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How To Get Her Mind To Relax So She Can Enjoy Lovemaking

How To Get Her Mind To Relax So She Can Enjoy Lovemaking

Have you or your lover ever wrestled with getting your mind off your responsibilities so you could focus on your lovemaking date?

Thoughts about everyday life can muscle their way in and intrude on the passion you want to create together.

Harry and Kate are a very close couple. Kate is very affectionate to him and he is like her knight in shining armor, always looking out for her best interests. You can feel the romantic energy between them, the sweetness of their relationship.

The other morning, they had a lovemaking date but Kate was feeling the tug of her day’s agenda. Even though she was looking forward to relaxing into a hot, passionate time with Harry, her mind kept wandering back to her “action item list.” She was struggling to get out of her mind and into her body for the two precious hours she’d earmarked for intimacy. They were a working couple who found it helpful to schedule some of their “dates” and they both liked anticipating the date, thinking ahead about what kinds of pleasure they’d like to have together.

Kate gave her man some ideas to help her relax and be present. Acknowledging her own struggle helped her mentally commit to the date. She asked for a back rub to release some tension she was holding. She needed to be held for a while before they even kissed, just to relax and remember how much she loved to be in Harry’s arms. He gave her The Best Hug In The World.

Harry calculated the time they had together and took ownership of watching and leading her through their date so she knew she wouldn’t be late and could just ignore the clock… Harry owned the timekeeping.

By owning the “plan” for the date, he was the sexual leader, allowing Kate to relax further, and just “ride his ride.” This let her surrender to the sensations in her body to feel even more pleasure.

Harry took the lead in moving her through the date from massage to hugging to kissing to the various lovemaking positions they enjoy as well as leaving time at the end for catching their breath and expressing their appreciation to each other.

The single most powerful technique Harry used to help Kate relax was his voice. He talked her through her relaxation, told her how beautiful she was as he massaged her, expressed his love as he held her, told her what he was going to do to her next as he made love to her, told her how good things felt as he experienced them… This low, deep, conversational story kept her mind in the present, feeling what Harry was feeling. How could her mind wander if she was occupied appreciating what he was appreciating, basking in his expressions of love, hearing how sexy she was to him?

Sweet talk, soothing words of encouragement and declarations of your love sprinkled throughout your lovemaking session will lead her to stay in the moment and give her a very satisfying experience. Erotic Communication is one of the Five Pillars of Passion, one of the five actions women find most romantic.

Does it seem odd to you to be this pre-meditated about a lovemaking date? It might be if you are holding your lovemaking to the unachievable standard of being spontaneous. Spontaneity is hot and passionate, but it’s also going to limit your chances to make love. Making dates can be just as fun, even more fun if you two romance each other leading up to your erotic play date.

To Erotic Presence.

With love,
Patricia Taylor

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