How To Enhance Your Sex Life With A Vibrator

NOTE: Don’t miss the part about “Orgasmic Cross Training” below.

Herman asks, “I want to spice it up in the bedroom with my girl. What’s the best massager/vibrator on the market these days?”

VIBRATOR ADVICE

Since every woman is different, it’s best to try a few vibrators to find your favorite.

The motors in different vibrators cycle fast and buzzy to slow and deep.

There are some that are made to go inside her vagina versus others more appropriator for external clitoral stimulation.

There is also a difference between a dildo and a vibrator. Dildos are shaped like penises and don’t vibrate. Vibrators, of course, vibrate and can be shaped like penises but also come in a variety of shapes.

A lot of women like a dildo inside their vaginal canal and a vibrator on their clitoris at the same time.

Luckily, most vibrators are inexpensive enough that you can try a few to see what you like.

Sometimes women appreciate an arsenal of toys at their disposal so they can match their toy to their mood.

One thing to watch out for is deploying the vibrator too early in your sexual date. The vibe can “exhaust” her clitoris pretty quickly and then she is done having sex.

VIBRATOR FOREPLAY

Try this structure or find your own variation of it:

Give her a massage.

Engorge her vulva with your hands and tongue.

Enjoy some oral pleasuring.

Then have intercourse and use a position where she can hold the vibrator while you penetrate her.

Another fun way to integrate toys into your lovemaking would be again to warm her genitals up and get the blood flowing with oral or manual sucking, licking and rubbing and then put a dildo inside her while you play with her clitoris manually. Then add in the vibrator once she’s really writhing around.

Try penetrating her from behind while she holds the vibrator on her clitoris and gets herself off.

You can also talk sexy to her, tell her how gorgeous she is, while you’re fingering her g-area and all around inside her vagina with your fingers while holding the vibrator on her clit as you do so.

Every woman likes a different place around her clitoral area stimulated with the vibe. She will have a certain pressure that she wants — often starting light and adding pressure.

Over time, she can have multiple orgasms from this kind of slow build up.

What you don’t want to do is become reliant on the vibrator as the only or “best” way to make her come.

Getting good fingering, tongue and penis skills and having her cross train her orgasmic response will increase the ways she can orgasm.

ORGASMIC CROSS TRAINING

Sheri Winston, author of Succulent SexCraft explains orgasmic cross training in this way:

You can create new paths to arousal by doing what already works to get you turned on.

Bring yourself to medium or high arousal with the stimulation that works well and simultaneously add in the new stimulation.

Repeat the double stimulation many times. This tricks your brain into believing that both forms of stimulation produce the same response.

Then intermittently stop the old way and keep doing the new way, while imagining you are doing both. If your arousal drops, add the old way back in for a bit.

Eventually your brain won’t know the difference between the old and new way.

Every woman can have orgasms just from thinking about it, from nipple stimulation, from kissing… the sky is the limit.

Orgasmic Cross Trainer Champion.

The JimmyJane vibrator line is my personal favorite because they are known in the industry for the quality of their motors. They are more expensive, but they last for a really long time and the motors give such a nice vibe.