How To Overcome Your Sexual Insecurities
I’m a 21 year old senior in college and I need some advice. For whatever reason, I have yet to really figure out how to get the attention of women…
I understand that I am fairly attractive and from research I guess I have a fairly large penis at 7.5 inches and 4.8 around.
One time I messed around with a woman and she said I was tiny. It really messed my head up. The next time I was able to woo a woman, I kept losing my erection, condom or no condom.
Rarely ever does someone say something bad about me whether its family, friends, coaches, or teachers. I guess I care about my name so much I can’t live with rejection.
My best friend’s girlfriend told me that the way I speak turns off women at school because it sounds like I’m trying to hard or I am not talking simple enough. I can’t help it, I read the dictionary as a child. I never wanted to be a dumb person, especially since I’m black. I’ve made it a personal conquest to be knowledgeable so that no one would ever doubt my intelligence, period.
But now I realize those efforts were admirable, yet a waste in successfully socializing with women.
How can I get past my social and sexual insecurities?
I am far too capable of great things to sit in the back. I just need to know how to get past myself. I have yet to find out how to talk to women the way I want to.
- Name Withheld.
Dear Name Withheld,
Thank you for writing. Try this. Get out of your head and connect more intimately with people in general and sexually attractive women specifically:
Focus on others.
Know that vulnerabilities are appealing to others because they realize you are human with a frail ego like theirs and they actually like you MORE for being real with them.
Catch yourself every time you are behaving for what you imagine someone else expects of you.
Then RETHINK your actions and do what your heart tells you, not what you project others expect of you.
Remember, stop thinking so much and self analyzing.
Start focusing on the positive things you’re doing, like working on your degree, figuring out your life’s ambition, being loving to your friends and family, opening your heart to love.
Love yourself. Love others.
Finally, forgive and forget that girl who said your dick was small. What if she was totally intimidated by you and just mean enough to want to belittle you to make herself feel better?
You know most guys would kill for a 7” dick. Well, so would all the women out there.
So pull yourself up, mature into who you are becoming and go out and exercise your heart muscle and your penis.
Once you stop the voices in your head by focusing on positive momentum, you will be magnetically attracting women who want a good, smart man.
And enjoy this time in your life to play around with a lot of women.
Find SMART brainaic women who will respect your intelligence, not try to bring you down to their level.
One of my favorite quotes is from Janis Joplin. She says, “Don’t compromise yourself, you’re all you’ve got.”
Be yourself. Get some experience. Just do it out of love and respect.
I respect you for being smart enough to know to ask for help.
I hope I’ve helped you. Let me know how you do.
Warning: Don’t ever go without a condom unless you’re in a fluid-bonded, std-tested relationship. Read our Reality-Based Safe Sex Guide now because if you do what I outlined above (write it down and put it in your wallet). . . You are about to have some great sex that just keeps getting better.