I’m “off the grid,” I get a lot of inbound information, a lot of data points, a purview across a wide range of men throughout the world. What I’m about to tell you is not from survey data, for that, read “The Normal Bar: The Surprising Secrets of Happy Couples And What They Reveal About Creating A New Normal In Your Relationship” by Chrisanna Northrup, who surveyed 100,000 people to ask them about Getting, Living and Staying Together. A good read  — though the way they interpreted the data comes from where there are in their own sexual and personal growth based on fairly limited and middle-of-the-road perspectives.

What I’m going to tell you, like everyone, comes from the patterns I see in the input I get and the experiences I’ve had: Intimate personal stories from thousands of men, over the course of years wherein they pour their hearts out and ask the questions of us they are too embarrassed or ashamed to ask anyone else.

And here’s what I’ve noticed…

Most of the pain, struggle, unmet desire and lack of connection stems from too little self-confidence. The need for more self-confidence is at the root of nearly every sexual issue.

So how do you get more sexual self-confidence?

These are the 5 most powerful ways to increase your sexual self-confidence.

1. Awareness. 

Become aware of when you are feeling insecure and look for the underlying reason why and address that fear or shame or lack of knowledge head on.

2. Education.

Study human sexuality and learn how it works physically, emotionally and spiritually. Learn anatomy, technique, relationship advice and how to connect with another human through passion and rapture.

3. Evoke your Masculinity or Femininity.

When you cultivate your masculine energy as a man or your feminine energy as a woman, you naturally feel more sensually connected to yourself and become more appealing to others. Become that Alpha Male, ready to protect and provide for your woman. Let go into your Goddess nature for your man and show him your womanliness. This polarity feeds off itself to give you more confidence as a man or as a woman.

4. Practice.

Have more sex.

If you’re single, have SAFE sex with more partners to gain experience making sure you are completely up front with each lover about your sexual history, your current and recent partners and get tested regularly and use safe sex best practices. If you’re in a monogamous relationship, have more sex and experiment with a variety of practices. Use “Sandbox Dates” to learn new things together. If you need some excellent, sweet ideas for Sandbox Dates, there are 21 erotic play dates in Expand Her Orgasm Tonight that you can start with that teach you the fundamentals of orgasmic expansion and peaking as well as touching for rapture and many other foundations of sexual knowledge.

The most important aspect of practice is to “begin as a beginner.” Don’t expect to have answers, just work on questions. Open yourselves to imperfection, trial and error, practice and mastery.

5. Positive Self-Talk and Sexual Leadership

Get out of your negative self-talk and be sweet and forgiving and loving to yourself as you stumble and learn and increase your skills. Nobody knows how to have great sex until they try and learn. Why do you think you should already KNOW? Learn and lead your woman and be gentle and encouraging to yourself and to her. The best process I’ve ever encountered and the one I use myself is the model from Dr. Patti called, “The 4 Keys to Seduction.” If you want to know how to confidently grow your sexual experience with your partner, learn this easy model that will drive your win rate and confidence through the roof.

If you’ve ever wondered why the same technique gets different results on a variety of your lovers, now you know one factor. The nerve wiring on women is as unique as a snowflake. These physical variations of the pelvic nerve vary widely from woman to woman, unlike men whose dorsal penile nerve is more similar.

The most fascinating section of Naomi Wolf’s new book, Vagina, talks about how nerve compression from a back injury led her to seek medical help. She had been orgasmically active her whole adult life and found that her orgasms continued to evolve and get even more sensational. But her joy from sex, the creative energy and sense of vitality after sex began to diminish when her spinal problem became worse.

She sought a gynecologist with a speciality in pelvic nerve disorders, such as vulvodynia. She had back surgery and lucky for her, her emotional happiness from intercourse returned because the nerve pathway from her pudendal nerve to her brain was no longer being blocked.

Pudendal Nerve Damage Can Cause Loss of Genital Sensation and Emotion

Female Pudendal Nerve

The key take away from this news is that you may have untapped areas of your genitalia that could be providing the most wonderful sensations for you based on how you are wired. If you struggle to have one kind of orgasm or another, take heart. It may be your wiring!

That being said, it’s extremely important to become fully engorged before having sex. It’s easy to tell when a man is engorged, because his penis is erect. A woman’s erectile tissue is throughout her genitals. To focus only on her clitoris is to leave 99% of her sensation and orgasmic potential untapped. Make sure her vulva is puffy and fully engorged for maximum pleasure and sensation. She has erectile tissue throughout her vestibular bulbs, inner and out labia, mons venus and up inside where her perineal sponge and urethral sponges are located. Stroke all over, including the insides of her thighs, her belly and her sweet little cheeks and the more fluffy and puffy you make it, the more pleasure she’ll likely feel. Even her clitoris can become erect as it’s a shaft, like the shaft of a man’s penis in miniature.

Here are some Insider’s Club Member’s Only Links to pictures and more information about where these areas are and how best to stroke them for increased sensation.

I suggest you have a selection from which to choose depending on what you’re doing.

There’s been an explosion in sexual lubrication innovation over the last 5 years.  This is good news and bad.

There are now thousands of mind-boggling choices but many of them are filled with noxious chemicals that women do not want to pour onto their delicate parts.

Categorically you can use silicone, oil or water-based lubrications. (Note: Oil-based lubes are not to be used with condoms.)

If you’re doing Expanded Orgasm stroking she might prefer one type of lube on her clitoris with a different lube inside for G-Area stroking. For intercourse a different lube might feel better. During different times of the month one lube might feel better over another. And as a woman matures sexually, her tastes in lube might also change.

I’d suggest you lay in 3 different lubricants as follows:

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A paraben-free water based lubricant excellent for intercourse.

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A silicone lubricant excellent for additional slipperiness when needed.

Look for unscented organic, paraben-free, glycerin-free and organic formulations. Choose lubes with the least number of chemicals that are as natural as possible. Carrageenan is a food-grade seaweed extract used to thicken ice cream that is also found in many high-quality lubricants.

Experiment and see what feels good in various situations.

Susan Bratton is a freaking genius – or, more politely, she is a genius at teaching me how to put the sex into my lovemaking.
She describes the situation I find myself in with my wife. I am too often lazy, or dufus, asking “You wanna make love tonight?” and thinking that’s a much higher level of sensuality and sophistication than my prior three score years of asking “Do you want to f…?”

The barrier is my low EQ – that is my almost complete inability to understand a creature with a full blown human emotionality.

Question: How do we men bridge the emotional gap  between our cave man ways and their needs for more connection? Is that a problem for women? What can men do to overcome it?

Hi Roger,
I have a theory about why women are generally more emotionally connected to their sex than men. The vagus nerve is a major nerve that scientists call the nerve of compassion. It’s the nerve that lets you feel how others feel. It’s also the nerve that manages your autonomic nervous system, regulates your heart rate and how you calm yourself. It runs from your brain to your gut, but in women runs all the way down and connects into our genitals.  That’s why I think women feel more emotion during their sexual connection than do men. At least it’s likely part of it.

So you are right on when you notice women have more emotion around their sexing.  Which, when harnessed, can be incredibly sexy and fun. And when left to run wild, can create more drama and crazy-making than seems fair to men.

The best way to bridge the emotional gap is to talk to her. Feed your woman a steady stream of erotic communication. Tell her what you love about her. Share Favorite Frames. Sharing Frames is a core concept from Personal Life Media found within Expand Her Orgasm Tonight. You can read a Frame here.

Another way to satisfy your woman’s emotional needs is to play this game, “Tell Me Three Things You Love About Me.” I’ve been playing this “game” with my husband for over twenty years. There are an infinite variety of reasons you love your woman, and telling her new reasons every time you “play” cements her confidence in your love even further. When she’s confident you love her deeply, she will be more willing to open to you in your private life.

What is MOST important to satisfying a woman’s emotional needs during lovemaking is to give her approval, reassurance and rewards for expressing her sexuality.

This will keep her calm and secure as she’s expressing her natural sexuality. Reassuring her will help her continue to open to you, instead of contracting out of fear of being considered a slut. She has a LOT of cultural programming and shame to overcome in opening to her desires and acting on what turns her on. Women need a man’s approval repeatedly to feel comfortable with their own giant sexual appetites.

Finally, there are many things you can do when you are not “in flagrante delico”  (making love) that will invite her natural sexuality to blossom for you. You know that romancing a woman increases her sexual desire for you. Romance can be a form of hot foreplay, IF the romantic gestures awaken her sensual body. If you want your romancing to turn her on, use these three kinds of romance strategies as they are more sexual and seductive.

The best way to bridge the gap and fill her emotionally is to share what you do feel and bring your masculine energy, desire and sexual leadership. She doesn’t want you to be emotional and feminine. She wants your hardness to compliment her softness.

You go rock that bed now, Roger.

Love,

Suz

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