Sandbox Date from Expand Her Orgasm Tonight “Sharing Favorite Frames”
I want to share one of the 21 Erotic Play Dates that take you both up the learning curve together to Expanded Orgasm dates. All twenty one are listed below.
This couples sex-learning date” is called, “Sharing Favorite Frames.”
Frames are a descriptive snapshot of shared experience.
If your woman enjoys it when you talk to her, and you enjoy talking about sex together…
The Favorite Frames technique expands and deepens your experience.
A frame is like the frame or border around a picture – it’s a snapshot in time or a short time sequence.
I like to share favorite frames after making love so my partner can take even more pleasure in experiencing my experience as I tell him about it.
People find they enjoy re-living specific date experiences, and also they find they can enjoy new details that they missed at the time.
You might think this happens only when you hear your partner’s frames, but I think you’ll find that when you share a frame, you will recall something you missed at the time.
Talk about your experience during (if appropriate), and afterwards:
This is done in a specific way.
Each of you shares one specific frame —or snapshot in time — of the experience, that relates to something you felt in your body, that you really enjoyed.
For example, John might say, “Sue, when I hugged you more tightly as we kissed, I noticed you relaxing and letting go. I felt a warm rush of energy and love for you.”
And then Sue might say, “John, when you took me in your arms, I felt my whole body sink down to a new level of letting go and opening up, and this rush of sensation came up through my pussy, that then shot right up into my belly, like white-hot heat.”
As you’re getting started, I recommend you share frames relating to your dates such as:
• How the room looked or felt
• The music you liked, and its effect on you
• Specifics about your partner’s appearance that pleased you
• And your experiences during the physical and communication components of the date
At other times, you may find it fun to share frames around non-date moments, such as how delighted you were when he fixed your computer or how much you enjoyed being surprised when she cooked your favorite dinner – and even cleaned up afterward.
Note: “Hi, this is Susan, commenting on Dr. Patti’s post here. I can tell you that sharing frames with Tim is one of my favorite sexy things to do with him. It’s like a “post mortem” or a look backward through the senses of your body. Try it! Be willing to be a beginner together. She’ll really enjoy you sharing your sensual experience of your time with her.”
A lot of people ask me what the Erotic Sandbox Dates are called in Expand Her Orgasm Tonight. You can scan them here:
- Sharing Favorite Frames
- The Centering Breath (The Grounding Cycle)
- The Centering Breath (Short Form)
- Entraining Your Being with Your Heart
- Red Dot Exercise
- Responsible Grounding after the Date
- Touching with Feedback
- Asking for Changes
- Questions to Consider and Discuss
- Genital Grounding (grounding at the end of the date)
- The Clock Method Process
- Breathing Together
- Play Stop/Start
- Touch for Rapture
- The Spreading Breath
- The Three Opening Strokes
- Touching from Center to Center (Touching All of You with All of Me)
- Basic Kinds of Touches
- Basic Strokes
- Feel Your Thinking/Think Your Feelings
- Alternative Do Positions and Special Situations