7 Relationships Mistakes Most Couples Are Making…

Let’s talk more about intimate communication.

How we speak with our partner/potential partner is essential to create a beautiful relationship with them.

When we neglect proper communication, we leave our relationship open to cracks and holes that will only get bigger.

But when handled nicely, it will keep the whole thing together much longer. And make it a much more fun experience.

Here are seven ways to make love work, according to Carolyn N. Bushong, author of “The 7 Dumbest Relationship Mistakes Smart People Make.”

1. Stop forcing intimacy and start letting love evolve.
2. Stop expecting your mate to read your mind and start communicating precisely what you feel and want.
3. Stop playing the martyr and start refusing to be abused.
4. Stop assuming you’re always right and open your mind.
5. Stop rescuing your mate and control your own life.
6. Stop taking your mate for granted and start respecting your love.
7. Stop letting passion die and vow to keep falling in love repeatedly—more on my thoughts on this list when you scroll down.

But I’d like to take this time to let you know that communication has always been central to how I teach fans to heal, strengthen, and revive their soulmate relationships. 

I dig much deeper into the role of communication (and a lot more) in my programs. Here are a few of them.

Soulmate Secret Sauce ⇐ The REAL Secret To Deep Love, Pure Passion, And Total Dedication To Each Other

Sexual Soulmates ⇐ How Men And Women Can Co-Create An Authentic Sexual Soulmate Relationship That Knows No Bounds 

Passion Patch ⇐ How A Man Can Ignite Passion In A Woman In 30 Seconds 

Revive Her Drive With This ⇐ How To Ignite Passion And Intimacy Back Into Your Relationship

BE SMART

When I read this list, I realized that the two things a couple can focus on are being honest, having vulnerable communication, and remembering to stay romantically connected.

It’s horrifying to realize how much of what you say is not your truth. And it’s liberating to begin speaking your truth, especially to your partner.

HONESTY

Brad Blanton’s book, Practicing Radical Honesty, will illuminate the trance you’re living under, and being radically honest isn’t as scary as it sounds. Baby steps, my friend.

Once you become honest with each other and stop walking on eggshells, your relationship will be much more exciting and intimate. 

The hardest part about honesty is admitting our defects, such as pettiness, jealousy, insecurity, and those other deadly feelings that pluck at our core fears. 

Our core fears came from our childhood experiences, and we can rise above them once we become aware that they are creating reactions that don’t jibe with how we want to be in the world with our partner and in general. Core fears are feelings of inadequacy, rejection, insignificance, abandonment, and other emotions we hate to feel. 

Once we realize we can sustain the sensation of those fears, that they are triggers, and we, along with our partner, can get right with them, the benefits of honest relating supplant and minimize those fears.

Honesty is the salve for our existential wounds. So open up, be vulnerable, and own your fears. That’s all they are… just feelings. And your partner can help you see clearly once you identify them. So move toward being as honest as possible and watch your relationship become more rewarding and supportive.

ROMANCE

Romance is the action of focusing on making her feel your love — both emotional and physical —because this feeling strengthens the bond between lovers, connecting you through your hearts. Romancing your partner is a gift you give yourself, too. 

Keeping score is fruitless — love is immeasurable. And it doesn’t matter if you first do “all the work” of romancing your partner. Keep at it; soon, they will be romancing you back because romance is irresistible.

The more you give, the more you’ll get. Start giving freely, and you’ll see that more of your day is love-filled, sweet, and happy. Teach your partner how to love you back in ways you most enjoy. Romantic gestures range from subtle flirting to outright seduction to vulnerable declarations of love.

Tell your lover explicitly the joy you get from romancing them. You don’t do it to get anything; you do it for the pleasure of seeing them thrill to your advances. This joy you generate will naturally evolve into more opportunities for sexual intimacy.

Get into the present time when you are being romantic. Move toward being right in the moment with your lover, fully present. Let go of your final plan for a romantic encounter and just go with the flow of their reactions. That way, whatever you do will feel natural instead of forced or pre-planned. Leave some space for spontaneity in the creation of your romantic plans.

The 5 PILLARS OF PASSION

Five kinds of romantic activities can increase your passion and intimacy.

Mindfulness is what I described above about being present with your partner.

Rather than letting your mind race ahead, be in the moment.

Sensate connection involves the senses. Feed your lover. Touch her. Play sexy music. 

Erotic communication is straightforward. TELL your partner what you love about them.

Declarations are verbal commitments to your love for each other. They are statements of commitment.

And Playful Adventures are the zest that keeps it fun. Getting out in nature is the best way to create a romantic experience you’ll never forget.

Below are links to more profound knowledge about how to keep romance and passion alive in your relationship: 

Soulmate Secret Sauce ⇐ The REAL Secret To Deep Love, Pure Passion, And Total Dedication To Each Other.

Sexual Soulmates ⇐ How Men And Women Can Co-Create Authentic Sexual Soulmate Relationship That Knows No Bounds 

Passion Patch ⇐ How A Man Can Ignite Passion In A Woman In 30 Seconds 

Revive Her Drive With This ⇐ How To Ignite Passion And Intimacy Back Into Your Relationship