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How To Satisfy Her Emotional Needs During Lovemaking

Susan Bratton is a freaking genius – or, more politely, she is a genius at teaching me how to put the sex into my lovemaking.
She describes the situation I find myself in with my wife. I am too often lazy, or dufus, asking “You wanna make love tonight?” and thinking that’s a much higher level of sensuality and sophistication than my prior three score years of asking “Do you want to f…?”

The barrier is my low EQ – that is my almost complete inability to understand a creature with a full blown human emotionality.

And why is it so hard for me to understand why she doesn’t particularly want to make love to a Neanderthal? Yes she loves me enough to accommodate me occaisionally, but she’s the real deal, and I’m the pet dog when it comes to emotional depth.
I am blessed that I am figuring it out to some degree; and Susan knows the answers.

Question: How do we men bridge the emotional gap  between our cave man ways and their needs for more connection? Is that a problem for women? What can men do to overcome it?

Hi Roger,
I have a theory about why women are generally more emotionally connected to their sex than men. The

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is a major nerve that scientists call the nerve of compassion. It’s the nerve that lets you feel how others feel. It’s also the nerve that manages your autonomic nervous system, regulates your heart rate and how you calm yourself. It runs from your brain to your gut, but in women runs all the way down and connects into our genitals.  That’s why I think women feel more emotion during their sexual connection than do men. At least it’s likely part of it.

So you are right on when you notice women have more emotion around their sexing.  Which, when harnessed, can be incredibly sexy and fun. And when left to run wild, can create more drama and crazy-making than seems fair to men.

The best way to bridge the emotional gap is to talk to her. Feed your woman a steady stream of erotic communication. Tell her what you love about her. Share Favorite Frames. Sharing Frames is a core concept from Personal Life Media found within Expand Her Orgasm Tonight. You can read a Frame here.

Another way to satisfy your woman’s emotional needs is to play this game, “Tell Me Three Things You Love About Me” I’ve been playing this “game” with my husband for over twenty years. There are an infinite variety of reasons you love your woman, and telling her new reasons every time you “play” cements her confidence in your love even further. When she’s confident you love her deeply, she will be more willing to open to you in your private life.

What is MOST important to satisfying a woman’s emotional needs during lovemaking is to give her approval, reassurance and rewards for expressing her sexuality.

This will keep her calm and secure as she’s expressing her natural sexuality. Reassuring her will help her continue to open to you, instead of contracting out of fear of being considered a slut. She has a LOT of cultural programming and shame to overcome in opening to her desires and acting on what turns her on. Women need a man’s approval repeatedly to feel comfortable with their own giant sexual appetites.

Finally, there are many things you can do when you are not “in flagrante delico”  (making love) that will invite her natural sexuality to blossom for you. You know that romancing a woman increases her sexual desire for you. Romance can be a form of hot foreplay, IF the romantic gestures awaken her sensual body. If you want your romancing to turn her on, use these three kinds of romance strategies as they are more sexual and seductive.

The best way to bridge the gap and fill her emotionally is to share what you do feel and bring your masculine energy, desire and sexual leadership. She doesn’t want you to be emotional and feminine. She wants your hardness to compliment her softness.

You go rock that bed now, Roger.

Love,

Suz

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2 Responses

  1. I have been reading your teaching specially directed to men most often but I have discovered that most women do not understand their body especially from African setting at least those I am aware off. I know it could be lack of exposure or culture. How can one be of assistance specially to his wife?
    Thanks

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