I read a blog post recently that talked about how upset a woman was that a man she was “over the moon” about after a few ONLINE exchanges, stood her up. I can get it.

We are so excited when there is new energy being exchanged with a new prospect (especially if we havent had that kind of excitement in a while) that all of our systems turn toward GO. But then we are shocked when things don’t turn out ~ namely he doesn’t even show up for the date. Instead of freaking out and spewing a lot of anger about what he did, we, as Empowered Women, have a few other choices about how to handle the situation:
1) COMPASSION. Instead of allowing ourselves to go into the habitual and mostly unconscious reaction of blaming him for being an ass, we really need to look at having compassion for ourselves and our huge, tender hearts. It is really important that we love that fact that we are willing to trust another, share with another, love another inspite of the fact that we know know very little about the person.

2) WAKE UP. From this place of compassion for ourselves (and him for whatever fears, lies, insecurities he is dealing with - for they are BIG) it is important that we WAKE up to this opportunity to learn something about ourselves. Why are we so quick to be “over the moon” for someone we hardly know? What is it about ourselves, our hearts, our boundaries that we can fall for someone without REALLY knowing who he is?

3) CHOICE. We always have a choice when it comes to how we react (or act) in a situation. If we are going to be FULLY empowered women and serve our family, friends and society toward greater love and peace we must start with ourselves and how we deal with intense emotions that come up. When anger comes, BREATH into the emotion. Cry, write, throw a pillow around, but OWN that emotion. Own the feeling UNDER the anger - FEEL the sadness…and then let it go….
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