Steve answers my question ,”What is holding me back?”
He says,
“My wife is a one time per week gal, usually. Only once per night.
It has been a long time since I’ve been able to do it twice on the same evening. We’re both 65 now.
Most of the time it seems she is sore and irritated after the first and is unwilling to go again.
We get “dry” pretty fast, I think. I don’t notice and she won’t say.”
THERE IS AN ANSWER!
“It seems if she is inflamed or irritated or sore, she will get a bladder infection pretty easy.
I am showered and clean on 99.99% of our intimacies so I don’t think its me.
I do like to eat her. I asked if she thought she could be allergic to me, she said probably not.
So that’s where I am. I don’t know that I can overcome her medical issues.
What say you? Would your program work for me?”
Steve.
Hi Steve,
Thanks for the detailed info. It helps me help you a lot.
I would suggest you get Revive Her Drive and read the short ebooks and then take your time listening to each of the audio interviews to build your understanding of how to escalate her arousal and to communicate with her during lovemaking better. After taking your time to listen to all the wisdom in that program (you can download the audios to your smartphone to listen on the go, or listen right from your web browser) it will be much more clear to you how to get her to be much more sexually active and excited to be with you, which will in turn help with her vaginal sensitivities.
Her dryness is coming from one or two things. You can fix both. The first is that she’s not turned on enough and gets dry. You are rushing through sex too fast for her to get lubricated AND you need to add lubrication early and reapply often.
Since she’s 65, she’s through menopause but her vaginal tissues are friable and delicate. You can go with her to an endocrinologist/gynecologist and get her some topical estrogen creme for her vaginal canal. That will soften and make the tissues more resilient. But the VERY BEST thing you can do to get her juicy again is start an Expanded Orgasm practice with her. More on that below.
What A Guy Can Do About His Partner’s Post-Menopausal Vagina
I’m going to give you a little lecture right now… and this is not your fault because you didn’t know, but now you know and you have to change: “I don’t notice and she won’t say,” is a recipe for a disastrous sex life. It is your job as the masculine sexual leader to “notice” how she is doing throughout your lovemaking. You are her guardian sexual angel. You must be aware of her biofeedback — what her body is telling you — as well as asking her how she is doing. Read this article, Two Option Leading and the articles to which links to learn how to communicate better in bed.
Two Option Leading is a concept that comes from our program, The Seduction Trilogy. This is a fantastic program of three ebooks and audio books that teaches you how to seduce your wife in a long term relationship. I don’t want to overwhelm you and it seems like your wife is willing to have sex, so just start with this free ebook “More Sex, More Often” that explains, “Making Small Offers.” Just adding that one technique you can learn for free will get you started. You can come back to this program anytime and add it in, but you should focus first on Revive Her Drive and Expand Her Orgasm Tonight.
Getting yourself educated about how to lead a woman in bed to respark the marriage is what Revive Her Drive is all about. The sister program to Revive Her Drive is called, Expand Her Orgasm Tonight.
You can work both of these simultaneously -educating yourself with Revive Her Drive as you lead her slowly through the 21 Sandbox Dates to learn how to have an Expanded Orgasm practice together.
Expanded Orgasm is a genital massage technique that engorges a woman’s vulva. It essentially gives her a vaginal erection. She needs that erectile tissue in her sex organs to be stimulated so the blood puffs up her pussy and makes it wet – that is what engorgement means. Imagine if you had to have sex with a limp penis? You wouldn’t do so well, right? Same with her. If her genitals are not well engorged, she’s going to be dry and sore from intercourse.
The technique I’m suggesting you learn with you wife is called an Expanded Orgasm. Once you follow these easy stroke patterns and rub her how Dr. Patti teaches you in the videos, not only will her pussy be all puffy and feel juicy and incredible over time, the moment of her climax will start to last longer and longer. You will stack her orgasms on top of each other and each subsequent orgasm you give her from this fingering technique will be longer, deeper and more intense.
All that coming will make it such that when you have intercourse with her, using lube, it will be wetter, slipperier, and feel much more erotic to her. Then she will want more sex with you. Because she will be enjoying it rather than worrying that it will give her a bladder infection.
As you are able to ramp up her orgasms with this Expanded Orgasm stroking practice, over time you may be able to give her G-Spot stimulation that allows her to ejaculate. Female ejaculation is an excellent “cure” for bladder infections for many women. As the ejaculate comes out of her urethra, it cleans that canal out of any bacteria that got in from the intercourse. Getting her to squirt can make her whole female ecosystem more active and healthy.
In the future, add our program, Female Liquid Orgasm, which is a home study course with videos, just like Expand Her Orgasm Tonight. They go hand in hand. Do Female Liquid Orgasm after you mastered Expanded Orgasm.
You must TAKE YOUR TIME with all of this. I’ve just mapped out a couple years worth of learning that you two can do to have fun together.
John A. and his wife have been on this journey and he writes to me every few months with total excitement at how thrilled they are as a couple to learn this Expanded Orgasm practice together. The 21 Sandbox Dates slowly teach you both how to give and receive the kind of pleasure that builds into this multiple orgasm juicy long coming experience.
Once she’s having Expanded Orgasms, she will be able to have a lot more intercourse because her vaginal tissues will be in excellent health from all the engorgement and she’ll be all turned on from those expanded orgasms and she’s going to want you inside her much more frequently.
At 65 you two are still in great shape to have sex another 20 years at least. So lay in this knowledge now for your sexual renaissance.
Men LOVE to come their women really well. You just need to set the foundation of your leadership skills with Revive Her Drive and take the Expanded Orgasm journey together.
We are here every step of the way to support your sexual expansion, including now offering one-on-one couples sex coaching over Skype or the phone.
Please don’t skips steps here though or it will backfire and you could alienate your wife and actually get LESS sex than you are now. In general, men try to go for the goal as fast as possible, when in this case, the slow, erotic ramp up is what will pay off for you.
Please let me know if anything I suggested is not clear to you.
Here are the links to put all of these programs into your membership library.
They stay forever and you’ll always have the latest versions in your account to access from any computer or smart phone.
First: Revive Her Drive
Second: Expand Her Orgasm Tonight
Option: PLM Sex, Love and Intimacy Coaches
Free eBook: The Seduction Trilogy
Future: Female Liquid Orgasm
As you can see, our programs are an interlocking system that supports couples in having the best sex of their lives.
Thank you again for writing. Sending you much sexcess!
